Venting about a store's return policy...

[North of Mouse]

Bob NC, agree

 

[LSchrow]

I'm not going to flame you but I'd be lying if I didn't admit I find that attitude to be sad. Gifts are for kids only? Why? Maybe I'm wrong but sounds to me like you've fallen into the same trap the OP has fallen into. "Gifts should be things that "I" specifically have expressed a desire for and nothing else". "The gift giver has a duty to give me only what "I" deem to be acceptable and nothing else". "I didn't ask for this.....how dare you give it to me?"' Perhaps you learned this as a child? Did mom and dad and grandma and grandpa always buy you exactly what you put on your list and nothing else? Did they perhaps apologize when they bought you something you didn't like/ask for? Maybe that's where things went wrong. .......
Yes, I know, a lot of adults say they no longer buy for spouses, siblings, parents etc. but I do, I find it unfortunate. Clearly many are losing sight of what gift giving is all about. It's really not all that hard to surprise the special people in your life with something special if you are just willing to put in alittle time and effort. Everyone is just so busy nowadays. And so darn selfish. Sad

nicely said.
i really enjoy the time i spend thinking about a person, what they have said or done, their hobbies, little things that make them smile. through the year, i jot down "stuff xxx would like" ideas, and i review/edit it as christmas draws near.
the gift i finally give a person isn't just an item i picked up while i was out (unless it's one of those occassional "OMG - it's perfect! i hadn't thought of that!" items that i grin about for hours afterward). each gift and every gift has lots of love behind it , and i believe the recipients know that i'm sure i miss the mark sometimes, but that doesn't mean the time and thought wasn't there.
btw, i was thrilled with the gifts i received this year, thoough i did not really expect anything...there were items i wished for, but quite a few were things i hadn't thought of that were amazing.

life is good

 

[momxx5]

Crazy5 -
Wow, I want to go to your Apple store. My DS's screen cracked by the cats knocking it and we went to the store....no luck. Sorry cannot help you.

My other DS's ipod earphone part stopped working.....cannot use unless in dock.....Apple store...sorry cannot help.

You were really lucky!!!


Bob-
No where did I mention that "only important matters" be discussed. I only say that this is such a rant that it is either a joke or sad that someone could feel so upset over a mug.

I hope all Disers keep sharing their rants, vents, good and bad news, savings tips and special Disney news.

 

[maggiew]

So, I guess from now on none of you posters will lower yourselves to discussions of topics lesser than death, destruction or world peace.

If this topic is "petty", then why would you all be taking the time to respond?

Is the DIS now reserved for only topics that are "really important?"

This place gets stranger every day.

Bob,
I think you misquoted me. I never once said the OP shouldn't post her frustrations on the DIS. I never once said the topic was petty or not DIS worthy.

I think the OP shouldn't be upset about her gift. But I don't have a problem with her posting about it on the DIS.

Maggie

 

[pacrosby]

pacrosby, most adults I know have stopped exchanging gifts to simplify. We all have more than enough stuff. I don't need a sil to decide that I need tickets to an event that she thinks I should attend, either, lol.

wow...what a bad attitude

who said anything about buying tickets that someone thinks you 'should' attend How about someone buying tickets to something you would like to attend but perhaps wouldn't put on your priority list. My dad loves the Symphony but at 83 wouldn't spend that kind of money (even though he has more than enough). Same with shows. And lot of people would love to go to a Broadway show but can't justify the expense. Others enjoy nice dinners out making a gift certificate to a new restaurant a perfect gift. People with hobbies would generally be thrilled to get something related to that (gardening, photography, cooking scrapbooking etc.). Or a gift related to a sport someone plays. Personalized gifts are rarely looked at with disdain (except in the case of the OP).........especially photo books, calendars, jewelry, etc. Or for collectors, how perfect is something they could add to their collection. But IDK...maybe you really are too much of a stick in the mud to enjoy anything someone else might be apt to get you and therefore you're right....they really shouldn't bother.

You call it simplifying.....that sounds nice. I think I'd be apt to call it something else.

 

[Arabelle]

Hmmmmmm, I don't think my attitude is bad at all. I am involved in the people's lives. I watch their kids, take meals when they need them, am a text or call away. I will sit with them overnight in the hospital, make sure meds are correct, shovel snow, etc. some of us aren't into stuff, and aren't into gifts. It may be your love language, as they say but it isn't mine. That doesn't make you good and me bad. It just makes people different in my book. Unlike you I don't have the need to be nasty to people about it.

I buy gifts when I need to. But I'm not good at it. I overthink. My sister is incredible with it. She is in charge of all group items, lol.

Btw, my sister doesn't have to receive a gift from me to know I would walk to the ends of the earth for her. And I know the same. With or without the perfect trinket.

 

[pacrosby]

Hmmmmmm, I don't think my attitude is bad at all. I am involved in the people's lives. I watch their kids, take meals when they need them, am a text or call away. I will sit with them overnight in the hospital, make sure meds are correct, shovel snow, etc. some of us aren't into stuff, and aren't into gifts. It may be your love language, as they say but it isn't mine. That doesn't make you good and me bad. It just makes people different in my book. Unlike you I don't have the need to be nasty to people about it.

I buy gifts when I need to. But I'm not good at it. I overthink. My sister is incredible with it. She is in charge of all group items, lol.

Btw, my sister doesn't have to receive a gift from me to know I would walk to the ends of the earth for her. And I know the same. With or without the perfect trinket.

Ummmm.....did you not make a dig at my own post? You said (and I quote): "I don't need a sister in law to decide I need tickets to an event she thinks I should attend". I'm sorry but that does kind of say it all. Bad attitude.

You can justify it anyway you want but bottom line is you don't have the desire to put time and effort into choosing gifts for other people and are thrilled when others give you permission not to have to do so. And that's ok...with that attitude it's probably best you don't. Just please don't start in with the 'gifts are kids', 'adults can buy what they want', 'I have more than I need' stuff. It is what it is......own it and move on.

 

[jaminmd]

So, I guess from now on none of you posters will lower yourselves to discussions of topics lesser than death, destruction or world peace.

Yes, and also include the topic of how you hate dogs peeing on your lawn.

If this topic is "petty", then why would you all be taking the time to respond?

Because I felt like. The OP was over the top with her rant.

Is the DIS now reserved for only topics that are "really important?"

See question #1 above.

This place gets stranger every day.

Not really.

 

[Califgirl]

I don't think the choice of a travel cofffee mug was all that odd as a gift for the OP.

Obviously the giver wasn't particularlly close to the OP, but I bet she heard that the OP enjoyed esspresso every morning. She may not have realized that she ONLY drank it at home or didn't drink anything in the car. So she thought she'd 'surprise' her with a coffee mug with her initial on it. IMHO, it just showed that she did think about the gift and what the OP might like or use. To stick with the 'list' she did get her something from a store she had on the list. I know she didn't actually choose a specific fragrance for her -but that can be really difficult. Especially if the note on the list said the fragrance should be 'any but fruity is great'. Do I get fruity? Do I avoid fruity? Maybe she thought it would be better if the OP chose a fragrance that she really liked.

I also found it odd that the OP said that it was difficult to shop with the $20 limit. Could the items on her list been inadvertantly outside that price range? I'm impressed that the gift giver could find two nice gifts within that price range. I was even more impressed when the OP said she might be able to exchange the coffee mug for a comfy pair of slippers. I've seldom seen a coffee mug that has the same value as a comfy pair of slippers.

It seems that the gift giver really could have had the OP's happiness in mind by trying to give her things that she might like or fit her needs.