Underage drinking party

[MushyMushy]

Remember my whole saga with DS spending the night at his GF's when she had that party?

Well, I found out there's going to be another one tomorrow night.

Can I go and wring this mother's neck? It would give me such satisfaction.

Help me figure out a way to do something about this party without causing a big fuss. I don't want any repurcussions to come back on my family. I'm going to be student teaching most of these kids in less than two weeks, too, so I'd like to keep my name out of it. I thought about just finding a way to keep DS home that night, but to tell you the truth, I feel a duty to break up the party. If one of those kids drove drunk and hurt themselves or anybody else, I couldn't live with myself.

 

[GEM]

I'd call the police. No question.

 

[Sandy V.]

Well, your first priority is to keep your son safe, so if I were in your shoes, there is NO way he'd be leaving the house tomorrow night. No matter how loud he squawked, threatened, etc., you and DH need to put up a united front and say "No, you are not going." Even if you and your DH have to sit on him to keep him in the house!!

As for the party itself, maybe an anonymous phone call to your local law enforcement office telling them about the party and its location might be in order. They usually appreciate "tips" like this, and no one would need to know where it came from, so your family wouldn't be targeted.

Good luck - as my tag says, parenting is NOT for sissies!!

 

[EthansMom]

I agree with the PP. I would call the police.

You could tell the police that you'd like to keep your name out of it. They should be able to respond to the party without getting your name involved at all.

 

[MushyMushy]

The so-called "police" did nothing for us the last time when we told them a party was going on, so I don't have all that much faith in them.

A few minutes ago, I found a hotline for underage drinking, so I called them to see what to do. They said I need more details than what I have, so I need to do some more detective work.

 

[cardaway]

Another vote for calling the police. I know we were visited enough when I was that age.

 

[Aidensmom]

I'd tell my son he is not going to an underage drinking party, no if's, and's or but's....and I'd call the police.

 

[AprilShowers]

I don't know what kind of town you live in, but our police department would be all over that.
They love that kind of stuff. They would gladly take an anonymous tip and take all steps necessary to investigate.
If I were you, I would call the police anyway. At least you will know you did the right thing.
If they don't investigate, and something bad does happen. A little phone call to the local newspaper might do the trick. Maybe you have a little corruption in your police dept?

I also agree with the other posters about your son NOT going to this party. I would make it seem like we have a VERY important family obligation that he just can NOT miss. He can make you the bad guy. That way he isn't uncool in his friends eyes.

Good luck with this situation. I hope this lunatic mother gets what she deserves.

 

[MushyMushy]

Well, there's no question about him staying home or me calling the cops about the party. I'm just trying to come up with the best way to do it with as little drama as possible.

When I called that 800 number, they explained that they would be the ones calling the local police. It's harder to blow off their own organization than it is a private citizen.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

Maybe you could call from payphone around there the night of & complain about noise disturbances or something. Maybe the police would be more interested if you tell them you suspect drug use too. Good luck!

 

[Laz]

DO keep your child away and DO call the police!

If you about this party, do nothing, and a child is injured, you could be held liable for not reporting it. You could be charged or sued. The parents allowing this party are breaking the law, and by not reporting it, you could be breaking the law as well.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Hey Mushy,

If I am remembering right, you were not sure of the exact location of the party. (or am I mistaken) If so, then could that be why the police were unable to respond???

If you have all the details, then I'll bet they might do something about it this time???

If it is probably supposed to be a loud kind of party, then it would be easy to use your cellphone and call in a tip, like a neighbor complaining. Nobody would know it was you.

Bottom line is, if that deadbeat mother is home, she is breaking the law!!!

I would get all the details possible, and then go from there.