Update on my wife's work situation

[vivilasvegas]

Is it all possible for her to leave her job? Or at least take a leave of absence until this is taken care of?

How scary.

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

I don't remember if this was mentioned - there have been many posts giving your wife support. Would it be possible for your wife to start taking some type of Martial Arts lessons? I think they may help her to learn to relax her mind & also to help her with self protection. Another option - would she be willing to get a gun or some Mace with the proper permits. She should be able to get one or the other just because of her position in the store & having to deal with "large amounts of cash" to bring for a deposit.

Actually, prior to getting sick 5 yrs ago, DW was working on getting a black belt in Kickboxing. She was about a year away from her goal when this stupid disease took it away. Plus she was trained by her Kickboxing instructors in Street Fighting. They taught her how to kill people with her bare hands. (and I married her anyway!) She was an awesome kickboxer and constantly tested at a 98% or higher when she graduated belt levels, but this disease has eaten away at her joints and muscles so I don't know how much strength she would have in a fight now. She used to have an awesome roundkick that would knock the stuffing out of you. Might have to break out the forearm sheilds and see if she can still do some damage.

 

[mrsheppo]

So sorry that this is still happening for your DW. I hope the matter will be resolved shortly. Hope she will be feeling better soon.

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

Is it all possible for her to leave her job? Or at least take a leave of absence until this is taken care of?

How scary.

She thought of this. It would be no issue to go out on medical leave because this is literally killing her. She woke up at least once every hour last night crying from the pain until she would pass out again.

Problem with this is my DW is very dedicated to her staff and she would protect them to the end. I don't know if she would abandon them like this, especially with some of them coming to her and telling her they are scared as well.

I'm very tempted to call her boss and tell her that I am going to call DW's Rheumatologist and tell him what is going on and have him put her in the hospital for a day or two if he has to. I think it would be better for her if she wasn't even in the store when the company takes the road trip down to visit this idiot.

 

[MsDisney23]

I am so sorry to hear that this is still going on. I hope ML is feeling better. Sounds like this guy needs a Blanket Party. A Blanket Party is where a blanket is thrown over his head and he ends up with a good butt kicking!

 

[anut4disney]

I am so sorry for everything your poor dw is going through. Please tell her my prayers are with her and this nut case is let go.

 

[Planogirl]

I can't believe how that company dawdles and takes its time while dealing with this guy. There's just no excuse for someone like that working with the public; actually working with anyone!

I hope that this gets resolved soon.

 

[soccerchick]

Hugs to you and your DW. I miss seeing her on the boards. I hope and pray this will be resolved well and soon!

 

[mum4jenn]

Thanks for the update. I can NOT believe this is still going on. I was hoping the reason we had not heard anything else was that it was all taken care of and you guys were just celebrating and did not have the time to update us. I will say a prayer for her because this is just sickening.

 

[karebear1]

So sorry to hear taht you are STILL having to deal with this guy. Please let your DW know that you are all in our thoughts nad prayers. Thanks for the update. Hope it gets better FAST!

 

[ChrisnSteph]

Please forgive me if I've missed something - why on earth can't the company terminate this guy? And why would your wife want to continue to work for a place that doesn't protect her or go to bat for her? This makes no sense to me. If this man is as threatening and hostile as you say, than your wife should get a restraining order against this man, and sooner than later. I'm just not understanding this.

 

[kaylajr]

You know how I feel about this whole thing
but please give her a HUG for me

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

Please forgive me if I've missed something - why on earth can't the company terminate this guy? And why would your wife want to continue to work for a place that doesn't protect her or go to bat for her? This makes no sense to me. If this man is as threatening and hostile as you say, than your wife should get a restraining order against this man, and sooner than later. I'm just not understanding this.

It's not that simple

How does someone that needs $4000 worth of medication a month just to be able to walk, walk away from the job that is paying for her insurance that pays for her medicine?

How does someone walk away from a job when their spouse was laid off and hasn't been able to find any work in his field and is taking a retail job in the interim until something comes along?

How does someone that has as much dedication to her staff and cares as much as my DW does turn her back on them and walk away, leaving them with this idiot?

And getting a restraining order is not as easy as telling someone "I don't like the way he looks at me and he's got a temper". There has to be a cut and dry reason. He actually has to do something to her other than call her vulgar terms behind her back. My wife can't get a restraining order on him by going to the police and telling them "I know this person and something is not right. I see him glaring at me from across the room with an icy stare and I'm afraid". Unfortunately, even though my wife and her staff know this person and are scared of the recent developments - you can't get a restraining order off of that. Now if he actually threatens her life or lays a hand on her - then she can do it.

 

[SC Minnie]

This guy sounds like he may be on drugs or truly mentally unstable.

I worked retail in college and if anyone ever treated a customer like this guy did they were terminated. Period.

I am so sorry she is going through this.

 

[chrissyk]

It's not that simple

How does someone that needs $4000 worth of medication a month just to be able to walk, walk away from the job that is paying for her insurance that pays for her medicine?

How does someone walk away from a job when their spouse was laid off and hasn't been able to find any work in his field and is taking a retail job in the interim until something comes along?

How does someone that has as much dedication to her staff and cares as much as my DW does turn her back on them and walk away, leaving them with this idiot?

And getting a restraining order is not as easy as telling someone "I don't like the way he looks at me and he's got a temper". There has to be a cut and dry reason. He actually has to do something to her other than call her vulgar terms behind her back. My wife can't get a restraining order on him by going to the police and telling them "I know this person and something is not right. I see him glaring at me from across the room with an icy stare and I'm afraid". Unfortunately, even though my wife and her staff know this person and are scared of the recent developments - you can't get a restraining order off of that. Now if he actually threatens her life or lays a hand on her - then she can do it.

Can she take a leave of absence and get COBRA until this is resolved? A job isn't worth losing your life over. This guy sounds truly unstable.

Has your wife made an actual police report on this guy yet? He is making false claims to loss prevention, and he is scaring her. She can document that with the police at least. Then she will have that much more ammunition should she have cause to get a restraining order against him in the future. BTW, I am not sure what a restraining order buys a person, other than a paper trail. A piece of paper won't stop a truly deranged person from harming another. I would be afraid that terminating this guy would push him over the edge. Is there any way to find out if he has a history of violence/mental illness? It might be worth hiring a private investigator to find out what you are truly up against in terms of his instability/potential for violence.

Has your wife thought about contacting a lawyer? Maybe if she went on the offensive, this guy would back off. Then again, maybe he is so truly unstable that that's not a good idea.

 

[mickeyboat]

Denae

 

[Alicnwondrln]

im so sorry i was hoping that no news was good news and he would have been fired now
your wife is to loyal to this company they have totally failed her
im so sorry she isnt doing well
i hope that you get this resolved soon and have a happy holidays
your wife doesnt deserve this
karma is gonna get this guy and he will deserve all of it

 

[Shugardrawers]

This is what really concerns me about the whole thing. When this guy is finally fired, will she be safe? If something does happen can the company be held liable for anything considering how long they've allowed this to go on? I'm not a big one for suing over nothing but it seems to me that the situation has been allowed to escalate so far out of control she ought to have recourse should anything continue after he's terminated. This is a sick, sick individual and I don't think a piece of paper is going to stop him if he really sees her as the cause of all his problems. I'm suprised her other employees have stayed on. I'd have walked out. I do understand her motivation for staying though. I have a job that I really should quit due to health reasons but I just can't. I wouldn't be at all suprised to learn that her health has declined so much due to the extreme stress at work.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

It's not that simple

How does someone that needs $4000 worth of medication a month just to be able to walk, walk away from the job that is paying for her insurance that pays for her medicine?

How does someone walk away from a job when their spouse was laid off and hasn't been able to find any work in his field and is taking a retail job in the interim until something comes along?

How does someone that has as much dedication to her staff and cares as much as my DW does turn her back on them and walk away, leaving them with this idiot?

And getting a restraining order is not as easy as telling someone "I don't like the way he looks at me and he's got a temper". There has to be a cut and dry reason. He actually has to do something to her other than call her vulgar terms behind her back. My wife can't get a restraining order on him by going to the police and telling them "I know this person and something is not right. I see him glaring at me from across the room with an icy stare and I'm afraid". Unfortunately, even though my wife and her staff know this person and are scared of the recent developments - you can't get a restraining order off of that. Now if he actually threatens her life or lays a hand on her - then she can do it.

Sorry, I wasn't aware of all the other issues. I understand now why she can't just walk away - thanks for clarifying! Good luck to you and your wife.

 

[luvwinnie]

I can't believe this...I mean WHAT do you have to do to get fired at that place? If he does actually try to injure someone, I'd think they are liable.

Prayers and hugs for you and ML!!!!