Hi everyone.
I just came here to post an update on our family for those who may be interested. It also helps to get this stuff off my chest.
Unfortunately I really can't report good news. I would never have thought that this accident would affect us in such a way. DD has taken a turn for the worse. She has been acting out in school and we have to go in for a meeting with the principle this week. She is still not sleeping, waking up from nightmares. She is still very fearful in the car and is just really angry most of the time. We have taken her to see a certified social worker and she has been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. We are really working hard trying to get her back on track.
DH has to go see an orthopedic surgeon because he has rocks and glass stuck in his arm. He also has terrible pains in his knees. We don't know what that's about yet. He also has back and neck pain still and goes to physical theropy 3x's a week. He has been back to his therapist and has also been diagnosed with PTSD and will need to go back on meds(he had to go on them after 9/11)for his anxiety attacks.
As for me, I have just been a mess. I'm so woried about DH, and DD. I also have been diagnosed with PTSD and was told I need to go on meds to help with my anxiety. I'm not sure how I feel about that. I also go to PT 3x's a week for my back and neck. Talking to the therapist has helped a bit.
DH is out of work and we have no choice but to cancel our trip to Disney. I am so said about this. We all are. We were so looking foward to it because right now we all could really use a vacation. Just to get away from it all. Just for a few days of forgetting what's going on. A moment to escape all the Dr's and insurance companies. A moment to not have to keep talking about the accident and answering questions about it to everyone. We all were ready to take the step to just get in the car, face our fears and drive down. But, now that DH isn't doing well, it's not the best time. His health comes first. We can always reschedual.
Then last night I get terrible news that my dad, who has been sober for 20 years has "fallen off the wagon" and started drinking again.(not sure if that's all he's doing) I am so disapointed and hurt by this news. My older sis and I had a really tough childhood growing up with an addict(it was way more than just alcohol)and this truely was one of our worst fears. We just love him so much but his disease has won again. I am so sad. This news couldn't have come at a worse time. I just feel like things are falling apart. I am also so sad for my 13yo sister. Thankfully she never knew the father my older sis and I know. She is so close to him and really looks up to him. Finding this out will crush her. Maybe we shouldn't have kept the past a secret from her. This is just going to be such a huge shock to her. I wanted to protect her from the monster he was and now it seems like I can't do that. She will see a side of him that is really ugly. I am also afraid my mom won't let him be around my sis too much if he goes back to the way he was. This will kill him. Not enough to stop what he's doing but enough that he would really put himself in danger and not care about his life anymore.
I am really trying hard to take things day by day. I had another panic attatch last night and I'm trying really hard to keep it together. Please, I hate to ask this of my DIS friends again, but if you can spare some prayers or advice I'd really appreciate it.
I just came here to post an update on our family for those who may be interested. It also helps to get this stuff off my chest.
Unfortunately I really can't report good news. I would never have thought that this accident would affect us in such a way. DD has taken a turn for the worse. She has been acting out in school and we have to go in for a meeting with the principle this week. She is still not sleeping, waking up from nightmares. She is still very fearful in the car and is just really angry most of the time. We have taken her to see a certified social worker and she has been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. We are really working hard trying to get her back on track.
DH has to go see an orthopedic surgeon because he has rocks and glass stuck in his arm. He also has terrible pains in his knees. We don't know what that's about yet. He also has back and neck pain still and goes to physical theropy 3x's a week. He has been back to his therapist and has also been diagnosed with PTSD and will need to go back on meds(he had to go on them after 9/11)for his anxiety attacks.
As for me, I have just been a mess. I'm so woried about DH, and DD. I also have been diagnosed with PTSD and was told I need to go on meds to help with my anxiety. I'm not sure how I feel about that. I also go to PT 3x's a week for my back and neck. Talking to the therapist has helped a bit.
DH is out of work and we have no choice but to cancel our trip to Disney. I am so said about this. We all are. We were so looking foward to it because right now we all could really use a vacation. Just to get away from it all. Just for a few days of forgetting what's going on. A moment to escape all the Dr's and insurance companies. A moment to not have to keep talking about the accident and answering questions about it to everyone. We all were ready to take the step to just get in the car, face our fears and drive down. But, now that DH isn't doing well, it's not the best time. His health comes first. We can always reschedual.
Then last night I get terrible news that my dad, who has been sober for 20 years has "fallen off the wagon" and started drinking again.(not sure if that's all he's doing) I am so disapointed and hurt by this news. My older sis and I had a really tough childhood growing up with an addict(it was way more than just alcohol)and this truely was one of our worst fears. We just love him so much but his disease has won again. I am so sad. This news couldn't have come at a worse time. I just feel like things are falling apart. I am also so sad for my 13yo sister. Thankfully she never knew the father my older sis and I know. She is so close to him and really looks up to him. Finding this out will crush her. Maybe we shouldn't have kept the past a secret from her. This is just going to be such a huge shock to her. I wanted to protect her from the monster he was and now it seems like I can't do that. She will see a side of him that is really ugly. I am also afraid my mom won't let him be around my sis too much if he goes back to the way he was. This will kill him. Not enough to stop what he's doing but enough that he would really put himself in danger and not care about his life anymore.
I am really trying hard to take things day by day. I had another panic attatch last night and I'm trying really hard to keep it together. Please, I hate to ask this of my DIS friends again, but if you can spare some prayers or advice I'd really appreciate it.
first 
Sorry you had to cancel your trip. Let's hope everyone gets back on their feet soon, including you, mom.
Like you said, the health of everyone is more important. Don't forget to take care of yourself in the meantime.
