UGH my DS and his friend just googled...

[RadioNate]

"gross words for girl parts" I can't get them to admit the actual words.

I could strangle them both! The kids PC is now locked up with viruses and porn pop-ups.

UGGGGGG

and now I have to deal with the mother!

The friend admitted that his older brother and his friends had done it and that is where he got the words.

I did allow them to use the kid's computer to log into Club Penguin. Club Penguin is common between the two so I thought that is what they were actually doing! The computer is in the playroom upstairs but I had go down to get the baby lunch so I wasn't watching them do it!

I am SO MAD at them (and myself)

I also thought I had better child proofing software!!!!!

I can't get ahold of the mother to come now so they are sitting on the couch with books.

 

[MarkBarbieri]

We keep all of our PCs in a very public part of the house. Everyone knows that whatever they do is very public.

 

[RadioNate]

They are 8 and it is in a pretty public area. The playroom, which is an open loft to the downstairs. I also had a child lock software on it that did not filter this. I need to look at the name because it obviously didn't work.

They were playing Club Penguin when I went down to get lunch for DD. She is up there but isn't quite two so she can't 'tattle' yet.

They did call me to see what was happening when all the pop-ups started.

In any case the computer is GONE and so it this friend.

 

[Liberty Belle]

They are 8 and it is in a pretty public area. The playroom, which is an open loft to the downstairs. I also had a child lock software on it that did not filter this. I need to look at the name because it obviously didn't work.

They were playing Club Penguin when I went down to get lunch for DD. She is up there but isn't quite two so she can't 'tattle' yet.

They did call me to see what was happening when all the pop-ups started.

In any case the computer is GONE and so it this friend.

8? Ugh. That's awfully young to see that stuff.

I wouldn't banish the friend, but I'd watch them more carefully when they are together.

 

[Nik's Mom]

OMG! Is that what 8 year olds are doing these days? I have 7 and 10 year old boys, but they are special needs so we have a totally different set of problems. I can imagine how angry and disappointed you must be.

You need better internet child-proofing. What ever you had set up, didn't work very well. I'd ban your ds from the internet for a time until you get something better to child proof the computer. Sorry this happened. Kids are growing up too fast now days...

 

[sbell111]

You might want to update your anti-virus software. The days that you would get tons of ugly viruses just from landing on a webpage should be pretty much over.

 

[RadioNate]

yeah - we'll be doing a lot of updating before he is allowed back online. This is an ancient PC and I think everything is just outdated. The thing only has 512mb of RAM!

The good news is that this friend is moving to another school next year. I've had issues with him in the past and DS isn't allowed at his house after the last incident that also involved something the older brother got the boys to do.

I thought being at my house was better. WRONG!

DS is a good kid and seems to be easily led astray to fit in. We need to watch that!

The mom should be here any second. I am so not looking forward to this!

 

[sbell111]

yeah - we'll be doing a lot of updating before he is allowed back online. This is an ancient PC and I think everything is just outdated. The thing only has 512mb of RAM!

The good news is that this friend is moving to another school next year. I've had issues with him in the past and DS isn't allowed at his house after the last incident that also involved something the older brother got the boys to do.

I thought being at my house was better. WRONG!

DS is a good kid and seems to be easily led astray to fit in. We need to watch that!

The mom should be here any second. I am so not looking forward to this!

Check out AVG antivirus. They have a free version that works very well.

 

[MM27]

I'm not shocked that 8 year olds are doing this because I had a student in my class (9 year old) that was googling some very pornagraphic terms. Luckily we have good blockers set up so not much was seen. The kids have laptops and I got a little suspicious when she minimized the screen when I walked by. I asked her what she was doing first and she said nothing. I was able to pull up the history to see all of her searches and they were quite interesting

 

[RadioNate]

Check out AVG antivirus. They have a free version that works very well.

I have in the past but I just tried to install it and it won't connect to the AVG servers.

Very frustrating.

Our norton isn't picking up anything but there were tons of pop ups and such so something is there.

I think we are just going to wipe the entire machine and start over.

 

[sbell111]

If I was 8 years old, I would google every naughty word that I knew.

 

[sbell111]

I have in the past but I just tried to install it and it won't connect to the AVG servers.

Very frustrating.

Our norton isn't picking up anything but there were tons of pop ups and such so something is there.

I think we are just going to wipe the entire machine and start over.

You can download AVG from CNET also.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

Based on what you have said it sounds like the friend is bad news and you just need to forbit your son from seeing him. Tell him why: he does whatever the friend says even when it's not a good choice. Put it back on your son and his behavior.

Good luck with the mom and don't beat yourself up over it. You can only do so much to prevent these things from happening. Kids are quick and creative, it's amazing what they will do.

 

[N&B'smom]

OMG! Is that what 8 year olds are doing these days?

My DS is 10 and that would never even cross his mind. Thankfully!

 

[RadioNate]

well the mom was quite cool and wasn't happy about it. She also didn't seem shocked. The older brother is only 11. I thought he was older than that!

I'm not terribly shocked by them being curious and all that. As my DH said, I already don't like this friend. He is pesty. Calls constantly, invites himself over, etc etc. The incident at their house was that the brother was continually shooting DS with an outdoor dart gun. I wouldn't have cared too much but DS was really upset and felt that he was targeted by the brother and it went beyond 'playing.' He said the brother didn't shoot anyone else and would just reload and target DS.

Anyway it is done now. He has lost all computer privileges for 2 weeks. No playdates for a week and this friend is barred indefinitely. We have also instuted a rule that the computer can not be used when he has a friend over at all. No quick "he wants to show me something on Club Penguin" any more.

This is a big wake up call for me. When the computer comes back it will be locked down more securely and monitored more closely.

 

[OctMtnWoods]

LOL, I remember doing this with a dictionary & encyclopedia when I was young.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I'd also ask him if he had any questions about what he saw or read. I'd hate for him to have misconceptions or hold something in about anything sexual, if it is bothering him.

 

[cheermom1]

I'd also ask him if he had any questions about what he saw or read. I'd hate for him to have misconceptions or hold something in about anything sexual, if it is bothering him.

I was about to say that..LOL

 

[Liberty Belle]

LOL, I remember doing this with a dictionary & encyclopedia when I was young.

Me, too. Unfortunately the internet is not your father's National Geographic or Playboy.

 

[Imzadi]

Don't blame Google. Google has their own set of blockers. The other nite I was looking for a specific (non-nude) pic to identify an actress and several websites came up on the Google search. As I clicked on one webpage, the Google blocker came up instead warning me that continuing further would expose me to some malicious ware on that website. That I was proceeding at my own risk.

Based on what you have said it sounds like the friend is bad news and you just need to forbit your son from seeing him. Tell him why: he does whatever the friend says even when it's not a good choice. Put it back on your son and his behavior.

I agree. The way to get him to not be led astray is to start getting him to think in ways that make distinctions. He needs to start discerning which behaviors are appropriate and which are not. What are the consequences to each behavior. Right now, he doesn't see past the wanting to fit in in the short term. He needs to start getting there are consequences to "fitting in" with the wrong people in the long term. Like the no computer for 2 weeks and being barred from this "friend" indefinitely. So much for fitting in.