Vent - dog adoption

[disneystacy]

Just need a place to vent and get some opinions.

Last week one the of the clients of a girl I work with told us her friend is looking to get rid of her dog (purebred 2 year old boxer) because her son is allergic. I immediately thought of my BIL and SIL. They have always owned boxers and one of their boxers recently died from old age. I called my BIL and he was interested in adopting her. Here is the issue, they live in Colorado and will be here this week (driving) and can take the dog back with them. I told the girl at work if they don't find anyone local, to let me know and told her of my BIL. But also explained it was only for this coming week.

Today I asked for a update, it seems one of the girls at work is interested in the dog...sounds good right? Well, this gal is 23, single, lives in a apartment with her mom and plans on leaving the dog in her room all day while she works because her mom doesn't want to deal with it. Huh?
I really don't think she realizes the responsibility of a dog is especially the size of this dog.
I feel so bad for this dog. My BIL works from home, has a 4000sq foot home on 1 acre of property, fenced in and has plenty of money to care for this dog and has owned boxers all his life.
BTW - this girl knows about my BIL because she was there when I told the other girl of my interest.

I just want to know what people are thinking?

 

[happygirl]

There are a lot of people who have dogs that live in apts. I really don't think her age or martial statues has anything to do with it. Maybe the orignal owner wants to put the dog with this girl so she can visit the dog once in a while.

 

[disneystacy]

There are a lot of people who have dogs that live in apts. I really don't think her age or martial statues has anything to do with it. Maybe the orignal owner wants to put the dog with this girl so she can visit the dog once in a while.

I think the fact that her mom who she lives with told her she needs to keep it in her room and doesn't want to be bothered with it is the main point, not the apartment itself.

 

[Phil'sFrontier]

You could suggest maybe fostering a dog to start. That way you don't have to make a ten plus year commitment, and you might just find a new friend too!

 

[happygirl]

DisneyStacy, I mean no disrepect but I find the timing of this post to funny. A couple of post down people are saying how evil it is to keep dogs outside, and now your post is saying it's wrong to keep the dog inside, Once again no disrespect just funny timing of each post.

 

[disneystacy]

DisneyStacy, I mean no disrepect but I find the timing of this post to funny. A couple of post down people are saying how evil it is to keep dogs outside, and now your post is saying it's wrong to keep the dog inside, Once again no disrespect just funny timing of each post.

I guess I just don't see the point of adopting a animal if your not home for long hours, have to confine a large dog to a small room and the person you live with wants no part of it(in this case the mother).

I feel the same about keeping a dog only outdoors. Rescue groups wouldn't give one of their animals to either of these scenerios for good reason. The best homes are ones where the owners have the time, financial resources and space to properly care for these animals and to make them part of the family.

 

[james'mommy]

A 2 year old boxer is not going to be happy confined to a small room all day. They have lots of energy. I have a 10 year old boxer and she is happy to just lay in her crate all day instead of roaming the house but that's because she is old and lazy. A younger person may not be up for the commitment needed to care for a dog for the rest of their life.

 

[manning]

Why not tell the owner that your BIL will difinitely take the dog if they indicated they will. That way the owner would stop looking for a home for the dog.

 

[wildernesslodgelover]

DisneyStacy, I mean no disrepect but I find the timing of this post to funny. A couple of post down people are saying how evil it is to keep dogs outside, and now your post is saying it's wrong to keep the dog inside, Once again no disrespect just funny timing of each post.

 

[CathrynRose]

Ugh.

A gorgeous Boxer.

In an apartment (no biggee, but then...) locked in a room - cuz the actual person on the lease (I assume) doesn't want anything to do with him?

Does the apartment least allow dogs - let alone, a big dog??

 

[CathrynRose]

I grew up with cats. And the one thing I learned having a dog, is that it's a family affair.

The thought of any of my family, being home, and not interacting with Charley, would break his heart. They don't understand that.

Charley sleeps with us, until we leave - then checks the basement for my son, and if he's not home - he nudges open my step-son's door, and sleeps with him. He likes being around us.

I don't like this.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

DisneyStacy, I mean no disrepect but I find the timing of this post to funny. A couple of post down people are saying how evil it is to keep dogs outside, and now your post is saying it's wrong to keep the dog inside, Once again no disrespect just funny timing of each post.

I think it's less about inside/outside than it is about spending time with people.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Why not tell the owner that your BIL will difinitely take the dog if they indicated they will. That way the owner would stop looking for a home for the dog.

I agree, why make it sound like "if nobody else wants it", BIL will take it. Tell her he REALLY wants it and has a great home waiting for it. And experience. And people who will love it. And NOT lock it in a room all day. And can afford to take care of it. (Not saying it is certain, but usually people live with their parents because they don't have the finances to move out. not everyone, of course)And give it plenty of exercise. If he lives in Colorado and loves his dogs he certainly will NOT be keeping a boxer outside for long. They are not cold weather dogs, and he knows that.

If it were a choice of the dog having the best home I could imagine and never seeing him again, or him being under the above described conditions in the OP but being able to visit him, I would send him off to Colorado in a heartbeat. I couldn't be that selfish.

 

[disneystacy]

Ugh.

A gorgeous Boxer.

In an apartment (no biggee, but then...) locked in a room - cuz the actual person on the lease (I assume) doesn't want anything to do with him?

Does the apartment least allow dogs - let alone, a big dog??

Who know if they even allow dogs, I don't think they even thought of that. I am thinking of the movie Turner and Hooch when she comes home from work. I really have to hold my tongue because I work with these people. I am just afraid by the time this gal realizes she is over her head my BIL will be back in Colorado and the dog will end up at the pound when it has a shot now of a excellent home.

 

[disneystacy]

I agree, why make it sound like "if nobody else wants it", BIL will take it. Tell her he REALLY wants it and has a great home waiting for it. And experience. And people who will love it. And NOT lock it in a room all day. And can afford to take care of it. (Not saying it is certain, but usually people live with their parents because they don't have the finances to move out. not everyone, of course)And give it plenty of exercise. If he lives in Colorado and loves his dogs he certainly will NOT be keeping a boxer outside for long. They are not cold weather dogs, and he knows that.

If it were a choice of the dog having the best home I could imagine and never seeing him again, or him being under the above described conditions but being able to visit him, I would send him off to Colorado in a heart beat. I couldn't be that selfish.

I would do that but I am not dealing directly with the owner, I am dealing with the girl I work with(everything is going through her, its her clients friend). She is also a young girl (25) and thinks it would be "cool" to keep the dog in the same state , thus letting the second girl possibly take it.
The owners from what I'm told will drop the dog at the pound if nobody takes her.
Why oh Why do I get involved?

 

[disneystacy]

I grew up with cats. And the one thing I learned having a dog, is that it's a family affair.

The thought of any of my family, being home, and not interacting with Charley, would break his heart. They don't understand that.

Charley sleeps with us, until we leave - then checks the basement for my son, and if he's not home - he nudges open my step-son's door, and sleeps with him. He likes being around us.

I don't like this.

I agree, thats why I'm having such a hard time with this. I could never be that selfish to take a animal and keep it in my room, not have the room to excercise it, nor the money to take care of it or the time to spend with it. A family with the means, time and space is willing to give it a loving home.

 

[disneystacy]

A 2 year old boxer is not going to be happy confined to a small room all day. They have lots of energy. I have a 10 year old boxer and she is happy to just lay in her crate all day instead of roaming the house but that's because she is old and lazy. A younger person may not be up for the commitment needed to care for a dog for the rest of their life.

I agree, this dog is young and most likely has tons of energy.

 

[HsvTeacher]

We have a 10 year old Boxer that has just slowed down in the last few months. Before that, he was a bundle of energy. He would've gone nuts being closed up in a room all day. Boxers need room to play!

 

[CathrynRose]

And this girl is young. What happens if she wants to go get a drink after work? Will Mom let Boxer out?

Or if she spends the night somewhere?

Blah. Just dognap him, and give him to your Bro.

 

[disneystacy]

We have a 10 year old Boxer that has just slowed down in the last few months. Before that, he was a bundle of energy. He would've gone nuts being closed up in a room all day. Boxers need room to play!

I know and I'm afraid when she finally realizes its too much, it will be too late.