Ugh. Sister getting married now in Dec. in Florida. I had trip planned for Oct.

[barbarabini]

So, my sis is getting married in Dec. in Orlando (Celebration).
I had a trip planned for October. - y'know, MNSSHP, food and wine. ect.
Taking the new baby and was flying the 6 of all down.

Now, not sure what to do b/c I could swing the hotel for the wedding but flying the 6 of us down again in Dec is going to be cost prohibitive. Ugh.

Now, from a previous post, I embarked on an ambitious plan to pay off a car and school loan by May (before the baby gets here.) As far as progress, goes, I paid off the car (11K) Now, on to the school loan, appx 16K left. So we'll see.

But a second trip to florida is probably not going to happen. sucks.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Any chance you can call off the October trip completely and just do an extended say in December before or after the wedding? Or, do you have $$$ spent already?

 

[ccgirl]

So, my sis is getting married in Dec. in Orlando (Celebration).
I had a trip planned for October. - y'know, MNSSHP, food and wine. ect.
Taking the new baby and was flying the 6 of all down.

Now, not sure what to do b/c I could swing the hotel for the wedding but flying the 6 of us down again in Dec is going to be cost prohibitive. Ugh.

Now, from a previous post, I embarked on an ambitious plan to pay off a car and school loan by May (before the baby gets here.) As far as progress, goes, I paid off the car (11K) Now, on to the school loan, appx 16K left. So we'll see.

But a second trip to florida is probably not going to happen. sucks.

Any chance you can call off the October trip completely and just do an extended say in December before or after the wedding? Or, do you have $$$ spent already?

Personally, I would move my October trip to December. I couldn't imagine missing my sister's wedding but we are extremely close. MVMCP is great too!

 

[disprincessatheart]

I agree - move your trip if you can. I know it might cost some change fees, but Orlando in December is great. The christmas activites and decorations are much more extensive than the halloween ones which are mainly in MK. Plus that gives you a little longer to save up, putting more money towards your debt first.

 

[girli565]

Can you change the Oct trip to December? Do the Xmas party instead of halloween and maybe food and wine next year?

 

[kelleigh1]

I agree. If it's possible to change the trip, I would.

 

[we3peas]

I wouldn't change my family trip in Oct. I have a rule about weddings and I don't care whose it is. If I can afford it and it's not an imposition on my family time, I will go. If not, I won't. Nobody makes anyone have a destination wedding. If I had one, I would be understanding that most people could not come for various reasons. Do not let this situation sidetrack you from getting out of debt. Kudos to you for what you've already accomplished!

 

[Normangirls]

I wouldn't change my family trip in Oct. I have a rule about weddings and I don't care whose it is. If I can afford it and it's not an imposition on my family time, I will go. If not, I won't. Nobody makes anyone have a destination wedding. If I had one, I would be understanding that most people could not come for various reasons. Do not let this situation sidetrack you from getting out of debt. Kudos to you for what you've already accomplished!

This may have some people going , but I agree with we3peas. I spend a lot of time saving for and planning our family vacations, and it's important to us that my (immediate) family has that time together. The thought of anything screwing up our plans makes me go .

(And if I had a huge trip planned and if my sister knew it and did this to me, I'd be very upset with her.)

OP -- tough situation. Good luck.

 

[maggiew]

If it were my sister, I would change our vacation plans to December, if possible. I know missing school for the kids, non-refundable hotel payments, etc. sometimes would get in the way of that. So if I couldn't move the vacation, I would just fly down by myself for the wedding in Dec.

If the wedding were for anyone else - like friend or coworker or even a cousin - I probably wouldn't change the vacation, unless it was convenient, and then decide if spending the extra money to fly down in December + hotel was worth it.

If you go in December by yourself, you could probably share your hotel with other siblings or cousin or parents etc. to cut down on the costs.

Maggie

 

[DisneyHumbug]

Same thing just happened to me! We had our annual F&W trip planned for Nov. 7 and my nephew is getting married in Miami on Nov. 3.....my son is in the wedding. So we changed our trip to arrive in Miami on Nov. 3 and will drive up to Orlando for our annual F&W trip. I wouldn't miss my nephew's wedding.

 

[furb & dez]

I wouldn't change my family trip in Oct. I have a rule about weddings and I don't care whose it is. If I can afford it and it's not an imposition on my family time, I will go. If not, I won't. Nobody makes anyone have a destination wedding. If I had one, I would be understanding that most people could not come for various reasons. Do not let this situation sidetrack you from getting out of debt. Kudos to you for what you've already accomplished!

Completely agree. Staying financially responsible and taking care of MY family is more important than appeasing siblings, parents, or more distant relations - particularly if they are expecting you to travel to them.

 

[disprincessatheart]

Completely agree. Staying financially responsible and taking care of MY family is more important than appeasing siblings, parents, or more distant relations - particularly if they are expecting you to travel to them.

While I agree she shouldn't go into debt for someone else's wedding, there are a couple of things here that I think make this a little different. First, it's her sister, not a distant relation. Second, her sister is getting married almost a year from now, it's not something being suddenly sprung on the family. In fact it's so far out that the only plans the op could even have made are hotel and plane tickets. And third, it's to the SAME place the op is already going, just two months later. In theory that should give her more time to plan and save, not push her into debt. Her family can still do a nice trip, including a wedding.

If it was somewhere the op had no intention of taking her family, or if the trip was in a month or two and there was no time to save up, i might feel differently. but I couldn't see myself telling my sister I wasn't going to go to her Orlando wedding in December because I was going to Orlando in October instead.

 

[mrsklamc]

I would move the trip if possible. There would be other years for F&W and the Halloween party but hopefully your sister will only get married once.

 

[kathie859]

I would move the trip if possible. There would be other years for F&W and the Halloween party but hopefully your sister will only get married once.

ITA!!! I don't get the feeling expressed by others that somehow OP's sister isn't as important as the OP's "immediate" family. Maybe I'm just weird (or lucky) but my sister and I are very close--I'd can't imagine ever missing her wedding. In fact, DSis was married out of town (DBIL was in the service) and I attended with my young daughter. DH couldn't get time off--but that didn't stop me from attending.

OP, I don't know your family dynamics, but if I were in your shoes I'd attend the wedding. You could go by yourself

 

[SamSam]

Wow! I'm shocked at some of the responses here...this is a sister, not some distant relative. Whether you are close or not, you are the only people (brothers/sisters) who share the same childhood memories. When the going gets tough it's almost always family that stands by you.

If there's anyway to change your vacation, I would. I can't imagine regretting it. There will be many more Food and Wine Fests, but hopefully only one sister's wedding. And, like others have said, Christmas time in WDW is beautiful!

 

[CaFeeney]

I agree with Sam - but I guess it depends on how close you are to your sister. My sister is my best friend and there is NO way I wouldn't be there for her. To me it wouldn't even be a question - I would be there. Move my vacation back 6 weeks? No problem.

Yes, you will miss the F&W and the Halloween party but you will get to see the holiday decorations and more importantly - your sister's face as she marries the person she loves.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

While I agree she shouldn't go into debt for someone else's wedding, there are a couple of things here that I think make this a little different. First, it's her sister, not a distant relation. Second, her sister is getting married almost a year from now, it's not something being suddenly sprung on the family. In fact it's so far out that the only plans the op could even have made are hotel and plane tickets. And third, it's to the SAME place the op is already going, just two months later. In theory that should give her more time to plan and save, not push her into debt. Her family can still do a nice trip, including a wedding.

If it was somewhere the op had no intention of taking her family, or if the trip was in a month or two and there was no time to save up, i might feel differently. but I couldn't see myself telling my sister I wasn't going to go to her Orlando wedding in December because I was going to Orlando in October instead.

^^^Very well said.

 

[TandEsMommy]

It's not really fair to assume that the only factor in OP's decision is whether to move her vacation. She is actively paying down debt, and the cost of EVERYTHING is magnified in December. Plane tickets, hotels, and rental car prices soar that month. It is one thing to decide that a family vacation is a worthy thing to save for, and it seems to me that OP has chosen a fairly decent time budget-wise to take her trip. To push the trip back to a peak time, with a full family in tow, could easily double her budget.

I'm sure I'm in the minority, but I find it a little rude of the sister to have chosen a December date, not bc of OP's trip, but because all her friends/family will now have to fork over large $$ amounts to attend. I got married last year, and DH and I planned our wedding around major holidays to avoid inflated costs for OOT guests. We even rescheduled from our original date so my dad could be there. Unfortunately, many brides today get caught up in the idea that their wedding is all about them, and are offended that close friends and family members can't/don't rearrange their lives to accommodate whatever whim they have. Rather than feeling that OP should change her plans to suit her sister, I feel the sister should have consulted those whose attendance meant the most to her, and given some serious thought to the realities of her plan. Granted, this was my second marriage, but most of my family was not at my first wedding-in December. This time around, I made a conscious effort to choose more wisely (on all fronts lol)

 

[okeydokey]

When you decide to have a destination wedding you have to realize that not everyone wants to have their financial and vacation plans decided for them. You must realize that many people, even in the immediate family, may not attend. You must not get upset by that, because it was your choice to have a destination wedding.

 

[mrsklamc]

I the cost of EVERYTHING is magnified in December. Plane tickets, hotels, and rental car prices soar that month.

No- the cost of everything soars at Christmas/New Years. The first two to threeish weeks of December are low season, and we don't know when the wedding is from OP's post.

I totally agree that when you decide on a destination wedding you know that not everyone can be there, but what the majority here is saying is that if it's possible the would move their trips.