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Sue has talked with James' teacher regarding this incident. It seems that James may have not been completely honest about the situation surrounding his "F". This is an advanced math class and he was apparently having problems understanding trigonometry, so his scores leading up to the test were not as good as he led us to believe. There were not a lot of point "opportunities" during this grading period, so he did not come into this exam with an "A" as he had told us. He did finally manage to grasp the concepts, but not before he bombed the midterm. Yup. He actually took the test that he claimed to have missed. This math teacher has a very liberal policy on tests. Maybe too liberal. Have you seen the commercial where the bowler has to knock down one pin to win the championship? And he misses. Then gets to keep trying until he knocks it down? Well, James had a one week window to retest. And he forgot. He was in tears when he told us that he had forgotten to retake the bombed test, so he decided to make up the story about being absent the day of the test. He has since re-taken the test, but not for full credit. His teacher told us that he has a solid "C-" right now, but that he is doing well in the next area of study.
We have had "honesty" problems with James in the past. He has been a perfectionist from an early age. Apparently the preschool that he attended had never purchased pencil erasers until James came along. So he could not bring himself to tell us that he had messed up. And he blamed the teacher. We like to think that we are reasonable parents and that he could have and can come to us with any problem. But he continues this behavior. This time I made it clear to him that if he does this one more time, he won't be getting his learner's permit in 9 weeks when he turns 15 1/2. And that he won't be sharing in the driving responsibilites on our trip to WDW in June. I hope and pray that this convinces him that he should stop trying to hide the truth from us. I guess that our biggest fear is that he will be even more evasive as he grows older and that he will try to hide something more serious than a failing grade on a test from us.
My apologies to James' math teacher and my lashing out at her policies without getting the whole story.
As far as the comment about grading software, gepetto is probably right. As a software engineer, I am appalled that a missed test would be counted as a zero (unless a makeup exam was out of the question). That's like presuming that someone is guilty until proven innocent.
Thanks for all the comments. Now if anyone knows how to get teenagers to always tell the truth to their parents, please let me know.
We have had "honesty" problems with James in the past. He has been a perfectionist from an early age. Apparently the preschool that he attended had never purchased pencil erasers until James came along. So he could not bring himself to tell us that he had messed up. And he blamed the teacher. We like to think that we are reasonable parents and that he could have and can come to us with any problem. But he continues this behavior. This time I made it clear to him that if he does this one more time, he won't be getting his learner's permit in 9 weeks when he turns 15 1/2. And that he won't be sharing in the driving responsibilites on our trip to WDW in June. I hope and pray that this convinces him that he should stop trying to hide the truth from us. I guess that our biggest fear is that he will be even more evasive as he grows older and that he will try to hide something more serious than a failing grade on a test from us.
My apologies to James' math teacher and my lashing out at her policies without getting the whole story.
As far as the comment about grading software, gepetto is probably right. As a software engineer, I am appalled that a missed test would be counted as a zero (unless a makeup exam was out of the question). That's like presuming that someone is guilty until proven innocent.
Thanks for all the comments. Now if anyone knows how to get teenagers to always tell the truth to their parents, please let me know.