vent sorry!

[funkychunkymonkey]

Can I vent? Im sick of having no money, Im sick of my job, Im sick of being single. I need a new career. Now back to your regularly scedualed disboaring.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

vent away!! Can you go back to school, even part time? Take an online class?
What do you want to do for a career? What do you do now?


My vent.
I'm sick of cleaning, sick of DH being gone all the time, sick of cooking and my kids complaining about it.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

curently im a daycare teacher. I have a partial degree in criminal justice. I have no clue what I want to do for a career anymore. on your vent. I guess im just feeling old (26 in a few months) and disheartened.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

Sweetie you are not old! You are just getting started.

By the time I was 26 I'd been married for 7 years and had 1 kid, and one on the way.

So if you had a dream job, what would it be? Can you make a living at it? Will it pay the bills? are you willing to move?

Daycare can be stressful, I know it has a high turnover rate. My mom's been in daycare for 40 years, I've seen it take it's toll on her.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

Oh and that was just today's vent.

tomorrow's will be how much haircuts cost and how I will survive the 7 hour drive to New Jersey on Friday with my dad as the co-pilot.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

I used to think my dream job would be law enforcment but now im not so sure. The making a living thing is something im failing at now. I TOTALLY want to move. Im sick of paying what I do to live here with a landlord that dont care. I know, Next weeks vent- surving a 3 hour car trip with 5 people (3 adult,2 kids) crammed in a tiny grand am, and how I didnt kill anyone(joke! LOL)

 

[LindaBabe]

Funkychunky, if you ever want to talk careers, pm for my phone number. Old retired lady now, but I used to be a career coach and recruiter. I can, and will, help you. The future is in your hands.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

What Linda said!!
The future is in your hands.

I hear you about LE. I wanted to be a lawyer when I grew up (I love to argue) but if I knew then what I know now and I still wanted to do it, I would do child advocacy.

So what's stopping you from moving and making a change? Is it not knowing where you want to go and what you want to do?

Obviously depending on where you live, the cost of living changes. I can tell you that in CT you need to make a minimum of $17 an hour to survive in this part of the state. My dad figured it out when he tried to hire a friend that lived in Arkansas. But he forgot to include car payments, insurance and child support. There was no way our friend could move here.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

Only reason I havent moved is I dont know where to go. Once I figure that out im so outa here. I kinda wanna move closer to my mom and family but its hard because there in small town with very few jobs.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

hmmmm........ is there a larger city near by but still within a comfortable driving distance to your mom?

I do have to say though, jobs are picking up! I was at Walmart today and they were looking for a hair dresser and there was some other place near there that was looking for people.

 

[MazdaUK]

Go for it while you don't have to consider a partner or kids! I could move to a job in Brussels but DS(16) has just taken GCSEs and DS(10) takes school selction tests in September. Once there's more than just you there's no right time to make a move!

(And who knows what cuties there might be in your next stop )

 

[Mom-to-2-Princesses]

I remember what you are feeling and went down your path!

I did feel the need for a "change" after being out of college for a few years. I ended up moving to the DC area for 5 years and it was a wonderful experience for me. After that my husband and I moved back to my childhood town and now I am happy doing the Mommy thing.

A main thing to remember -- you are NEVER stuck in a job or career. You can ALWAYS look and train for something new. When I was in my 20s I felt that every choice I made was for life. In some ways it was good -- it kept me on a good path, but as I have gotten older I can see there are many paths to be taken.

I have a friend who was a nurse and then a stay at home Mom. At 27 she decided she wanted to go to Law School. (I didn't believe she would do it at the time -- I thought she was just dreaming) But she did! She researched schools and found a good one at a good price. Did her 3 years at school, practiced for a few years and is now a Judge at the age of 40!!!

As for myself, I am a CPA but really like dealing with people. So instead of working part time with numbers in the past year I have been subbing at our school and LOVING it. (Doesn't make as much money, but brings in that extra that helps my family out and lets me still be a stay-at-home mom)

So my message to you -- don't be afraid of change and go for it!!

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Just an FYI, I didn't really start to date my husband until 27. Got married at 28 and then first baby right before 30th birthday. Late bloomers unite!!


All kidding aside, you are in charge of your own future. Nobody is going to rescue you. Ever. You have to make the changes and do what is necessary for you to live the life you want. Write it down. As silly as life goals sound out loud, you really do need to figure out what you want out of your life. Then you need to see what steps you can take towards it. Is what you are doing now helping or hindering that? Change it or embrace it.



Best of luck!

 

[Mickster]

You guys are the best "pep talkers" ever...thanks! (and I was just evesdropping...)

 

[MazdaUK]

Two years ago one of my co-workers took early severance from the civil service (we were on a strict headcount reduction so the terms were quite good) at the age of 43 and has since retrained as a nurse. She is so happy. As others have said, when you're young you think "that's it, the choice is made" but you can always do something different if you really want to.

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Yes, there are two paths you can go by
But in the long run
There's still time to change
The road you're on

 

[ddavis860]

I've seen lots of women change careers, some in their 20's, some in their 30's, and even more in their 40's and 50's.

I'm in the medical field, and the opportunities at my hosp are terrific. You get in at a job you are qualified for now, then they will pay for you to go back to school for something else. You owe them 1 year after you get your degree, but then you take your new knowledge and can go anywhere. I've known lots of people who have gone into MBA programs, nursing, radiology, resp therapy, physical therapy, psychology...

What I tell my kids, is what my mom told me. Find the thing you like to do, then figure out a way to get someone to pay you to do it... Happy Life...