Valentine's Day is stupid---anyone else?

[chobie]

Ladies! Please. May an old married lady (25 years married) offer her suggestions? Today my DH and I are doing exactly as we planned. DH and I watched the t.v. this a.m., then DH headed out around noon to play darts. I have been doing the laundry and destashing the kitchen because our mini kitchen reno starts on Tuesday. I have a lovely meal already prepared and ready to go when DH gets back home.
After years of roses and dinners out, here is what I have found out. Florists hereabouts really up their price on roses for Valentines Day. Dinner out at a nice restaurant costs the earth, and because everyone is out for dinner, the food tends to be only so-so, the price of the "special" menus is quite high, and the service in the over-crowded restaurants is only moderate at best.
Soooo-may I suggest you select another day, sometime in the coming week, and go out for a nice relaxed meal? Or, in a week or so, have your sweetie send you some roses? There will be less stress, the prices will be lower, and you can both bask in the glow of avoiding both the rush and the inflated costs of Valentines
Just my 2 cents worth!

Old married woman myself here (20 years), and me doing laundry, destashing And cooking dinner would not be ok on any day of the year while he lies around watching tv and then going out to play... We both did chores together today then both made a nice dinner together. No presents or anything like that, but a day spent together. YMMV.

 

[Justsyd2]

I can't remember who said this...maybe Dr. Phil...but he said you'll never get anything more than what you ask for. So if you ask for nothing, you'll probably get nothing.

Sorry, but it would take less time to tell your husband what you want than to type a complaint on here.

This is so very true! My DH asked me what I wanted for Valentine's Day. I replied a Dooney (the new $43 hipster), and Godiva. That's exactly what I got. I got him Godiva Hot Chocolate, Coffee, and Chocolate, and a DVD. We are both very happy. It's all about communication!

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

lol, I pulled out $25 and my fiance pulled out $25 and we got a $50 Disney gift card to put towards our vacation package.

I know its not much, but every little bit counts

And since DD is allergic to peanuts and cant eat many chocolates we got her a mini american girl doll that I got for I think $16 with my borders coupon.

 

[buzz5985]

My bf is in Afghanistan until October. I would be thrilled with gas station flowers or crappy candy.

Jill in CO

Let him know that his sacrifices are appreciated back at home.

Janis

 

[dizcrazee]

Thanks, bumbershoot...I think you understand and you really said what I couldn't figure out how to verbalize.

It's been a rough year for us, and the fact that I was struggling with postpartum and on anti-depressants at the time didn't help. Today is the 5th day of having no pills...but I need to get off of them. Planning our next Disney adventure has helped, but today is always rough, especially when DH didn't do anything.

So here's a happy ending to my day. DH took our oldest DD to the store and got me a Valentine's surprise. I'm always amazed that he says he has trouble getting me anything when he can be so creative and thoughtful when he tries to be. So here's what he got me:

1. A letter about how he loves/appreciates me
2. He framed 2 pictures of our daughters for my desk at work. That's my favorite gift as I never buy frames or remember to print out pictures. He said that's to show how much he appreciates me going through two pregnancies and giving him 2 daughters.
3. Headbands and scrunchies for my hair. I can never find them at home when I want to put my hair up...so he wanted me to have more so I can find them when I need them. He said that's to show how beautiful he thinks I am and how he loves my curls.
4. A flashlight for my car. I get to work around 6 am and it's dark when I walk from the parking lot into the building. There are lights outside, but he said he appreciates me working (he's now a SAHD, so I work to support the family while he stays home...an arrangement I actually love) to take care of the family.
5. A calculator for my purse. I'm a math geek and usually do calculations in my head, but he said it's to show that he appreciates me taking care of the finances and keeping our family debt free and getting the mortgage paid down.
6. A spatula. He said that's to show his appreciation for me meal planning and keeping us eating healthy. We actually cook together...and I'm preparing to make my DD's birthday cake in a few weeks, so I had mentioned that I needed a new spatula as ours have all fallen to the bottom of the dishwasher at some point and gotten a little...well, messed up.

I guess my marriage surprised me for the good today. Thanks for the support...wanted to let you guys know that it got better for me today.

Awww, I'm so glad V-Day had a happy ending for you! It sounds like there's real hope here yet. I hope that love and happiness is restored in full in your family, and may your next Disney adventure add to that tremendously.

God bless.

 

[Purseval]

Is he "truly" disabled or is he one of those "I hurt my back and can't work" cases??? If it's the latter, I would get video of him doing things he shouldn't be doing and you can use that against him in a divorce also. He can threaten to drive his TRUCK thorugh your job doors but he can't work???

Do you really think the government would be sympathetic to a lady who was perfectly willing to be an accessory in a fraud when things were okay but all of a sudden grew a conscience when she wanted to end the marriage?

 

[sah95]

Here's a good one for the budget board:

My DH was at a bakery on Friday buying a loaf of bread. He came home with the bread and told me they had really nice looking heart shaped pink frosting cookies for Valentine's Day that made him think of me. He was going to buy me one (I have been sick and stuck at home) but when he found out it cost $2.50, he told them no way because he couldn't in good conscious spend that much on a single cookie.

Does he have a brother???

 

[Gigi22]

Day after Valentines Day bulletin -- continuing my kitchen destashing so as to be ready for the contractor at 8 a.m. tomorrow. Also finishing up laundry. Working my way through my big old heart-shaped box of Godiva, with coffee. Talking to my cats. Life is so good!
I hope everyone who was bummed out yesterday, or even just a bit blue, is finding today a better day!

 

[autumnsmommy]

Do you really think the government would be sympathetic to a lady who was perfectly willing to be an accessory in a fraud when things were okay but all of a sudden grew a conscience when she wanted to end the marriage?

He is actually disabled, unfortunately, he is also an abusive jerk.
I'm not an accessory to fraud now, I'm just tired of being miserable in the marriage. The only thing i would be able to catch on tape would be one of his tirades.

 

[Tigge50447]

For YEARS I have had horrible valentine's days. Last year wasn't bad, I was single and a bunch of my single girl friends went out for drinks then to the movies. It was fun.... This year I am dating someone and was afraid of my "cursed" past valentine's days so I asked if we could go to this local place that serves the BEST wings and have wings and beer. It truely was the best Vday yet. It was simple and fun.

yum.... winks.