Vent - family and DVC

[colleen costello]

Goofy4Tink, the difference may be that your trip is planned with a FRIEND, not a relative! Maybe the majority of moochers only take advantage of FAMILY

Watch the Boards for a post from Terry S... I think that is her screen name, too... She did a "girls only" trip a while back and they did all sorts of girl stuff. She was asking everyone for suggestions and there were some great ones... Spa stuff at GF, the Garden Tea at the GF, stuff like that. I bet you girls will have a WONDERFUL time!

 

[lenshanem]

colleen, since you bumped this up I'd thought I'd update -

I did some prep work online, mostly at mousesavers.com and emailed my brother a bunch of info.

He called me later that day asking a bunch of questions. I think they are gonna book at Pop Century using the new discount code that came out for next year. They are young so I think they'll have a blast anywhere they stay.

He understands now that we don't have the points to give out right now and if he wants to go he is gonna have to do it himself.

I love helping him out, just not with my small amount of points.

 

[mbb]

...last Jan/Feb was our first trip home..my mom and dad, brother and SIL arrived the week after we did while we were at BCV...

They were all suitably impressed, and thrilled that I had "thought ahead" and booked a "tour" for them, with our guide - THAT day!!

They got the straight goods, and their meal vouchers,
and they all volunteered to pay cash when we considered upgrading our ressie to a two bdr for the *gasp* weekend that we were all together

We're all going back this year, plus more family...BUT!!!

...we're renting a vacation home...then we get to go to OKW for the week after everyone leaves.

Works for us Good luck, Shan

 

[Disney1fan2002]

You did the right thing. Just be up front. Let them know that when they are INVITED it is out of the goodness of your heart, but the DVC is really for you and your family. I think you did get in over your head with you generousity from the start, it's too bad it is biting you now.

I have a huge family, and if my family PLUS my husbands family were to start bugging us about going with, then I would shut them off. We have been lucky so far, my family knows that DVC is something my DH and I bought for OUR family, and no one has even asked to come with us. I invited my sister and her family to come on a trip this past April, and she was thrilled, but she would NEVER even imagine asking us for another trip.

I would order the DVC video for your brother, hand it to him with his gf next to him, and suggest they watch it togther, and if it appeals to them, when they take their trip, (the trip they paid cash for) they should take a tour and look into buying DVC for themselves.

 

[CapeCodFam]

OK. I can't resisit....

My SIL had 2 car accidents in one day. The first was when she rear-ended our new car. The second was when she hit our new fence. (Fences just jump out ya' know).

We didn't bother saying anything about the fence. However, we got quite the tongue lashing and cold shoulder from every family member about how she couldn't afford an accident. Since *we* have money, we shouldn't file a claim with her insurance. Boy are we mean-spirited for insisting she take responsibility for her actions.... (Never mind about fixing our car in order to keep their grandchildren safe..)

Needless to say, we haven't told any of my DW's family about DVC. The world owes them everything.. They just don't want to work hard, sacrifice, and save like we do to get it.

As much as we wanted to share our excitement, sometimes it's better to not tell anyone.

 

[Disney Doll]

You know, I keep reading "gotta love family".

Well, newsfalsh folks. Gotta love 'em, don't gotta like 'em, definitely DON'T have to take them on vacation with you, especially if they are ingrates.

To the OP...do yourself a favor and get out of being the trip planning person using all your points to satisfy a bunch of ingrates. Invite who you want, when you want, for as many nights as you want.

If they don't like it, point them in the direction of mousesavers.

If you don't want to be a doormat, get up off the floor!

 

[NancyDVC]

If your brother brings up the ols "I haven't been since I was a kid" line then I would bring up the "Gee weren't you the one with the laptop when we went in June?" Sometimes a good dig goes a long way to help your psychy.
And I agree you deserve to use your points any way you want.
My family has been great in that respect. We have had several great group trips. And they were always great at thanking us and being appreciative!

 

[SamRoc]

Well i posted too soon last week about this subject. So far this week i have gotten 3 calls from relatives who "heard" we were going to VWL in a 2 bedroom for Christmas week! My nephew who lives in Fla. my niece who is graduating college, and my sister in law (she has a husband and 3 year old who also live in Florida) None of these people are moochers (well maybe my sister in laws husband!) but i think it might be fun to have each one for 2 days of our 7 there. maybe that would work out for us also because we wouldnt want them all at the same time! or else we could just change our reservation to a 1 br and vacation all by ourselves, that would be a change!

 

[MinnesotaChill]

Well, this just made my night! We have people waiting in line to go on vacation with us! They have all offered to pay the difference to us (still an amazing deal for them) and we had planned to take the money to offset our own food and airfare. What we hadn't considered is having them rent their own points so we can extend and stay a few days alone with our three kids.

Our current plan is to go in Jan 2006 from Thur- a week from the following Saturday (10days). My inlaws (who strangely enough thought our kids were too young for Disney until we bought DVC) will come Thur-Saturday. My cousin, her DH and DS (4 1/2) and DD (2 1/2) will come Sat night and stay until Thur. I am trying desperately to convince her that 7 days with kids that age will be too much (didn't tell her too much for ME!). We will be alone Thur - Sat.

My question, how do I go about renting the 48 points for my cousin and her husband? When should I do this if I can reserve the room for my family in Feb? I DO NOT want to have to move rooms halfway through the stay. We will be reserving a 2 bedroom the whole time.

The reason this seems to make sense to us is that then we can justify annual passes and go again the following Dec with other friends that we WANT to travel with! They will also pay for their points, but in that case we'll probably keep the cash.

The killer of this is that MY parents, who volunteered to go with us on THEIR dime three years ago (before DVC) when my husband had a convention (they wanted to help me out), won't be able to go with us for EONS and we might never get a trip alone unless we always book a few extra days for us at the end of each trip.

Guess I'm lucky to have such problems, actually.

 

[jaysue]

Shan, sounds like the families are taking advantage of your kind spirit and generous nature - I would politely tell them you have run out of accomodations plain and simple. Offer to book them a room once they know they are going to pay......

That is really unfortunate

We have the opposite problem - cannot get either of our families to go for trying...

Cheers
jaysue

 

[msdis]

We are now thinking of selling 1/2 our points so as to NEVER have enough to invite anyone again.

 

[rsschneck]

We LOVE Disney and are big into family time. We are going through the list of family and friends we want to share our DVC with. My parents do a lot for us and we like to travel with them. They will stay on our invite list. Took two sets of friends on different occasions. One set of friends that was their first vacation and they were thrilled. We would love to have them again! The other Disney crazed friends we felt very used and will not invite them again. My sis and family were actually fun to have this last trip. It will be awhile before we invite them (but we will). This December is the first time with just us! I can hardly wait! May is a family reunion for DH's Dad's side (this is a once in a lifetime and not even thinking about a repeat performance). DH's Mom will probably get invited more often because she is single and will basically sleep with her granddaughter is needed. She is broke and we pretty much look out for her anyway!

We bought 2 years ago and love traveling with people. Makes each trip different! We have a list of people we will invite again and those we will NOT!

We figure we will be using our points more for ourselves in the next couple of years. When DD is old enough we will probably have a friend or two join when we are no longer cool!

If you feel used or unappreciated then do not invite those particular people! I feel your points are to be used however you choose!

 

[Dean]

Originally posted by msdis
We are now thinking of selling 1/2 our points so as to NEVER have enough to invite anyone again.

I'm sure you know you can't sell only part of the points for a single contract.

 

[ScottNBecky]

Sounds alot like my brother too. Stay positive.

 

[RumpleMom]

Well, you know, you could give the relatives the number for Disney Vacation Club. They buy their own points, so you can vacation together.

I can only see covering the room and as much as possible of the other expenses for our parents and children still in school, everyone else pays something. DD has graduated college and is employed. She will stay in our room for free, but is paying for everything else for herself. That's called growing up.

OP ask dear brother is he has started a savings account for his own DVC purchase. A young fellow ,without family responsibilities, should be saving for the future whether for DVC, wedding, house, etc.

 

[msdis]

Thanks Dean-we have 6 contracts. Just trying to decide if,what, and how many. Glad you pointed this out in case someone else did not know.