Ugh!!!

[Trish5768]

I was asked to be in a wedding today. I know this should be an honor etc etc and it is, but I really don't want to be in it. I was helping plan and doing things like that but was kinda looking forward to just sitting back and watching, not to mention the fact that I will be 37 next May-isn't this just a tad too old to be a bridesmaid? So what do you all think? Go ahead flame away...I deserve it.

 

[WDWLVR]

Well first off I don't think 37 is too old to be a bridesmaid. When we got married I was 33 and we had age rages in our bridal party from 23 to 53.

If you feel like you really don't want to be in the bridal party you owe it to yourself and the bride to tell her now. Don't go into it feeling like you have to as it will only make you miserable.

Good luck!

 

[Nutsy]

Speak up now or forever hold your peace.

What has age go to do with it anyway? I doubt your friend would have asked you at all if she felt you would be too old.

I know a lady who was Matron of Honour for her Granddaughter, she asked a similar question to you regading age, but her Granddaughter only wanted one person to be her Matron of Honour & that was her Grandma.

But, if you really feel you don't want to do this, then tell your friend A.S.A.P. so she can find someone else.

Good luck

 

[tiggerlover]

I really don't think 37 is old, as I am 37 and don't consider myself old. Also, I am sure your friend is well aware of your age and apparently it isn't an issue for her. With that said, if there are other reasons you don't want to participate you owe it to the bride to tell her right away. Be honest with her as to your reasons as your rejection is bound to hurt her feelings.

 

[mommytotwo]

I would be honored if someone had asked me to be part of their wedding party. A wedding is a special time for the couple and they want their loved ones with them. For you to be part of their wedding party, you would be doing something that they want you to be part of.
I don't think age has anything to do with being in a wedding party. The bride and groom can be in their 80s and still get married, so the age of the attendents wouldn't matter either.
If you really don't want to be part of the wedding party, then express your feelings to the bride and groom, and do it asap so that they can find someone else to fill your spot.