Morning ladies. AF is here right on time, so it's confirmed- I won't have a baby before I'm 30. Oh well, I had zero expectations this month.
On a good note, we finally got the bill for the clomid monitoring from 2 months ago and for some reason (even though my insurance said nothing would be covered), they ended up covering all but $54!!! We were supposed to pay a little over $500 for everything. I was thrilled.
this is fantastic!!!
On a yucky note... my husband thinks it's time we tell our families about our infertility. He thinks we should let our parents know because he knows my parents are hoping/waiting for grandkids. I really don't want to tell anyone- ever. I don't want to open ourselves up to dumb advice or pity looks, and I don't want to break my parents' hearts. We are their only chance for grandkids. And my FIL is an idiot, so I don't want him to know. I also don't want to go through the actual act of telling anyone. Not sure what to do
Anyway, thinking of you all everyday! And best of luck with trying the IVF route Cherbear! I can't wait to root you on!
Honestly, I feel better now that my parents know. How long have y'all been trying?? We'd been trying for a year and a half before we told my parents. I told my hubby that I thought we should tell them, I was tired of keeping it a secret and I really needed their support (well, mostly my mom's). Now I just told her that we are planning on doing IVF next month and she fully supports it (and will cosign if we should need her to)
Now, I will say that it should be your decision on telling your own parents. Not that he is wrong in bringing it up, but if he wants to tell his parents, do that first then see how you feel.
We haven't told DH's parents -- I told him that was up to him when we tell them. I did suggest that we DO tell them, but in person. And since they live just north of Houston, TX (6 hours away), it's kinda hard to do that. Since my parents are willing to help (and have helped a little) financially with our treatments, and we are about to do IVF, I'm going to suggest to DH that he might want to tell them over the phone. Because if they find out that my parents know, and especially if my parents end up cosigning on a loan, etc, then they will feel really hurt I think.
Okay, so where am I getting with this?? No matter what, tell them in person if you can. And when you do decide to tell them, just let them know you need their support, and you'll be amazed how great it will feel to have them rooting you on.
Also, make it VERY CLEAR on who you don't want them telling. If it's a "don't tell ANYONE" deal, then they should respect that. In my case, my baby sister (22 years old, literally acts like a child sometimes) who still lives with them, is completely in the dark on this. She's too immature to handle the information, but I know she'll be super happy for me when we can finally announce that I'm making her an Aunt.