Vent about Teenagers!!!!

[4greatboys]

Originally posted by Miss Jasmine
I don't want to hijack this thread but I just had to say something about this...suggesting the kids' father's house as a punishment could do damage to their relationship with their father. We went through a time of this with DH's EX threatened to send my DSS to us because he was out of hand. He started viewing our house as a punishment even when it was our time to have him. We do have stricter rules in our house but it's not anything out of the ordinary it's just that the kids mom wants more to be their friend than to be a parent, so now she is dealing with what she has created. We would take DSS or DSD in a minute no questions asked to live with us if that is what HE or SHE wanted. But for us to be used as a threat really made me sad. Luckily we all have pretty much worked past that and the kids mom doesn't threaten that any more.

I do understand what you are saying but that is not how it is here. I dont use it as punishment, I use it as an alternative. Meaning you abide by our house rules or you can live with your dad. Im not about to have yelling contest and such. Every now and then someone if feeling a big for his britches so I bring up the alternative. Im very fair with my kids, they have many things they want--not all though, lol. When earned they have plenty of freedom to hang with friends or have their friends over. I take the boys and their friends to movies and pick them up--when many of the other parents dont.

The boys know wh