I made the mistake of posting the question if I could take my 4month old DD to the Chefs Table . The response I received was unpleasant. After DH and I read thru the "thread" we decide not to do it. In retrospect I should have done it and NEVER posted the question. My DD slept thru every meal we had at WDW as I had figured she would, and I could have had one last nice dinner with my DH and parents. Since our past trip my parents have decided not to join us at WDW anymore.
I would love to take all 3 of my DD (1.6.9) to V&A but I think they rather have a 100$ each of toys then one meal,lol. If I ever do take them I would reserve the Chefs table since it is more private. However I don't think I would take the challenge of fine dinning with a 1,2,3 yo anywhere. At those ages even McDonalds is a challenge.
There are also many restaurants with fine dinning that are more kid friendly the V&A. Another option, what I was planning, in room baby sitting for the 2 &3yo and bring the baby to the chefs table if its really that important to go to V&A.