Yes, I agree with the term "balance". When we were young and first-married, we scrimped and saved every penny -- it was necessary at that point -- but we were just thrilled to be married and in our own house. We were blissfully happy, even though we had old bedsheets tacked up as curtains and shared one car. We became mortgage-free just before I was 40, which was when our kids were in early elementary school. That gave us the freedom to travel more with the kids, and now that college is upon us, we're not worried about how to pay the bills.But you CAN balance the act.
I started putting retirement money away at 21 when I qualified for a 401k. I bought my first house at 20. And by 30 I'd been to most countries in Europe, Thailand, China and Japan. By the time my kids were born, we had six figure retirement accounts - by the time they were in elementary school, the mortgage was paid off. And my kids have been in four countries other than the U.S. (not including Epcot).
Today's seniors are expressing regrets about money that previous generations didn't. Previous generations were more likely to get pensions in addition to Social Security - and have fairly limited wants. Todays seniors want a retirement with travel and activity. They don't want a reduced standard of living. And that takes more money than they think it will. "Doing more" today often means "spending more."
All the experts tout the same line about retirement: Start saving young, and you don't have to put away much each month. It's very possible to do that AND to travel, etc.