I found my biological mother 12 years ago after not seeing her for 25 years. I grew up with memories of her and her mother (my Grandmother) as many memories as a 3 year old can remember.
I called her instead of sending a letter which I'm sure was a shock to her. We met at a restaurant in 1990 for our first meeting, then we got together a couple of times a year for the next four years, now I haven't seen her again for the past 8 years.
I grew up with my Dad and we are a very close family, but she is just a "cold duck". I always felt like during our visits with our families and her,she kept thinking whew, that's over with....like it was her duty to see and get to know me. So after 4 years I never initiated another visit and she hasn't mentioned it either. She's just a cold duck. I talk to her on the phone and that's the extent of it. Nothing like you see on T.V.
I think what we are all hoping for when we finally meet our biologicals is...a warm, acceptance into their lives. It wasn't that way for me though.
I hope your experience is better than mine. I know many people who have met their biologicals that become very close, but it's not always that way.
All I can say is that she is a big disapointment, I'm glad I take after my DAD!
I know what you are feeling right now though, the anticipation and excitement of getting a response to your letter...or your first glimpse of them. I suggest keeping a little journal of your feelings and actual responses. It's a good way to keep the memory alive! Wow 2 stepbrothers....now that's exciting.
I'll be looking forward to hearing how things unfold for you!
I wish you the best
