Trying to move on

[mkynut90]

It is hard for me to ask for help. I have a loving wife who I loves and support me, but I cant give her all my support until I am all there. Two month ago I graduated school with my degree in Computer Engineering.
I am feeling depressed and unmovated to take or study my A+ and CCNA exams or do anything else. The only thing I feel anything just sit and watch tv and play on the computer. I do have an appoitment with a counciler but its not for a couple months (gota love insurance).

Thanks for listening

 

[darrengs]

You are obviously suffering from depression and need to find some help.

 

[disprincessatheart]

Depression is a tricky thing. Good for you for making an apt with a counselor! Maybe try to get yourself out of the house for a walk or something every day. I sometimes have to drag myself out and it does perk me up once I do it!

 

[*NikkiBell*]

I'm glad that you came here to vent. I'm also relieved to hear you are seeking someone professional to talk to. Make sure you keep your wife informed about how you feel.

 

[JenniBugInPink]

I understand about the problem with insurance. How about we go at this from a different angle? Would they let you see a physician any sooner, or, more importantly, if you just up and go to the doctor, will they pay for it? I mean, it's not like most insurance requires that you call them before you go to the doctor, right? Talking to your regular family physician could be a good alternative at this point. It wouldn't hurt to have some labs drawn, either, just to get things checked out. Sooner is always better than later when you feel like you're in that deep dark hole and you're never coming out.

I know it seems like you're not ever going to feel better than you do now, but you can, and you will. For me, it requires medication. For you, perhaps something else. But it will improve, and you'll find a reason to get up, and you'll study for those tests, and take them, and move on. Eventually.

Right now, you need to call the doctor. OK? It will help.

 

[CaptainAlex]

JenniBugInPink is 100% about reaching out to your PCP. It will act as a bridge until you get ongoing and regular help from someone else. In lots of instances PCP's initially manage mental health conditions. Don't go untreated. Mental health concerns are as serious as any other "tangible" medical condition. It will get worst if left untreated.

Good for you for recognizing you need support. All the best!

 

[GoofyforDisney3]

It is very hard when you finish something big like school. It is almost like you have lost your sense of purpose. I did similar when I finished. It was also like I was so tired from pushing myself to work, go to school, family things, etc that I just hit a wall and couldn't do much but do mind numbing things. I also recommend going to see your PCP. Counciling is a great idea and I would not cancel that appointment but make sure there isn't something else health wise that can be causing it too.

 

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[DeaverTex]

I have my own battles with depression. I have to fully agree with the folks saying to go see your primary care physician. He/she can take the first steps, because depression isn't always just about counseling. There are physical causes as well, and for those there are medications.

Just don't go thinking that you should "snap out of it". That's BS. Get the help. You and your wife both deserve for you to get better, and your PCP is a good start since your counseling appointment is so far off.

 

[kehouse]

sounds like some great advice on here! i don't really have anything to add, just wanted you to know i'm pulling for you. i'll be sending you and your wife my good thoughts and prayers.

 

[Maddykins06]

The PP have given you great suggestions. I echo the importance of getting outside and SOME sort of exercise. Just walking outside with a change of scenery may help.

Thinking of you & sending positive thoughts you will be able to find some sunshine soon.

 

[wendydarling826]

Please listen to what others have said here. Anyone who has had, or who loves someone who has had, depression knows that it is not just feeling a little down in the dumps. You can't just snap out of it, although it won't last forever. It can hit at times when there is no external situation to cause it. It's not your fault, and you shouldn't feel guilty about it any more than you would feel guilty if you learned that you have diabetes. I agree that you should start with your doctor - medication can help you get through it. A counselor can help you understand it and cope with it. Remember that there are people who care about you, and there is help to get you through this.

 

[ninecrayons]

I very much understand where you're coming from - I had a similar situation a few years ago. I really agree - you should try and reach out to your PCP. At the time I was unable to get a therapy appointment until about 2-3 months in the future. Things got really bad and my PCP saw me on an emergency basis and got me onto anti-depressants. I'm not a big fan of medication but it got me through the worst time. Your PCP will be able to determine what's best for you.

I am, however, a HUGE proponent of therapy. I've been in therapy for almost 7 years now. My therapist is amazing and without her my life would be totally different. Without her support I wouldn't have had the courage to pursue teaching. Not only is she my impartial sounding board, she's my biggest champion, but she still keeps me grounded. Seriously, I really cannot advocate enough for therapy!

I agree that depression is not something you can snap out of. What worked for me was finding one or two things that made getting out of bedworth it. For me it was listening to RuPaul when he was hosting a morning radio show here in NYC. I found that one little thing made all the difference and I'm sure you can find that one little thing for you too.

 

[ssuriano]

As someone with depression I'll give you a few tips that have helped me out.
Even if it is weeks or months until you can see a counselor try talking to your general care physician. I worked with mine and he gave me a prescription for some great anti-depressants
Do the things that you know you will enjoy. For me it was riding my bike and spending time with close friends. Both of those activities put me in a better mood.
Talk about your feelings with someone you can trust. You don't have to be looking for advice or answers but it always feels better to get things off your chest.

I hope that you feel better soon!

 

[mjaclyn]

I encourage you to take the advice of previous posters and see your personal physician as soon as possible. He will be able to help until you're appointment with the counselor.

Also, the absolute worst thing you can do is isolate yourself. Even though you may feel like sitting on the couch all day muster up every ounce of drive you have and get out of the house. Talk to friends and family about how you're feeling and that will help as well.

I'm so glad you're reaching out for help. Depression can seem so overwhelming but please be assured that it CAN and WILL get better.

 

[kaligal]

I'd go to the doctor and make sure there was nothing physically wrong with me. There are a lot of things that people get that have them saying later, "I thought I was being lazy" or "I thought I was depressed."

Try to set one goal a day. That goal should be to shower. If you think you can do more, go outside. Go somewhere - anywhere.

If you start feeling suicidal, go to a hospital.

Hope you feel better soon.

 

[mkynut90]

I want to say Thank you to everyone who responded. I am going to make an appointment with my dr and take things from there. I did talk to my wife and she is trying to get my councilor apt. moved up or to see if a different councilor can take me earlier. It may seem little but the responses have lifted me up already. From my DH and I Thank you!!!!!!

MKYNUT90

 

[DeaverTex]

You'll make it. Wanting to is the biggest hurdle, and you've already cleared that one.

 

[Derby4me]

Just read this tread and wanted to be one more person that lets you know we're rooting for you. It's only a season...a REALLY CRAPPY and rough one, but it's only a season...it won't last forever. So happy to hear you're getting help and keeping open communication with your wife. Prayers and hugs sent your way.

 

[SamSam]

So glad you are going to get help. I just want to say my thoughts are with you and although it may feel like it, what you are going through will not last forever.

Also, thank you for reaching out on the DISboards, by doing so you have not only helped yourself but you may have helped someone else going through a similar situation.