Venting For MYSELF.

[RaggedyAnnPrincess]

STOP attacking shelby , you cannot tell her to get off of a thread .

You POSTED A THREAD , do you know what that IS?
Its not a pity party .

When you post a thread you are opening the door to many different opinions and if you dont like some of them then suck it up cause you cant do anything about it because shes doing NOTHING wrong .

Anyway shelby is right, a little time off of the computer would be a good idea .

Sort your ideas , think about it .

Im not saying dont go on the computer, just less time .

You need to end the relationship with this girl , you cannot toy with her emotions any longer . What you are doing is WRONG and CRUEL to her , its not fair to her .

I dont care if im making you "more upset about the subject" im saying what i feel about the subject that you posted a thread on.

 

[IrishTink]

STOP attacking shelby , you cannot tell her to get off of a thread .

You POSTED A THREAD , do you know what that IS?
Its not a pity party .

When you post a thread you are opening the door to many different opinions and if you dont like some of them then suck it up cause you cant do anything about it because shes doing NOTHING wrong .

Anyway shelby is right, a little time off of the computer would be a good idea .

Sort your ideas , think about it .

Im not saying dont go on the computer, just less time .

You need to end the relationship with this girl , you cannot toy with her emotions any longer . What you are doing is WRONG and CRUEL to her , its not fair to her .

I dont care if im making you "more upset about the subject" im saying what i feel about the subject that you posted a thread on.

i agree completely. i think you really do need some time away from the computer to sort all this stuff out. this wont be easy for you to get over, it will be tough because of this lifestyle of lying you created. but you can do it. good luck!

 

[DramaQueen]

First I'll say it's good that you're owning up to your mistakes and trying to get your life back on track.

That being said, you really need to severe ties with your internet girlfriend...for HER sake. It's not fair that this poor girl thinks that she has someone to talk to her and who loves and acres about her, when really it's just a bunch of lies. It's cruel. You need to find a way to let her go. You don't ever need to tell her who you really are, because that would just hurt her even more.

You really do need to get your stuff sorted out and honestly, it's probably a good idea to get rid of any fake AIM/whatever website accounts, and maybe just stay away from websites where you might be tempted to lie. Just talk to your RL friends on AIM for a while or your DIS friends, friends that you won't be tempted to lie to.

That's my 2 cents about the matter.
And when you make a thread asking for advice/venting, don't always expect everyone to agree with you or take pity on you, when you vent/ask for advice, you'll get good advice, even if its not what you want to hear.

 

[tinkerbell12]

It's courageous and a big step to begin to see your problems.
That's the beginning.

I'll just say I know how you feel because I do.
I did what you did.
But I stopped because I had to. I got off the internet for a while.
I'd ruined a lot of stuff so I had gotten off. I'd cut contact with people for about 5 months.
Now some of those people still talk to me, some don't.
I, as you keep saying, made a mistake also but I understood it and I was glad it was stopped.
You have to delete those accounts.

You should tell your girfriend that you're really a girl. It could make things worse, she could understand, there are many options. But if you don't feel comfortable, you could at least say you don't think it's working out (like someone said) and leave. Don't talk to her again if you choose. It's like blocking a number from your phone.

The internet is a very easy thing to get carried away with. It's easy to open accounts, to create new identities, even reveal your own. It's dangerous and it can be easily messed with. Lying is easy. Faking is easy. But then again so is the truth, so is being yourself and having a good time.

Another thing- I read about this in Seventeen magazine. There was a girl who felt like a guy, acted like a guy, and never felt right about being a girl. That girl changed her name, attitude, outfit, and became, pretty much, a guy. There's nothing wrong with doing that. If you feel right doing that, go for it. Go ahead. It might make your life easier and you would probably feel better.

Katie had a point with her thread talk. If you open a thread, you are opening a whole pluthera of opinions. The opinions of others aren't always rude, they're just not what you want to hear. Don't tell Shelby she's rude for stating her opinion, or anyone else. She's stating her opinion, as is Katie and Hilary and everyone else who didn't tell you that you'll be fine, that it may be harder to get happy ever after than you thought.

 

[am-pm]

OK i know some people are going to flame me and whatnot just because I am going to say what I am about to say, but oh well lol.

So I have to say I feel bad for her, but I mean yes she does need to think about what she has done. However, I also feel that she has punished herself and has thought about it greatly, so saying she needs to spend time away from the computer, etc is in a pointless. We have talked so I feel that I really do not need to give her advice on here.

Ok, so now it's the time where I have to voice my concerns about how some people have reacted over this thread. Before some people are like we have the right to say what we want and such, I know you do, so yeah. What i do not like is how one person told the poster of this thread to get off the computer, which the poster of this thread replied by saying she does not need rude answers. Later, another poster told the one person that she should get off this thread, which the one person retorted by saying you do not have the right to tell me to get of the thread. Technically, speaking, they do, but it is not nice, I admit that. What's more, you do not have to listen to them, so saying something back was needless. The thing that troubles me with that though is that the one person seems to think that they can dish out stuff, but people cannot tell her to do things. I am sorry to say, but if you can tell people what to do, then they have the right to do the same back. Now I know some people are saying the poster of this thread wants like smileys and people to feel sorry for her, but that is NOT the case. All she wants is advice, ONLY advice. By thinking she wants anything more is reading into something that has no extra meaning.

Finally, what I want to say is, some people may be saying truthful things, but there is a proper way to word them. I mean, I am all for honesty, and I know the poster of this thread is too (she is ready to accept any and all critiques), but there is a difference between saying things civilly and respectfully, and crude and inconsiderate. So all I ask is for people to word things nicer, so that we can all be somewhat happy.

Thank you for your time and I am sorry if I got anyone upset.

 

[Sparx]

OK i know some people are going to flame me and whatnot just because I am going to say what I am about to say, but oh well lol.

So I have to say I feel bad for her, but I mean yes she does need to think about what she has done. However, I also feel that she has punished herself and has thought about it greatly, so saying she needs to spend time away from the computer, etc is in a pointless. We have talked so I feel that I really do not need to give her advice on here.

Ok, so now it's the time where I have to voice my concerns about how some people have reacted over this thread. Before some people are like we have the right to say what we want and such, I know you do, so yeah. What i do not like is how one person told the poster of this thread to get off the computer, which the poster of this thread replied by saying she does not need rude answers. Later, another poster told the one person that she should get off this thread, which the one person retorted by saying you do not have the right to tell me to get of the thread. Technically, speaking, they do, but it is not nice, I admit that. What's more, you do not have to listen to them, so saying something back was needless. The thing that troubles me with that though is that the one person seems to think that they can dish out stuff, but people cannot tell her to do things. I am sorry to say, but if you can tell people what to do, then they have the right to do the same back. Now I know some people are saying the poster of this thread wants like smileys and people to feel sorry for her, but that is NOT the case. All she wants is advice, ONLY advice. By thinking she wants anything more is reading into something that has no extra meaning.

Finally, what I want to say is, some people may be saying truthful things, but there is a proper way to word them. I mean, I am all for honesty, and I know the poster of this thread is too (she is ready to accept any and all critiques), but there is a difference between saying things civilly and respectfully, and crude and inconsiderate. So all I ask is for people to word things nicer, so that we can all be somewhat happy.

Thank you for your time and I am sorry if I got anyone upset.

welcome to the forum.

in future conversations about me, feel free to use my name. it makes typing out long paragraphs so much easier.

 

[DramaQueen]

i really can not see where everyone is finding any 'rude' posts??

 

[disneyoverload]

It's courageous and a big step to begin to see your problems.
That's the beginning.

I'll just say I know how you feel because I do.
I did what you did.
But I stopped because I had to. I got off the internet for a while.
I'd ruined a lot of stuff so I had gotten off. I'd cut contact with people for about 5 months.
Now some of those people still talk to me, some don't.
I, as you keep saying, made a mistake also but I understood it and I was glad it was stopped.
You have to delete those accounts.

You should tell your girfriend that you're really a girl. It could make things worse, she could understand, there are many options. But if you don't feel comfortable, you could at least say you don't think it's working out (like someone said) and leave. Don't talk to her again if you choose. It's like blocking a number from your phone.

The internet is a very easy thing to get carried away with. It's easy to open accounts, to create new identities, even reveal your own. It's dangerous and it can be easily messed with. Lying is easy. Faking is easy. But then again so is the truth, so is being yourself and having a good time.

Another thing- I read about this in Seventeen magazine. There was a girl who felt like a guy, acted like a guy, and never felt right about being a girl. That girl changed her name, attitude, outfit, and became, pretty much, a guy. There's nothing wrong with doing that. If you feel right doing that, go for it. Go ahead. It might make your life easier and you would probably feel better.

Katie had a point with her thread talk. If you open a thread, you are opening a whole pluthera of opinions. The opinions of others aren't always rude, they're just not what you want to hear. Don't tell Shelby she's rude for stating her opinion, or anyone else. She's stating her opinion, as is Katie and Hilary and everyone else who didn't tell you that you'll be fine, that it may be harder to get happy ever after than you thought.

I agree.
Also, because we are all typing, and not talking, it is hard to discern the tones people are using. I think they were trying to be helpful, or just state their opinions, but I think when reading what they were saying it couuld be interpreted that it was said in a different tone. I don't think people here are trying to be mean, but I think everyone should think when reading comments, the tone you take up in your heads could be different than the tone the poster used when writing it.

 

[life of the party]

OK i know some people are going to flame me and whatnot just because I am going to say what I am about to say, but oh well lol.

So I have to say I feel bad for her, but I mean yes she does need to think about what she has done. However, I also feel that she has punished herself and has thought about it greatly, so saying she needs to spend time away from the computer, etc is in a pointless. We have talked so I feel that I really do not need to give her advice on here.

Ok, so now it's the time where I have to voice my concerns about how some people have reacted over this thread. Before some people are like we have the right to say what we want and such, I know you do, so yeah. What i do not like is how one person told the poster of this thread to get off the computer, which the poster of this thread replied by saying she does not need rude answers. Later, another poster told the one person that she should get off this thread, which the one person retorted by saying you do not have the right to tell me to get of the thread. Technically, speaking, they do, but it is not nice, I admit that. What's more, you do not have to listen to them, so saying something back was needless. The thing that troubles me with that though is that the one person seems to think that they can dish out stuff, but people cannot tell her to do things. I am sorry to say, but if you can tell people what to do, then they have the right to do the same back. Now I know some people are saying the poster of this thread wants like smileys and people to feel sorry for her, but that is NOT the case. All she wants is advice, ONLY advice. By thinking she wants anything more is reading into something that has no extra meaning.

Finally, what I want to say is, some people may be saying truthful things, but there is a proper way to word them. I mean, I am all for honesty, and I know the poster of this thread is too (she is ready to accept any and all critiques), but there is a difference between saying things civilly and respectfully, and crude and inconsiderate. So all I ask is for people to word things nicer, so that we can all be somewhat happy.

Thank you for your time and I am sorry if I got anyone upset.

Nobody told her to get off the computer, we said take time off .

I think you are reffering to shelby(sparx) and how she was talking about the huggy smiles & me saying it wasnt a pity party .

Shelby was defending herSELF after she was attacked .

& I was defending what shelby was saying & what i was about to say .

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