Vent: fired from babysitting

[lillygator]

color me confused...under what pretenses were you hired?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I think it is probably best that you seek other types of employment.

 

[minniecarousel]

I'm confused too - but I think it's also because the responses seem to be out of order. Hard to follow!

 

[RitaE]

I agree it sounds like a failure of communication
You were looking for more direction
She was looking for more initiative

As for the emails, it is hard to comment without seeing them.

Are you going to be a Teacher? Is that why you're waiting until September for a job?

 

[Michelle67]

Well this is all very confusing to read with the post order challenges...but are you saying that you told the mother the baby needed changing, and instead of saying "the diapers are (wherever)" she said "I'll come down and change her," but then didn't and got angry that you didn't do it? Sounds like maybe she wanted to you to say "Oh no, I'll get it, where are the diapers." Seems like it would have been a lot easier to just say "the diapers are (wherever)." I would expect my babysitter to change diapers, but I wouldn't expect her to read my mind. Also wouldn't expect open availability without prior arrangements. Sounds like there was poor communication all the way around.

Anyhow, good luck with the second interview, hope you get the job.

 

[Experiment #626]

First, I have no idea where above posters are concluding that the OP refused to change diapers. She never stated that. Further, if the diaper was only dirty 10 minutes, then it is obvious the diapers were being changed and the impression made (in my reading) is that the changing was done by her.

If I were in the OP situation and still deemed to be within my working hours, I would have changed the diaper. However, OP also stated that the kids would not want her to go at the end of the day which lead me to ponder if she would stay later than her scheduled working hours to char with the parents and kids. If the poopy diaper occurred during this socializing time, I am of the opinion she had no obligation to change the diaper - however it would have been a nice thing to have done.

 

[Angelhalo]

OP I feel bad for you. Sounds like this is one nasty lady.

I don't recall the OP EVER saying that she doesn't change diapers....don't know where that bandwagon started. Sounds to me like the mom came home, went upstairs to change or whatever and babysitter knew diaper was dirty but hadn't gotten to it and didn't know where any more diapers were. Or maybe the mom ALWAYS changed the baby. I know babysitters who don't change diapers and I know moms who don't WANT babysitters to change diapers. It doesn't sound so insanely baffling to me as it does to others.

I say good riddance to a crummy job....don't listen to anyone else, and good luck with the new upcoming job!

 

[lillygator]

I have never heard of a mom not wanting a baby sitter to change diapers....are these women who stay home and have a babysitter? How horrible to make the child wait.

 

[Angelhalo]

I have never heard of a mom not wanting a baby sitter to change diapers....are these women who stay home and have a babysitter? How horrible to make the child wait.

some of them yes are women who work from home but hire a babysitter to stay in the house with them and watch the kids while they work. That way they are home buit are still working. For their own reasons they don't want a random person changing their baby so the babysitter just lets them know that a diaper change is needed. I know 3 women in this scenario

 

[mjkacmom]

some of them yes are women who work from home but hire a babysitter to stay in the house with them and watch the kids while they work. That way they are home buit are still working. For their own reasons they don't want a random person changing their baby so the babysitter just lets them know that a diaper change is needed. I know 3 women in this scenario

But if this woman fired her for not changing the diaper, I'm guessing she's not like the women you know, and wants the sitter to change the diaper. I was always thrilled if someone else changed my kids diapers, because I had LOTS of them!

 

[lillygator]

wow. I admit it's a first for me.

My girls have been in day care since they were 6 weeks old, I couldn't imagine telling the providers not to change their diapers. I would imagine it would ONLY work when the mom is in fact there but just not being the parent or babysitter, such as working from home, etc.

 

[Cindy B]

It wouldn't have taken much for the OP to either find the diapers or even change the baby themselves and NOT wait for the mom.

As a parent, I would expect the babysitter to do that if needed. Babysitting in a home/mother's helper is different than say being a health club or YMCA (just stating that place since it was my experience) or even church care nursery babysitter. In those instances, the parents would come down and do the changing.

If I was the OP, I'd figure that I needed to change diapers. I have my teaching degree and I sub all over. Sometimes I am assigned to a special needs preschool where most of the students are developmentally delayed which means diapers at 3, 4,5 and sometimes 6 years old.

So there I was a degreed teacher changing the kids! If they needed it, I'd change them and then get back to lessons or 1:1 therapy. I always thought it was part of the job. Sometimes the roving teacher aides would change the kids, but I would never rely on them to do it for me. I just did it no questions asked. Thats part of the job, IMHO.

 

[chobie]

wow. I admit it's a first for me.

My girls have been in day care since they were 6 weeks old, I couldn't imagine telling the providers not to change their diapers. I would imagine it would ONLY work when the mom is in fact there but just not being the parent or babysitter, such as working from home, etc.

It could be that the mom is passive-aggressive and told the OP something like "Oh, don't worry about changing the diaper -just call me down," but really she did expect her to change the diaper and then got angry when she did not.

But who knows the whole story here?

 

[yeartolate]

Never heard of a mother not wanting a babysitter tochange a diaper.

Seems obscure to me.

 

[Stella3]

some of them yes are women who work from home but hire a babysitter to stay in the house with them and watch the kids while they work. That way they are home buit are still working. For their own reasons they don't want a random person changing their baby so the babysitter just lets them know that a diaper change is needed. I know 3 women in this scenario

I have NEVER heard of such a thing. I'm sure most of us haven't, lol.

 

[RitaZ.]

For now, I was looking for gas money so I found a babysitting job on Craigslist.

Maybe I'm paranoid, but Craigslist wouldn't the place where I would have looked for a babysitter.

When I hired babysitters, I always showed them where everything was. Odd arrangement.

 

[Michelle67]

Some people have concerns over anybody but themselves touching their childrens' "private areas." I have encountered this before. Ordinarily people with these concerns do NOT put their children into daycare situations, and only have people come into their homes to help out while they are home.

 

[Angelhalo]

Some people have concerns over anybody but themselves touching their childrens' "private areas." I have encountered this before. Ordinarily people with these concerns do NOT put their children into daycare situations, and only have people come into their homes to help out while they are home.

exactly. With the world the way it is, I know more and more people who don't trust just anyone touching that area of their baby. Sad...but true.

 

[Aimeedyan]

Wow, in the hundreds of families I work with on a regular basis I have yet to find one person who freaks out about a caregiver changing a soiled diaper. I suppose I should be thankful!

Honestly, I would refuse to work for someone that wouldn't allow me to fully provide for a child in her absence.

 

[Angelhalo]

Wow, in the hundreds of families I work with on a regular basis I have yet to find one person who freaks out about a caregiver changing a soiled diaper. I suppose I should be thankful!

Honestly, I would refuse to work for someone that wouldn't allow me to fully provide for a child in her absence.

I would too if they were truly abswent. That would be appalling! However if they're in the house and they wish to change the diapers......have at it, it's their baby! LOL!

My aunt is one of the women I know who does this. She doesn't trust people. She's used the same babysitter for YEARS. Invites her on trips, holiday parties etc. She's like a part of the family, but any time a new baby comes along, the rule is no diaper changing. I'm like, if thats what makes you happy! LOL!