Unbelievable

[luvmesomemickey]

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. When we first started dating, he would call me by his exwife's name. Our names begin with the same letter) after many teary long drag out fights I thought he had finally stopped it. Until I saw an email that he had sent someone over the weekend and instead of my name, used hers. He had no answer when I showed it to him. He insists that he is over her, I think otherwise. Thoughts?

 

[BearcatsFan]

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. When we first started dating, he would call me by his exwife's name. Our names begin with the same letter) after many teary long drag out fights I thought he had finally stopped it. Until I saw an email that he had sent someone over the weekend and instead of my name, used hers. He had no answer when I showed it to him. He insists that he is over her, I think otherwise. Thoughts?

Your title pretty much sums it up. It really is unbelievable.

 

[Mariep26]

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. When we first started dating, he would call me by his exwife's name. Our names begin with the same letter) after many teary long drag out fights I thought he had finally stopped it. Until I saw an email that he had sent someone over the weekend and instead of my name, used hers. He had no answer when I showed it to him. He insists that he is over her, I think otherwise. Thoughts?

Welcome to the board!

 

[LuLuO]

Your title pretty much sums it up. It really is unbelievable.

 

[NHdisneylover]

My thoughts are that as a first post this is likely a troll.

 

[clarkshel]

My thoughts are that as a first post this is likely a troll.

A good possibility.

 

[Mandychelle79]

Thats why it is important to only date/ marry people with the same first name. Then you wont have to worry about it.

 

[RitaE]

Make sure you run up all the credit cards in his name and empty the bank accounts before you contact the divorce lawyer.

 

[smitch425]

Maybe he was a victim of autocorrect. Does he remain in contact with her? maybe he was actually talking about her and not you. Why are you reading his emails? Not ready to call "troll" on this, but if this was a big issue from the beginning, why marry a guy that calls you by another woman's name?

 

[MariDisney]

I sometimes call my DH by my ex's name if we're having an argument, which thankfully isn't that often. I think maybe it takes the pressure off him since clearly I'm still ticked at the ex.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Call him Hugh or Channing or George...you'll feel better.


If this is truly sincere, Im not sure what advice you are looking for as this has been ongoing for two years now. You married him while he was calling you another name. I assure you that it wouldn't happen more than twice before the hellfire and brimstone would be on his head.

 

[DaisyD]

I would believe him if indeed you were sent the email and he inadvertently called you the other name in it. If you never got the email and it was indeed sent to her then yeah that's not good. Was it just an email talking of things that pertained to you? If the email talked of some wild rendevous that you weren't apart of then he would be out on his keister pretty quickly.

 

[Bob NC]

I really can't picture him doing it on purpose, can you?

But, it's time for a good ole Dis man bashing thread anyway.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I think youre overreacting to be honest. I cannot believe that this was the cause of many fights. You really started a fight over this? WOW.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

I'm pretty sure this is a troll, but in the off chance that it isn't....

My husband once called me by his ex-girlfriend's name back when we first started dating. You know what I did? I decided not to be a drama queen about it, chalked it up to a simple slip of the tongue, and we both got over it. I suggest you do the same. I mean, if he is calling you that during private, intimate moments, that is one that. A simple slip during a conversation or an email is hardly worth moving to Wisteria Lane over.

 

[goofyintoronto]

Make sure you run up all the credit cards in his name and empty the bank accounts before you contact the divorce lawyer.

Thats why it is important to only date/ marry people with the same first name. Then you wont have to worry about it.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Thats why it is important to only date/ marry people with the same first name. Then you wont have to worry about it.

Brilliant!

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

On the off chance this is legit.

Just wait until you both get older and he calls you by the dog's name.

I wouldn't think anything of it unless he's emailing his ex and inviting her to his sex hut.

 

[KristaTX]

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. When we first started dating, he would call me by his exwife's name. Our names begin with the same letter) after many teary long drag out fights I thought he had finally stopped it. Until I saw an email that he had sent someone over the weekend and instead of my name, used hers. He had no answer when I showed it to him. He insists that he is over her, I think otherwise. Thoughts?

I don't even understand the question. Do you think the "someone" is a new girlfriend and he's calling that person by his previous wife's name just like he did you?

If that's not it, then why would either one of your names be in the e-mail at all? At the beginning of the e-mail like "dear ex-wife's name"? Or do you mean he signed the e-mail "husband and ex wife's name" instead of "husband and luvmesomemickey"? Or he was talking about you in the e-mail but used his ex-wife's name?

If it's just some friend that he called by ex-wife's name, then apparently it's not just you that he calls by her name.

 

[Liberty Belle]

OP, do you mean he was writing an email to someone else (a friend or family member) and was saying something about you, but instead of typing your name he typed his ex's name? That's kind of weird. I can see sometimes saying it accidentally (at first, anyway), but typing it...seems to me that he might be thinking of her a bit too much.


Btw - I've been married 21 years, but for the first half of my marriage my dad kept calling my husband Scott (not his name). I had dated a guy named Scott not long before I met my husband, but my dad never knew that. It made me so uncomfortable every time he called my husband it. lol I don't think I ever told DH about Scott, either.