Very o/t but when do you think kids

[kiki02]

are too old to be on the Christmas Holiday card? (

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[clh2]

Do you mean on a picture of the holiday card - or part of the signature on the holiday card?

I have a DD that is in college - we will continue to add her name to our cards until she had graduated, and for that Christmas card will probably do something fun - related to her college graduation. But after that...she's off the card!

 

[bumbershoot]

I don't do holiday cards, but receiving them I would say kids should be off once they aren't a part of your family. So...never too old.

The other thing is if they aren't nearby to sign or be in a picture. Off to college more than a quick visit away? Not possible anymore. Living in your house post grad school? Possible.

Now if they live nearby, have families of their own, and the two of you are sending holiday cards out to the same people, maybe it's time those adult kids aren't on your cards anymore. But honestly, if I received two such cards I would just think it was cute.

 

[delilah]

are too old to be on the Christmas Holiday card? (

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Like how? You mean listed as a family member? Or a picture on the front of the card? I would say forever for listing as a family member if they are still living at home, with the parents. My husband's cousin's daughter and her son live with her parents. She is not married. So we just send one card to the entire household, and wouldn't expect a separate card/gift/whatever from her. She is 35, going on 36 on Dec 12. As far as picture on the front of the card, probably until he/she graduates from high school. If you are doing a family picture, once again, forever, if he/she is a part of the household.

In the same way, our neighbors had an elderly mother living with them. She was listed on the card until she passed away. If they had a family picture included with her card, she was in it. My grandfather's sister passed away last October, and she was 103, and her daughter sent her picture along with the card.

 

[NancyIL]

I still sign birthday and Christmas cards with the names of all my kids, even though the oldest 2 live out of town. I figure when they get married - I'll drop their names from my cards.

 

[bumbershoot]

Aha. Coloring my view is that I don't sign anyone else's name when I write a card. The person in question signs their own name (assuming they can write). So if they aren't there to sign, they aren't represented by signature on the card. If we had one family name it would be simple to say "from the whatever family", but we don't. DH and I kept our own names and DS is hyphenated. So even that route isn't one we can simply take.

 

[maggiew]

My kids will be on our Christmas cards until they are married or living on their own (not including college).

My oldest DD is 21 and a senior in college. My younger DD is 18 and a freshmen in college. They are both on the family picture on our cards. I sign everyones name or they would never get sent out!!!

Maggie

 

[mdrob214]

Aha. Coloring my view is that I don't sign anyone else's name when I write a card. The person in question signs their own name (assuming they can write). So if they aren't there to sign, they aren't represented by signature on the card. If we had one family name it would be simple to say "from the whatever family", but we don't. DH and I kept our own names and DS is hyphenated. So even that route isn't one we can simply take.

We just sign first names. Kids can be on the card until you decide it's time they not be. I don't think there's a rule.

 

[pat fan]

When the kids are creeped out by it!

The last card with our kids on it was the year after our oldest DS graduated college. Youngest was still in HS but they both were like "STOP putting us on the Christmas card!" So now it's a pretty card with just mine and DH's name or if we do something spectacular we will do a picture card with just us. One exception will be if we do a big family trip and have a picture of all of us together I would use that.

I must say my sister still puts her kids & now her grandkids on her card, and I admit I find that creepy and annoying. I mean, they are in their 30's for Pete's sake! Guess I'm glad my kids put their foot down! LOL!

 

[blessedby3]

All of our kids are on our family Christmas card. They are still our children whether they are under our roof or not
Our oldest is 23...youngest is 6. Oldest got married a yr and a half ago and she and her new hubby were on our card last year and again this year. They also send out one of just them to their friends.
I wouldnt have it any other way

 

[danielle79]

I don't know exactly how I feel about this. My kids are all part of the picture and I usually have mine printed "The XYZ Family" I guess when they dont live at home (not college) I would take the name off and expect them to send cards on their own. However it does kind of annoy me when my husband's step-mom signs her grown son's(not my husband) name to the card, he does still live at home but probably shouldn't! My other pet peeve is when I do sign my kid's first names on the card and my extended family sends a holiday card back with all of the names misspelled!

 

[findmewdw]

My DD is a freshman in college and I will be putting a pic of her with my DS, who is 15, on our card this year. I will continue until they are married or until they say, "Mom you are crazy!" I created my card last weekend and my kids loved doing it. So, I think we're good for a few more years.

 

[OrangeBirdFan]

I'm 29 and I'm still included in my family's Christmas cards. I haven't lived at home since college and have sent out my own cards with my boyfriend (I was attending grad school so financial aid meant marriage did not make a ton of sense) but I've still been included in our cards. I'll continue to pose for the pictures until someone else decides against it. But then I am one of six so we have our own weird dynamics. The cards have almost always been of the children instead of the whole family so that may factor into things; regardless of how old I am, my parents will still have six children. I guess it all depends on family dynamics. I know if I refused to be part of the picture, the youngest would be hurt.

 

[mommy22pumpkins]

Maybe I'm just really out of touch. But I'll keep my kids in the Christmas picture as long as they'll let me Always your babies

 

[nycdisneygal]

We have a family friend that includes a pic of the whole family--even after their oldest got married and was expecting a baby of her own! It was cute.
Oh my parents always have a family pic of all of us--including my DH and DD to send in a card to their families back home.

 

[DCbride]

I do a kids picture each year on our card- they are 24 (away at grad school), 22 (away at college) and 6 (home, hehe). Most of the time we make a big deal out of the day we take the picture, but last year it was a collage of the year.

 

[irishsharon]

Maybe I'm just really out of touch. But I'll keep my kids in the Christmas picture as long as they'll let me Always your babies

Awwwww

 

[Zandy595]

I think, until they no longer live with you. If they're in college and will still come home for holidays and summers, they still get included. If they have their own house/apartment and pay their own mortgage/rent they can send out their own cards if they want to.

Now if they're still living with mom and dad when they're in their late 20's or older and capable of being on their own I would probably not include them.

 

[JessM]

Once I graduated from college I started sending out all my own cards and my Mom stopped including me on theirs.

 

[disneychrista]

I don't do cards but I would say if they are not living in the household then they do not belong on the cards sent from that household.