I feel bad for people who do stake out websites and wake at 5am for ADRs. In my last 12 trips in the past 4 years, I have never done either of those things and have always had a great time. I think people put too much pressure on themselves to "maximize their enjoyment." They feel they didn't get their money's worth if they don't squeeze maximum value out of each second, then they wonder why they need a vacation when they get home!!
My advice to those people who are feeling frustrated by planning and waking early for ADRs and such: next Disney trip, just make resort reservations and two ADRs. Plan nothing else. Go with the flow and see how your vacation turns out
Personally, I think you're still making a lot of assumptions about how others tour.
I wake up to get BOG ADRs, not because I feel like I have to "get my money's worth" or "squeeze maximum value out of each second" - but because I actually enjoy the atmosphere and the food. So, while I do get annoyed that I have to wake up early - usually on multiple days - to get those ADRs, that doesn't mean my actual vacation is stressful.
DH and I very much enjoy the different restaurants at WDW, so ADRs for BOG, CA Grill, etc, are integral parts of the magic of our vacation. The planning I do ahead of time allows us to be go with the flow with the rest of our time at WDW.
Don't get me wrong..I still think it's ridiculous to have to plan those meals 180 days ahead, but it would be *more* stressful to hope that there was walk up availability, so plan ahead I do. In doing so DH and I experience things we really enjoy together. That's what vacation is all about, isn't it? Relaxing and enjoying the things that make a vacation special for your family?
My way may not be your way, or any one else's way, but it's what we love, and that's all that matters.
ETA: If planning caused frustration on the actual vacation, we'd go to DLR instead of WDW. There's no need to plan so far in advance for DLR. We've decided less than a week beforehand to go to DLR, and have still been able to get Blue Bayou reservations (the only one we bother with at DLR).
Basically what I'm saying is you can't equate being frustrated with planning ahead to actually having a stressful/frustrating vacation. They don't always go hand in hand.