Valentine's Question

[NMAmy]

See, now that I don't get. Yes, you love your kids, but you are not "in" love with them, so I don't see what the point of celebrating with them is.

To me, Valentine's Day is about love--no matter who it is. I get something for DH, something for dd, and since my dad passed away, I send my mother roses. The holidays are hard for her without him and he always got her flowers and candy for his daughters.

It's also about friendship to me, I get all my coworkers a little bag of candy and attach a kid's style Valentine. I had one weird guy take it the wrong way--"Oh, I can't accept this. I'm married, you know." Another coworker said, "Well, I'll take it off your hands. She brings one for everyone--male and female. She doesn't want to be your REAL Valentine."

 

[mommasita]

See, now that I don't get. Yes, you love your kids, but you are not "in" love with them, so I don't see what the point of celebrating with them is.

I think you need to have kids to find out. My children's aunt and my mother buy them Valentine and Easter chocolates every year. She is not in love with them, nor is she the Easter bunny, but it sure make my kids

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I think you need to have kids to find out. My children's aunt and my mother buy them Valentine and Easter chocolates every year. She is not in love with them, nor is she the Easter bunny, but it sure make my kids

Maybe. I know when I was a kid the extent of my Valentine's celebrating was buying those boxed cards to pass around in class, but I always did get Easter baskets. Actually my grandmother still gives us Easter baskets if we are at her house, except now instead of candy she usually gives me makeup and Disney stuff.

 

[Nancyg56]

See, now that I don't get. Yes, you love your kids, but you are not "in" love with them, so I don't see what the point of celebrating with them is.

Others have explained it so much better that I could, but for me Valentine's day is about loving my family not about being "in love". I think once you have children and watch them prepare for each Holiday you will understand. We have been decorated since before Feb. 1st and my DGD is already planning her valentine box, her cards and has given me and her Pa several handmade hearts as a prelude to the "big day".

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

Not sure... I know my DH hasn;t gotten me anything for years and this year he bought a stuffed animal for a female co-worker I know I didn;t like THAT at all

That WOULD NOT go over well with me if my husband did that. Good luck with that one.

 

[megthewonderful]

A few years ago a very good friend sent me a dozen roses at work for Valentine's Day. Well, everyone thought they were from my husband. So, that was a bit hard to explain. And then when my husband saw them he felt bad because he hadn't gotten me anything so grand since we had just bought a house a few days before. My husband knew it was harmless and I called my friend and thanked him and asked what did I do to deserve such a nice gift. He then told me that I was always a wonderful friend to him and he decided that it was about time he showed his appreciation of me. It reminded me that Valentine's Day is also about how much you value a friendship and not just your significant other. Since then I often send a funny card to a friend who might not have a significant other on Valentine's Day just so they know someone is thinking of them.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

Hopefully you ONLY told your boyfriend to be honest, and not with the purpose of making him jealous. I hear of that too often

I would have rejected it as well, and been honest with this other person. But, I doubt I would have told my boyfriend, actually I know I would not. I have been there, it has no good purpose.

I agree. I don't see anything positive coming from telling your jealous boyfriend that another male gave you a gift and wanted to pay for your dinner. Nope. Wouldn't have mentioned it at all. I also wouldn't find someone being jealous funny. I don't think it's funny to make some feel insecure.

 

[Terry36]

That WOULD NOT go over well with me if my husband did that. Good luck with that one.

Why??? Do you know this female or why he is giving her a stuffed animal? I'd be finding out very quickly if I didn't know what's going on or he'd be eating that stuffed animal.

Tink_Or_Belle - ditto to both of these comments....please elaborate. I would not be happy if my DH buys someone else something and he never bought me anything!

 

[Kath2003]

I would return it, but Valentines is very specifically a couple thing over here. I wouldn't accept Valentines gifts from anyone but my partner.

 

[crzyred]

I don't believe in Valentine's Day being just for "couples". I don't like the day, but I do believe that it's a day for love in general. I send cards to friends and children that I babysit for to let them know that I'm thinking of them and that I do love them.

 

[I loveStitchnippyjon]

Valentine's Day is NOT just for Hallmark's profit...it's my ANNIVERSARY! 32 years and counting!
DH also always sends flowers to our two daughters, too. He's such a sweetheart, he doesn't even need to be reminded!

 

[Tink_Or_Belle]

Tink_Or_Belle - ditto to both of these comments....please elaborate. I would not be happy if my DH buys someone else something and he never bought me anything!

it just happened obviously as it is a valentine... but it was icy and I had to drive his car as it is 4WD mine is not I found the reciept while looking for the window scraper he said it was for our middle daugher at 1st ... then when I asked why he got a $30 stuffed animal for our middle child and nothing for the older and younger one he admitted who it was for. We have since seperated as the more I found out the worse it got like she is closer to my oldest daughters age than his. and it wasn't nearly as innocent as he made it out to be when I 1st posted ... his 1st story was she was just divorced and he was trying to cheer her up and I thought he was nice

 

[Terry36]

it just happened obviously as it is a valentine... but it was icy and I had to drive his car as it is 4WD mine is not I found the reciept while looking for the window scraper he said it was for our middle daugher at 1st ... then when I asked why he got a $30 stuffed animal for our middle child and nothing for the older and younger one he admitted who it was for. We have since seperated as the more I found out the worse it got like she is closer to my oldest daughters age than his. and it wasn't nearly as innocent as he made it out to be when I 1st posted ... his 1st story was she was just divorced and he was trying to cheer her up and I thought he was nice

Good for you! I wish you the best.