Unusual Requests on an Invitation

[pfishgirl]

Have you ever sent or received and invitation to a party, wedding, etc etc and had an odd messages written in... ??????????

We received a wedding invitation and inside it said, all money gifts should please be checks made out to bride and groom's name, not made out to cash and please don't include cash, thank you..

are brides and grooms getting ripped off these days at their own weddings??

 

[mtblujeans]

Hmmmm.....maybe the bride doesn't trust her new MIL???

 

[Marseeya]

I don't know, but I actually think that is a good idea (especially for the checks).

When DH and I got married, we had all kinds of problems trying to deal with all the checks we got. The few that were made out as cash, the banks didn't want to cash. The ones made out in my married name, the banks made me wait until I could bring in my license. The ones made out in my maiden name, they even gave me a little grief. It was ridiculous! It was as if the bank had never had to deal with anyone who ever got married before.

The request might sound a little demanding, but I know I sure wouldn't want my money gift to give the married couple any hassles.

 

[MamaLema]

I think it's tacky and rude.

 

[jbdreamer]

Their idea probably has good intentions, but I always thought it was proper etiquette not to mention gifts in a invitation unless it's for a shower.

 

[puffkin]

Cards at a wedding can go "missing". It may be a security thing. Cash is easy to steal, checks would provide added assurance that the thief wouldn't be getting anything.

We didn't have any problems cashing any of our checks, regardless of how they were made out (though I have never seen a check made out to CASH unless I was drawing on my own account). I just endorsed in my maiden name (still on account) and wrote For Deposit Only on the back.

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

Please tell me this invitation wasn't sent out from the South....because folks around here would skip the wedding if they got a note like that on the invite!!!

 

[kelleigh1]

I have heard of weddings where the cards were stolen from the gift table, out of the card baskets (cages, etc.). For our wedding, (especially since we were in a state where they only give monetary gifts), I built a wedding cake card box. It looked just like a wedding cake. Guest slid their cards through a slot in the top "layer" and it fell all the way to the bottom layer. There was no way that anyone was going to be able to steal any cards out without us knowing it. When we got back to our room after the reception...we literally had to cut the box apart with a pair of scissors.

It's sad...but there are people who do steal from weddings. I would never give cash or a check payable to cash as a gift for this reason alone.

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

Wow--I don't think I know anyone who's ever had the problem of people STEALING from a wedding!

It makes you wonder about your quality of friends, huh?

 

[ziggystardust]

Not just stealing... It is very easy amid all thats happening for a bride or a groom to misplace the card. If there is cash in there, its as good as gone, if its a check written out specifically to the bride and groom, the check can be cancelled if need be.


I think its a little tacky, but I understand it.

 

[msdznyduck]

Wow--I don't think I know anyone who's ever had the problem of people STEALING from a wedding!

It makes you wonder about your quality of friends, huh?

I don't think it necessarily has to be a friend...could be anyone that has access to the gifts.
I went to a wedding where the gift table was near the door, and all kinds of people were going past the door.

 

[Bob Slydell]

It's not bad advice, but not exactly something that you'd expect to see in the wedding invitation itself.

 

[pfishgirl]

Nope the wedding is in PA not south at all...

yea, It made me "think" about what type of guests will be attending this wedding.. I'm still holding onto the RSVP at the moment..

Come to think about it Yes, we have been to weddings where the gift table was near a door.. Any Joe Schmoe could easily snatch a few and walk away unnoticed but, I would move the gift table location beore I make a special request on my invitations..

I was thinking that maybe the new couple are planning on just depositing all the checks in one account, like maybe a new joint account or something, so then they would need something to start the account off with and maybe checks are just easier??

I don't know if I would consider this being really tacky or rude, it's just something I don't think I'd ever do..

 

[HollyJoy]

I think it's a bit tacky!

 

[Linnie The Pooh]

Yeah, I'm not sure if this is tacky or rude either. I agree though that maybe it was a precaution with cards getting lost and stuff.

I know with my wedding a lot of cards got separated from gifts so I didn't know who gave me what with several presents. Whenever I give a gift, I tape the card to the present, then wrap both together.

I had a friend who enclosed this little card with her invitations that said something like, "Instead of a gift, please give money so we can use it to help pay for our honeymoon." It wasn't worded quite this badly-I forgot how they put it, but I thought it was still a little tacky.

 

[puffkin]

Wow--I don't think I know anyone who's ever had the problem of people STEALING from a wedding!

It makes you wonder about your quality of friends, huh?

The reception hall manager told us that most times, the theft of cards occurs from catering employees and other workers and not the guests themselves. They put the gift table on the opposite side of the room. Also, many times you may not know all the people at your wedding, so a stranger could easily slip in and grab some cards and no one would notice. We were advised to keep our cards in something big and bulky (we did a decorated bird cage) and keep the table away from the door.

 

[kelleigh1]

Wow--I don't think I know anyone who's ever had the problem of people STEALING from a wedding!

It makes you wonder about your quality of friends, huh?

Friends and family bring guests. And there is also the staff. These people are all total strangers and unfortunately, not everyone can be trusted.


Here is a picture of the card box which I'd made for our reception. The table was placed right near our sweetheart table, so nobody would be able to tamper with it without us noticing.

 

[mtemm]

Its probably because of stealing. Yes, people do steal wedding cards from weddings. Often weddings are held in hotels and other public places, and theives prey on them. At a couple of weddings we went to someone was caught rifling thru the envelopes.

 

[marlasmom]

THe country club that catered my dd's wedding picked up all the cards and put them in the safe. We did not know they were going to do that and I was not concerned considering the guests and location, but it was very thoughtful.

 

[OhMari]

We received a 25th Wedding Anniv. invitation for a Friday nite from 7-11 p.m. It said snacks at 8:00 p.m. with a person playing the guitar and singing.

Then it said, "In leau of gifts, we would like to make our dream vacation a possibility to Alaska next June."

I cracked up laughing, at first I thought, wow I get out of giving a gift. I never intended not to give something, but after I read it, I thought, "holy cow, they want people to fund money towards their vacation."