Vent - teenagers . . .

[RUDisney]

Originally posted by Jeafl
My daughter was under the impression that we were buying her a Corvette when she turns 16! She had already picked out the color and everything! Unfortunately for her, she is in for a rude awakening. We will not be buying her a car at all.

That's what they make Hot Wheels for... to give 16 yo's the car of their dreams at a price their parents can afford.

 

[cinlee3]

You guys are making me feel much better. He used to say all his friends had cars or were getting new cars. And now some how they are all calling him for rides - huh - what happened to their new cars they supposedly got

Twinmomplus2 - My son is 17 and I check up on him all the time. I am a big nag but I don't care. I have always done this and will until he leaves home.

My sisters two kids are grown and her oldest did say to her that he was glad she was so strict with him and did not buy him a car. He appreciated the one he bought for himself so much more.

I am waiting for that day!!!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Cinlee, my DD will be 17 in May and got her license in December. She would love to have ANY car right now. We can not afford a third car or the increase that would make to our insurance so she only gets to drive if there is a car home. I am sure she would gladly drive what your DS doesn't want to. We just got rid of our 10 year old truck and DH got a new Taurus. She is not allowed to drive the new car and we didn't keep the truck because of what it would have done to the insurance.

 

[cinlee3]

DS just came home for lunch and wanted to take the newer car back to work. He thinks it's fine for me to drive the old car.

Well I don't. I work, I'm the parent I am not driving the car with no air and no radio. Sorry - get over it. I have decided I am not having this discussion with him any more.

 

[Tiggeroo]

My eldest dd got my 12yo Jeep Cherokee when she got her license. It looked good but had alot of quirks. We paid the insurance, which was not alot. But she was an honors student who we knew at the time had a free ride to college.
I have 15yo twin sons whose grades are not so good. Also, since they are boys their insurance costs will be much higher. They must have the down payment for their insurance to get their licenses. We will buy an older car for the two of them to share, and they will help with the maintenance/upkeep on this vehicle.
My kids are not allowed to drive with under 21 drivers unless I know the kid very well, and know that it is not a car full of drivers. My boys worry me. One of them definitely has this expectation attitude which I am continually clipping. He loves expensive sporting equiptment, and expensive things in general. This is the reason he is definitely getting a summer job this year. I want him to learn a bit about hard work and the value of a buck. Also, he and his brother only have 2 summers to save up insurance costs. Now, the boys who are young for their ages, and don't seem to take risks/danger seriously worry me about their driving. But their very responsible older sister got into an accident with the Cherokee I gave her. It was raining very hard and the driving lane of the highway was flooded badly forcing her to drive in the passing lane. Since the car was older we consider it totalled. She just bought a 1999 Chevy Cavalier out of her own savings, and over the summer she will save up to contribute to my increased insurance costs.
No matter what your kids say, most kids are in an accident that first year or two. I prefer puttinjg them in the heaviest, cheapest car I can.

 

[binny]

HMMMMPPPHHHHH WELL!!! You are all just MEAN Moms!!









We had the meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs and toast.

When other had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches.

And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was different from what other kids had, too.

Mom insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we were doing with them.

She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour, you can bet we would be gone for an hour or less.

We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work around the house and sweep out the garage or vacuum the floor or do some other cruel job. I think she would lie awake at night thinking but the truth.

By the time we were teenagers, she could read our minds. Then, life was really tough!

Mom wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove up. They had to come to the door so she could meet them.

While everyone else could date when they were 12 or 13… we had to wait because our Mom.

We missed out on a lot of things that other kids experienced. Things like this: none of us were caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's property, or were ever arrested for anything.

And you know what?

It was all her fault because we had a mean Mom.

Now that we have left home, we are all God-fearing, educated, honest adults.

We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.

I think that's what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have enough mean Moms anymore.

 

[cinlee3]

Go Mean Moms !!!

 

[RUDisney]

Wow, Binny, sounds like our Moms were clones. Well, all except, I got to eat Doritos and drink soda for lunch.

The good thing is, with all that mind-reading that Mom was a master at, she knew that she never had to smell our breath when we got home, or look into our eyes to make sure there were no dialation problems.

Hail to Mean Moms everywhere! I hope I'm considered a member in good standing.

 

[Lucky4me]

Twinmom, I am a VERY mean Mom of a 16yo daughter.

She has to use the computer in the main living area where I can see what she's doing at all times.

She has a small t.v. in her room she rarely turns on.

She has to play her stereo low or wear headphones when there are other people in the house. (unless I like what shes playing and ask her to turn it up. )

She is not allowed to go to Teen dance nights at Nightclubs.(She'll have plenty of time to do this when she turns 21)

She doesn't have a curfew but is home by 9pm on weeknights and usually 11pm on weekends. It's negotiable depending on what she's doing.

I must know the friends parents if she sleeps over. I must talk to them and make sure they'll be home on the night she's there.

She has to be available on her cell any given time when she's out.

She just got her permit, although she turned 16 7 months ago. She probably won't get her license until she's at least 17.

She will not get a car unless she earns most of the money to buy one and pay for all her insurance.

She works a part time job a few hours a week to pay for her own clothes. I give her an allowance but it doesn't stretch to afford name brand clothes.

Despite all my meaness, she seems pretty happy and well adjusted. The complaints are few and far between these days but she does have her moments. I'm sure when she's 30 she'll tell me the things she did that I had no idea about. That's okay. As long as I know I did the best I could with her, I'm fine with that. Everyone is going to rebel at some time.