Unhelpful Replies

[PixieDustandEeyore]

That is silly.

I was just told by another poster to go back to the Transportation Board where I (apparently) belong, as I dared to answer what was a transportation related question on the resorts board. A poster was upset that they would have to pay a change fee to change the date on their non-refundable ticket. Which is typical. When a couple of us pointed that out, I was singled out and told to go back and post where I belong.

I understand that it is easy to blame the airline for every little thing that goes wrong, but sometimes, it is not their fault. How can people spend hundreds of dollars on an airline ticket and not know what that gets them?

The resort board is getting vicious I know which thread you are speaking of.
Another one today was about cleaning experiences and someone responded with that their daughter shouldn't eat cereal in bed. I didn't know we couldn't eat in bed on vacation (thats half the fun for me haha).

And the story about the son and the nails is a wonderful story. I almost think that story should be a sticky on every board to encourage compassion and empathy!...all the boards are getting so vicious. I find myself living on the trip report and dining report boards as everyone is usually pretty nice there

But I must say I do enjoy reading some of the unwarranted responses on here it can be entertaining and for a good laugh. Then I remember how my feelings were hurt before from mean posts and I stop laughing. (but sometimes they are so outrageous I can't stop)

 

[Lanshark]

In a community this large you are going to have many differing opinions and many ways of expressing those opinions. You are going to have different levels of communication and different social skills abilities. You are going to have people with thick skins and those that are thin skinned. You are going to have jerks and people who are wonderful.

I have seen PTA meetings, board meetings, neighborhood watch meetings, and church meetings turn nasty. Why would this be any different?

If I think a thread is silly I don't the thread; problem solved. If I don't like the subject matter I don't open the thread; problem solved. If I think the poster is full of bull, I don't open the thread; problem solved.

There are people who state their opinion and then are easily offended when others don't agree.

There are people who are actually looking for a reason to become incensed.

There are those people who use intimidation and bullying tactics to express themselves.

There are those that bait others daring them to say something.

There are people who are well versed on being able to give constructive criticism without offending.

There are sincere posters who are just looking for advice, support or a sounding board.

I believe the good, caring, sincere posters far outnumber the bullies.

There are ALL kinds represented in any community. This community is no different. I've been around for 10 years and this place is actually tamer than I've ever seen it. If you are going to say something on a public forum, just like in real life, you had better be prepared to handle the responses you may receive. Unfortunately, not all people are nice. I try my best to ignore the jerks. Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I give them exactly what they want.

 

[themilesfamily]

One thing this board really has going for it is great moderators. They're remarkably on top of things and they do prevent rudeness from getting out of hand. Someone may start it, but the mods seem to stop it pretty quickly.

Heck, I was called an idiot on another message board yesterday, (actually, I was called an "idoit" -- and I appreciated the irony of that immensely.)

It would be very unusual to see someone go that far on the DISboards -- and if it did, the mods would intervene.

So, on the DIS, you can THINK I'm an idiot -- you just can't say it. Just the way I like it.

 

[DisMN]

Heck, I was called an idiot on another message board yesterday, (actually, I was called an "idoit" -- and I appreciated the irony of that immensely.)

That is

 

[LilyWDW]

Heck, I was called an idiot on another message board yesterday, (actually, I was called an "idoit" -- and I appreciated the irony of that immensely.)

Gotta love when someone tries to insult you... but can't even spell it right!

 

[DMRick]

[QUOTE="Got Disney";37716064]

There are some really nasty folks on here....but there are some really great kind ones also.

For some folks it's easy for them to talk trash because they are not standing in your face.....so for them all respect for others just goes out the door. [/QUOTE]

And there are some that will post here all nicey nice, and people will think they are so sweet, but they will send a pm that shows a whole different person. So they still have respect from the masses, but have a different face when it's not showing.

It just goes to show you, that it goes both ways.

 

[DMRick]

Totally j/k...your post actually did make me laugh out loud. I see it ALL the time. Rude comments + = kumbaya.

LOL..I do see that a lot on the Dis..and it does make me laugh.

 

[Big Kid]

In my opinion, the OP's post was just as unhelpful as the replies he was being disheartened by.

By posting a "why can't we all be nicer and kinder and more helpful" thread, the OP is (consciously or not) setting themselves up as the person who is doing it "right" -- the one who is behaving properly. And he is telling us all how we should behave so that we can be kind and proper and nice just like him.

And those are the kinds of posts that bug me the most. They come off as condescending and scolding, even the mild-mannered posts like the one that started this thread. Because they assume that the rest of us have not thought of this radical way to behave and simply need to be told.

Thanks for the feedback, WDSearcher. Are you saying that there are neither right nor wrong ways to communicate via internet forums?

 

[Big Kid]

That's just it - you don't understand the politics of Disney forums. You think it's just some place you goto the discuss character meal experiences.

Disney is a company with a long history and customers with a vested interest in the health of the company.

There's a constant battle for the quality of the parks - your stupid princess meal replaced what I thought was a good authentic cultural dining experience. The ridiculous Pixie Hollow would have taken money from other projects - ones with real rides.

There is not enough money for everything. Feedback is measured and tallied and the popular ideas win. Shaming people away so they wont post about stupid princess meals is just one tactic used to get rid of the riff-raff whose opinion isn't worth anything.

See what I did there?

I am such a slow learner! I had not thought about DISboard traffic as a way to influence WDW policies and planning. Thanks for clueing me in, mousermerf.

 

[mousermerf]

I am such a slow learner! I had not thought about DISboard traffic as a way to influence WDW policies and planning. Thanks for clueing me in, mousermerf.

Sarcasm aside, there is a very real reason Disney wants to control social media via the Parks' Blog, Moms panel, D23, etc..

DLR obviously has Miceage and Al Lutz sort of over their shoulder, but there's not any defining voice for WDW. However, the DIS is notable for its sheer size - are you aware it's been mentioned in Disney's own surveys while most other sites have not?

 

[wdw4life]

And there are some that will post here all nicey nice, and people will think they are so sweet, but they will send a pm that shows a whole different person. So they still have respect from the masses, but have a different face when it's not showing.

It just goes to show you, that it goes both ways.

A few years ago I was participating in a game thread and made a mistake. Well the OP flipped out and sent me a nasty message. Up until then she had seemed really nice and fun. Definitely changed my opinion of her.

 

[Big Kid]

Did this thread get moved from another board topic here? There's a bunch of posters names I don't recognize from the CB.
If you're use to hanging out on the CB then you would know we don't play that way.

Hi, Phorsenuf. I posted this in the Community Board because I thought that this sub-forum (is that the right word to describe Community Board?) would be of the most general interest. I'm a DISboards omnivore and read about most topics when I have time, and hadn't noticed that some folks tend to congregate in particular places.

 

[Big Kid]

I agree.

It seems to me that we get these "Can't we all just get along?" posts every month or so on the CB, to which I have to respond, "Stop spending all your time on the CB and you'll see plenty of positive, upbeat, cheerful people in the other forums." The entire DIS can't be lumped into just the CB. The entire board IS all about trip planning and the CB is merely a very small subset of the DIS community (as it should be).

My apologies, Carly. My original post was not prompted by anything that I recall having read on the Community Board. I posted here because I thought that this would be a place where most readers would see the title of the post, and read it if they cared to.

The unkind and unhelpful posts that I alluded to appeared in a number of other sub-forums.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

I don't care what anyone on here says...

DON'T use my DECORATIVE TOWELS!

Now there's one I haven't seen in awhile.

 

[maxiesmom]

A few years ago I was participating in a game thread and made a mistake. Well the OP flipped out and sent me a nasty message. Up until then she had seemed really nice and fun. Definitely changed my opinion of her.

What, did you get Ride it or Don't Ride It confused with Agree, Disagree, or Have No Opinion?

 

[Poppinsme]

Well I'm one of the ones that posted a poll on the resort board and got ripped apart.
It became a personal attack on me. Fine I defended myself. Then it really got bad.
What started as an innocent question out of curiosity became totally crazy.
There are posters on this thread now that trashed me.

And lets not forget that there is a message board that was created only to make fun of people posting on the DIS boards. And they called me every name in the book and used every four letter word you can think of. I got emailed about that. Over a poll.

Do I care? No. Its the internet baby.

 

[PixieDustandEeyore]

Well I'm one of the ones that posted a poll on the resort board and got ripped apart.
It became a personal attack on me. Fine I defended myself. Then it really got bad.
What started as an innocent question out of curiosity became totally crazy.
There are posters on this thread now that trashed me.

And lets not forget that there is a message board that was created only to make fun of people posting on the DIS boards. And they called me every name in the book and used every four letter word you can think of. I got emailed about that. Over a poll.

Do I care? No. Its the internet baby.

But its not fair to share the Poly beach If thats the pool you meant ... yeah you gotta let things slide off your back lol

 

[Planogirl]

Well I'm one of the ones that posted a poll on the resort board and got ripped apart.
It became a personal attack on me. Fine I defended myself. Then it really got bad.
What started as an innocent question out of curiosity became totally crazy.
There are posters on this thread now that trashed me.

And lets not forget that there is a message board that was created only to make fun of people posting on the DIS boards. And they called me every name in the book and used every four letter word you can think of. I got emailed about that. Over a poll.

Do I care? No. Its the internet baby.

I miss so much...

You've got to let these things go. People will say what they want on the web and you can't stop that.

As for this thread, the rest of you are wrong about everything! There, I've covered it all, now what was everyone saying?

 

[maxiesmom]

Well I'm one of the ones that posted a poll on the resort board and got ripped apart.
It became a personal attack on me. Fine I defended myself. Then it really got bad.
What started as an innocent question out of curiosity became totally crazy.
There are posters on this thread now that trashed me.

I know that post well. You have to know that when you start making comments about how hard your work for your vacation and how others visit WDW on welfare money, that it can't go anywhere good. Talk about inflammatory comments!

 

[SandrA9810]

this is a really interesting topic, and for some reason it just keeps me laughing.

Although the biggest laugh came from:

1 forum lurker to respond to the original post 6 months from now and start it all over again

How true it is...