Ugh... I really hurt my mom's feelings

[believe]

If you have been out of the house for a while then leaving it behind left it to your parents. I am sure you thought if you left it behind you didn't care if she read it. I would not say she was 100% wrong in reading it, but she shouldn't have brought up what she read.

My DDs are 10 and 7 and I have already told them there will be a time you don't like me and you may even think you don't love me or I don't love you, but I will always love you and I know you will always love me. That is just how life goes. Hopefully your Mom will understand that. Maybe she found it at a time when other things were brining her down and this was just the straw that broke the camels back.

 

[skuttle]

I agree with everyone else. Your mom shouldn't have read it in the first place, and that was so long ago! If my mom went with how I felt about her when I was a teenager, she'd think I hated her! That's just what teens do!

I'll never forget once when I was in junior high, I was off at religion class one evening (raised Catholic) and when I came home my mom was mad and crying. She found a folded note that I had wrote to a friend and decided to open it and read it. I was furious with her for reading it, but I guess since I was still young and living in her house maybe she had a right to? In the letter, I essentially called her a B. She was really upset. So to get around it, I told her that I didn't say that she WAS a B, just that she was ACTING like a B. LOL!

 

[daisax]

The only time I snooped and read somebody else's private thoughts, I saw some pretty negative stuff about myself. That cured me

But actually mentioning it to you? I just don't get that. She should have slapped the diary shut, nursed her hurt feelings, and come to her senses about the age/maturity level at which it was written and let it go.

Involving you at ALL was just petty and vindictive.

 

[mjkacmom]

My dd is 11, and I would NEVER read her journal. We were at my folks home, and she found my sister's journal, and my folks told her to put it back where she found it, and to NEVER read someone's journal. I can't believe your mom read it, never mind telling you her feelings were hurt.

 

[Pigeon]

It's time for your mother to grow up. What she did was obnoxious, and emailing you about what you wrote is inexcusable.

 

[singingpixie]

I'm hoping at some point today she'll reply to my email and have realized that 1) she shouldn't have read it and 2) it was so long ago it really has no bearing on my feelings now (much less the fact that I didn't feel that way most of the time as a teenager either). Otherwise I'm going to keep feeling like this all day.

I'm afraid if I call her, the part of me that's angry will come through and that won't be at all productive.

 

[daisax]

You could get her the DVD of that Everybody loves Raymond episode.

Okay - show of hands -- who ever wrote "I have the meanest mother in the world" or "I hate my mom" or "My mother hates me" in their diary at some point in life?

 

[N&B'smom]

She certainly shouldn't have read it. She should understand that it was from 9 years ago!!! Seriously, you were a teenager for crying out loud! I'm thinking her hurt feelings possibly clouded her view of things. Maybe when she has time to think about it a little more she'll see that it was from so long ago and not how you truly feel about her. Maybe she's more upset because the wishes she had done some things differently and she's regretting it.

You sound like a wonderful daughter.

Shelby

 

[fltwinmom]

OP, I have to agree with most of the posters.

She made her OWN bed by visiting what SHOULD have been a private place for you to work out your own thoughts.

I would just say "you know what mom? Would you rather have had me write 'I hate my mom' in my journal, or scream it at you at the top of my lungs?"

It's what a journal is for - a place where you can privately collect your thoughts. Also, if you were writing these things in anger, later on you could look back at it and say "I was really angry, but I'm glad I didn't say it out loud, because I'm not angry anymore".

Don't feel bad, OP. She should have known better.