Vent and PSA

[minnie mum]

Your "friend's" remarks were absolutely unacceptable if she knew about your DSILs death. Given the recent burdens your family is experiencing, I'm amazed that you had any plans to party tonight.

 

[Daisy62]

Sounds like horrible friends. I wouldn't put out such personal info on FB to begin with. Keeps peoplr from calling out others.

 

[usnuzuloose]

First off, so sorry for the loss. Big hugs and prayers for you and DH. Remember true friends will stand beside you no matter what. If there is no understanding don't worry about it. I have had issues like that. Please take this time to grieve and be with one another. And nothing else matters what anyone thinks.

 

[superme80]

I am so sorry for your loss. Your former friend is a jerk.

 

[Owlpost23]

Shame on people like that.It's a wonder you're walking upright.Sending good thoughts.Had a horrible Christmas several years ago-involving my sister.I really empathize with you.

 

[jen0610]

Your "friend's" remarks were absolutely unacceptable if she knew about your DSILs death. Given the recent burdens your family is experiencing, I'm amazed that you had any plans to party tonight.

We spent last New Year's Eve in the ER, then the next 27 days in the hospital between two different hospitals in two different cities. DH was looking forward to putting this craptastic year behind us and kicking a far better year off. Now, not so much. DD18, said he spent all morning sleeping. With no bereavement pay at my work, I had no choice but to go in for a couple hours, just to ensure that I get my holiday pay tomorrow. He ate a couple of bites at the early dinner and he is crashed out in bed now. I am letting him sleep for another hour before we head over to my SIL's. He is really taking this hard.

 

[diz8297]

At times like these, you really see people's true colors. My sincere condolences for all that your family is enduring.

 

[RedHatDisney]

I'm so sorry for your family's many losses and stressful situations. My heart is sending you thoughts of peace and consolation. <3

 

[pigletliz]

So sorry for your family's loss. Facebook certainly allows people to show their true feelings. Your friend sounds resentful of the time that her husband has spent helping your family. I wouldn't give her a second thought. Focus on your family and your true friends.

 

[minniecarousel]

Jen0610 - hugs from me. You're in a really rough time and you need to take time for yourselves. "This too shall pass ". Wishing you a better, happier 2016.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I can't do this at home, so I am just sounding off here.

To our "friends" - Sorry we have ruined you NYE plans by having to cancel at the last minute. If it's that hard for you to understand what we are dealing with right now, let me spell it out for you.

It's not like we planned to get a call yesterday afternoon letting us know that DH's oldest sister out in CA passed away the night before. There are a lot of unresolved issue between DH and this sister, that you aren't aware of. The biggest of all that for years it was hidden from him that she is actually his birth mother. So yes, he's taking this one pretty darn hard right now.

To say nothing of the fact that this call comes on the heels of getting a call the morning of the 23rd to let us know that fiancée of the middle sister who lives in town, had passed away that morning after being in Medical ICU for the past 16 days.

Which leads us to the 24th, the day DH's family has traditionally had their Christmas celebration on and would be the first Christmas without his dad, who passed away back in July. Making it a just a tad bit stressful in and of itself - you know a major holiday just after their passing. Add on the shock and grief from the events of the day before.

Oh and lets not forget that DH's mom's dementia has really ramped up since the passing of her husband, to the point where even with live in care, she may need to be moved into a facility that can better care for her. So, just one more thing we have weighing heavy on our hearts and minds.

Put all this on top of the issues DH is dealing with in his own life - an abundance of medical issues that has left him unable to work, in debt up to the eyeballs, and a ton of depression that you are unable to provide and care for your family as the "man of the house" should.

Yea, going out and dancing, drinking, eating and being merry is right there are the top of our to do list to do tonight.

And the PSA - Think twice and twice again about others and what is going on in their lives before making a written comment about them and their "drama". Cause it can and will get back to them and cause a friendship to fracture and cease to be.

If they called that drama, they must have been projecting and not much of friends at all. I would be done with someone like that.

So sorry for all of your losses and hope the new year brings peace and healing and new friends who are capable of understanding.

 

[TLSnell1981]

OP, I'm so sorry for all the heartache you and your family are experiencing. Prayers for peace and strength.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Sorry for your loss. Prayers and best wishes

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that and that your former friend wasn't there for you and so dismissive about things your family is going through.

 

[focusondisney]

OP, I am so sorry for the losses your family has had to endure. You must be very strong to keep going thru all of this, don't waste any of your energy on this poor excuse for a friend. I hope the new year will bring improved health for your DH.

 

[cijay]

That'll make it easy to totally sever ties with these people huh? I hope your husband comes to peace over everything, it's going to be topsy turvy for awhile though. God Bless

 

[Planogirl]

It sounds like the husband has been a good friend and may not be aware of these comments. Ugh, that makes things even worse.

I'm so sorry for all that you and your husband are dealing with. Don't let this idiot get to you, you have enough to deal with.

 

[NewRVLady]

So sorry for your family's loss.
Facebook certainly allows people to show their true feelings. .

so so true....it has made me much more aware the true feelings of others as to Politics , religion, foul language and terrible decisions......very very EYE opening!
Some treat Facebook as their diary and post thing others really should not see

 

[MrsDuck]

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sorry for your loss.