TTC thread take 2

[MommaSnowwhite]

Good Luck Cherbear!

When I had my miscarraige 2 years ago I went to the Dr. the day after we found out that they couldn't find a heartbeat during an ultrasound. the nurse asked me why I was there. I couldn't even speak - my DH had to tell her (he was really pissed). I think they are supposed to ask to be sure they have the right patient, but come on use some compassion.

 

[Kronk's girl]

I used to play all coy when people would ask about having kids, like "oh, maybe one day" whatever.

And I just turned 36 (have been trying since I was 32) so time is REALLY running out for me.... my "egg test" at the RE came back really good though, so maybe there's still hope!

That top line is exactly the one I use now! And congrats on the good eggs! Sending some good baby dust your way

Oh by the way...Our IVF financing is approved!!!!

Congrats!!! I am already crossing my fingers for you and sending lots of good thoughts!!

I had a hard day yesterday because another friend called to announce she's pregnant. Usually I am still VERY excited for my friends, but this one is married to a moron (the guy has a criminal record and just has that jerky personality). I was secretly hoping she would never reproduce with him...haha- is that mean? I know the announcement rubbed my husband the wrong way too- he kept saying "seriously??" I think we were both thinking in our heads how unfair it is that weirdos can just have babies . At least this kid will have a wonderful mom.

Then after my mom heard the announcement she called (since now 3 of my best friends are pregnant at the same time) and asked- what's going on with you guys? I didn't say anything yet- I used Si-am's line above .

 

[cherbear]

KG....

 

[skuttle]

Oh Kronk's Girl, I'm so sorry. I went through two of my friends' pregnancies during our IF. I handled it horribly, I'll admit.

After a while, with family I just started saying "We're trying, it's just taking a while." After 4 years, I think people eventually got the hint. LOL! DH was much more open about it with friends/family that I ever was. Heck, I kept it from my best friends for over a year until one of them got pregnant and then I just freaked out and quit communicating with my friends.

My mom knew bits and pieces. She knew I was insulin resistant and put on Metformin. I talked to her about that because she's diabetic. (I've already been diagnosed with gestational diabetes, BTW.) I didn't tell her about the IUIs, surgery or any of the other tests. She's a worrier and I didn't want to have to deal with that.

 

[tinytreasures]

hugs to everyone that have dealt with rude people
even after 16 yrs (yes I heard it today), I get which ones are your "real" children
I hate that because they say it in front of my children they are not deaf (well Ella is but you know what I mean) They are my real children, just because they didn't come out of my body does that make them any less real.
Then they push it but I really thought you had the oldest one grr I hate that

 

[ead79]

I think I have good news--I started spotting today! I've never been so excited to see my period before, LOL. I just feel like at least this gets things back on track. Let's just hope it "sticks" and doesn't take Provera every month to bring on AF.

Maybe now I can finally appreciate the dumb Always pad liners that say "have a happy period."

 

[ead79]

Oops, I forgot to ask you ladies about something I'm struggling with sometimes. A friend of mine just had her IUD removed so they can start trying to have a baby. Now I'm a bit uneasy because I feel like we're in "pregnancy competition." Of course I don't wish her problems, since it's certainly been stressful in the months I've been dealing with it. It's just that I feel like it's a race of some sort, even though I know that sounds stupid. Maybe I'm just afraid of how I'll feel if she gets pregnant first.

Of course someone else getting pregnant has absolutely no bearing on me getting pregnant, but I just want to be happy for other people rather than worry about my reaction.

 

[MommaSnowwhite]

I think I have good news--I started spotting today! I've never been so excited to see my period before, LOL. I just feel like at least this gets things back on track. Let's just hope it "sticks" and doesn't take Provera every month to bring on AF.

Maybe now I can finally appreciate the dumb Always pad liners that say "have a happy period."

I can't believe I'm saying for AF, but .


So, I get this email yesterday from my neighbor announcing the birth of their 5th child. I would be happy for them if they ever took care of their kids, but the oldest (DS) is the only one outside watching them. Yep - 9 years old in chrage of 3 others 7, 6 2. I told my DH that when I die I want to know why - why she can have so many that she doesn't take care of when so many would love to have just one.

 

[cherbear]

Oops, I forgot to ask you ladies about something I'm struggling with sometimes. A friend of mine just had her IUD removed so they can start trying to have a baby. Now I'm a bit uneasy because I feel like we're in "pregnancy competition." Of course I don't wish her problems, since it's certainly been stressful in the months I've been dealing with it. It's just that I feel like it's a race of some sort, even though I know that sounds stupid. Maybe I'm just afraid of how I'll feel if she gets pregnant first.

Of course someone else getting pregnant has absolutely no bearing on me getting pregnant, but I just want to be happy for other people rather than worry about my reaction.

I can tell you that we ALL feel this way. Don't feel bad. As time goes on, it doesn't get any better. Silly but I DO hope you get pregnant before her. LOL If life was fair, there'd be a natural order to things eh? "I started trying first, so I'll get pregnant before her, and then she'll be just a few months behind" Too bad it doesn't REALLY work like that huh?!

I watched my 18 year old cousin give birth last year to her SECOND child ...both oopsies of course, and she admits that both were conceived in a drunken, drugged-out state---with her boyfriend that has been known to beat up on her and is frequently out of work.

While I sit here in my happy marriage, both have jobs, own our home, in our late 20's, only social drinkers, not into drugs, still trying to conceive my first child while spending exhorbitant amounts of money. (Oh and her entire pregnancy, birth, etc has been paid for by the government...my tax dollars. Why can't they pay for people like US who spend all this money to get pregnant and therefore have nothing left after we finally GET pregnant?? )

Sorry, I feel like I need to vent daily about this stuff.

 

[cherbear]

I can't believe I'm saying for AF, but .


So, I get this email yesterday from my neighbor announcing the birth of their 5th child. I would be happy for them if they ever took care of their kids, but the oldest (DS) is the only one outside watching them. Yep - 9 years old in chrage of 3 others 7, 6 2. I told my DH that when I die I want to know why - why she can have so many that she doesn't take care of when so many would love to have just one.

ugh....exactly!!! (I was typing up my last post...in the midst of working...before I got to see yours

 

[jenm2878]

I've been lurking here for a while and finally decided to post.

I'm 32 and have been with my husband for 13 years. We were always fence sitters about having kids, and finally decided that we would like to have one. Since we've been trying so long to prevent having kids, we thought for sure I'd get pregnant right away when we started trying. Well a year and a half later, and I'm still not pregnant.

We're both going to our first doctor's appointments this month to see if anything is wrong. Can't wait for that. We've decided that if I don't get pregnant by the end of the year we would start looking into adoption. Of course, this has already opened us up to comments. I told my best friend that we were thinking of adopting, and she asked me, 'Oh, do you not want any of your own?' Now she's the sweetest person on earth and I hadn't shared our struggles with her, but still. If it was anyone else that asked that, I think I may have struck them.

So anyways, hello.

 

[D&DDisney]

Oops, I forgot to ask you ladies about something I'm struggling with sometimes. A friend of mine just had her IUD removed so they can start trying to have a baby. Now I'm a bit uneasy because I feel like we're in "pregnancy competition." Of course I don't wish her problems, since it's certainly been stressful in the months I've been dealing with it. It's just that I feel like it's a race of some sort, even though I know that sounds stupid. Maybe I'm just afraid of how I'll feel if she gets pregnant first.

Of course someone else getting pregnant has absolutely no bearing on me getting pregnant, but I just want to be happy for other people rather than worry about my reaction.

You're not alone. I feel the same way sometimes. Like there's this certain alottment of pregnancies for the month/year and they're going to get used up or something.

 

[D&DDisney]

I've been lurking here for a while and finally decided to post.

I'm 32 and have been with my husband for 13 years. We were always fence sitters about having kids, and finally decided that we would like to have one. Since we've been trying so long to prevent having kids, we thought for sure I'd get pregnant right away when we started trying. Well a year and a half later, and I'm still not pregnant.

We're both going to our first doctor's appointments this month to see if anything is wrong. Can't wait for that. We've decided that if I don't get pregnant by the end of the year we would start looking into adoption. Of course, this has already opened us up to comments. I told my best friend that we were thinking of adopting, and she asked me, 'Oh, do you not want any of your own?' Now she's the sweetest person on earth and I hadn't shared our struggles with her, but still. If it was anyone else that asked that, I think I may have struck them.

So anyways, hello.

Welcome jenm!! We're here for you.
I hate when people say stupid comments about adoption. Like adopted children aren't "your own" kids or something. We adopted our oldest son and he is just as much ours as the son I gave birth to.

 

[ead79]

I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling like it's a pregnancy competition, lol. I guess I just don't really want to feel the sadness that goes along with the gladness I feel when a friend announces a pregnancy. Before we were trying, I always just felt the gladness for them, but now I have some mixed emotions.

 

[ead79]

Welcome jenm!! We're here for you.
I hate when people say stupid comments about adoption. Like adopted children aren't "your own" kids or something. We adopted our oldest son and he is just as much ours as the son I gave birth to.

Ain't that the truth! I don't know any parents that have adopted children that love them one ounce less than their biological children. My boss actually has 5 kids, with the last one being adopted--she is adored and the apple of everyone's eye, including her older siblings.

 

[jenm2878]

I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling like it's a pregnancy competition, lol. I guess I just don't really want to feel the sadness that goes along with the gladness I feel when a friend announces a pregnancy. Before we were trying, I always just felt the gladness for them, but now I have some mixed emotions.

I know what you mean about mixed emotions. I talked to a girlfriend of mine a few months ago about our trying to have kids. She has 3 girls and said they were debating having one more. Wouldn't you know it, she gets pregnant the very first month of trying. We don't see each other on a regular basis, but I haven't had the heart to seek her out to congratulate her. I feel awful about it, but I just can't right now. I am very happy for them, but I'm also sad for us.

 

[Kennywife]

I know how you feel Jenm. I have a lot of friends who work at home like me. Some of them seem to get preggo without any trying at all. While I cry every time I get a negative test. Doesn't see fair.

If Kenny and I adopt, I won't see the child as any different than if it had been come out of my body. It'll end up the same way anyway: soon as I find out he/she is coming.....I'm online booking baby's 1st trip to Disney!

Gabbie

 

[cherbear]

Ead79, I forgot to say, yay for AF! LOL

Can you send me some "AF dust" or something? The one time I really want her to show NOW she is running a little behind schedule!

I have an appt Wednesday with the new RE (same office, just a different dr and I hear she takes a lot more time with patients than the male dr I was going to). But I told her I'd probably start AF before then, and I'll need be on BCP for a couple weeks before I start stims for IVF. If I start this weekend, I have to wait to call Monday and get the BCP. I'm impatient!

 

[ead79]

Ead79, I forgot to say, yay for AF! LOL

Can you send me some "AF dust" or something? The one time I really want her to show NOW she is running a little behind schedule!

I have an appt Wednesday with the new RE (same office, just a different dr and I hear she takes a lot more time with patients than the male dr I was going to). But I told her I'd probably start AF before then, and I'll need be on BCP for a couple weeks before I start stims for IVF. If I start this weekend, I have to wait to call Monday and get the BCP. I'm impatient!

It figures that AF is late when we need her to be on time, LOL. She is one stubborn lady! Hoping your AF times herself well.

 

[ead79]

I've been lurking here for a while and finally decided to post.

I'm 32 and have been with my husband for 13 years. We were always fence sitters about having kids, and finally decided that we would like to have one. Since we've been trying so long to prevent having kids, we thought for sure I'd get pregnant right away when we started trying. Well a year and a half later, and I'm still not pregnant.

We're both going to our first doctor's appointments this month to see if anything is wrong. Can't wait for that. We've decided that if I don't get pregnant by the end of the year we would start looking into adoption. Of course, this has already opened us up to comments. I told my best friend that we were thinking of adopting, and she asked me, 'Oh, do you not want any of your own?' Now she's the sweetest person on earth and I hadn't shared our struggles with her, but still. If it was anyone else that asked that, I think I may have struck them.

So anyways, hello.

I totally forgot to say welcome! I just recently came to this thread, and this is a great group of supportive ladies!