Trying to make someones night a better night. Need Help

[garcia6112]

I need some help/advice. Heres what’s going on; I’m currently out on deployment right now and I’m close to getting sent back home. There’s this girl back home who I’ve had a previous relationship with… I have a strong heart for her… Only girl I’ve ever actually loved… anyways… ill get to the point… I’m usually good at this romantic stuff but since the break-up it’s been a while since I’ve done something over the top for her. Disneyland has always been our own special place. She loves this place! We have made plans to visit Disney when I get back home. I’m trying to win this girls heart back so I want to make our night, well her night extra special so I was wondering if any of you knew from either from past experiences or just have suggestions to help me. Is there any restaurant where I can request something? Can I use the cast for anything? Like I said I’m just trying to make it a fun and better night for her. So anything will help. I tried to e-mail Disney but it’s been days since I’ve sent out the e-mail so I’m hoping this will be a better way of getting answer. Thank you all

 

[Amyshubby]

Without knowing more about your relationship, I am going to give you my two cents (which might be different thent anyone else's). I say not to go over ther top. Just make it a regular visit to Disney (which is special in and of itself). There was a reason you broke up and now you are trying to get back together, which is clearly a possibility because she is willing to go to Disney with you. Just be yourself. You don't want have the cast go crazy and add all kinds of "get back together" pressure on her! Let it happen because she wants it to happen, not because of a grand gesture you made.

Just my opinion. Good Luck.

 

[tinkermomma]

Maybe I'm reading in between the lines here but it almost sounds like you want to propose to her (or at least get back together for good) like the previous poster said we don't really know the relationship. Did you two break up because of the deployment? Was it mutual?

And like she also said it's probably best to just relax and have fun, no pressure. But if you really just want to be romantic there are little places in the park that have that little extra romantic factor, first the YOU places. The places you already have great memories together.

That said, there are lots of generally romantic spots. First, and well, this is totally old fashioned but if it's still warm out, I find sharing a large ice cream or shake with the hubs to be kind of sensuous, unless one or both of us wants it all to ourselves , or just have a nice relaxing dessert in a pretty spot period. You could go to Gibson Girl on Main Street for that but it's generally pretty busy so a better choice might be Riverbelle Terrace (nice outdoor seating) in the afternoon.

Other romantic areas are the carrousel (of course), Snow White's wishing well, and all through New Orleans Square (when it's not crowded), and taking a train ride. The bridge over at DCA at sunset.

If you want to do a great dinner for the romantic factor, everyone here says Napa Rose has the best on property dining experience (at Grand Californian) or Steakhouse 55 (Disneyland Hotel) if you want more of a steakhouse. Maybe even Blue Bayou (the foods probably not as good for the $ but it's nice and dark).

Just have fun riding your favorite rides and take time out to relax here and there. I hope it works out for you too, and I'm betting it will.

 

[tinkermomma]

Oh and here's a romantic dinner thread from February.

 

[ConnieB]

When my boyfriend (now husband) came home from deployment I wasn't ever looking for grandstanding from him, and he never wanted it from me.....what we both wanted was time to reconnect with each other. Sounds like more than just the deployment has kept you two apart, so you may find that instead of grandstanding, it's better to just get to know each other again. Just go and have fun, don't be looking to impress her. If there was a break up and she's willing to go out with you again, then it sounds like she's interested so no need to go overboard and make her regret it! Be yourself.
That's the guy she's going to have to like if she's going to stay long-term.

Trying to be super romantic when you're not wired that way can be a nice gesture....but at this point you need realism to make her see that you're worth her hanging around again. Save the romance and gestures for after she's liking the real you.

Then again...if she's the type that requires high maintenance and only over the top will do...then have at it. But honestly, most women are not that way....we love the little things more often than "THE BIG THING" once.

Good luck!

Thank you for your service to our country.....my DH is retired military now, but our family is well aware of what you have done and it's importance.

 

[bigmochick]

GREAT advice Connie! Good luck garcia!!

 

[MyYearWithTheMouse]

First off, let me also say thank you for your service to our country. It is much appreciated.

ConnieB has great advice. You've been away, the relationship has changed--you need time to reconnect. You sound like a very sweet guy and I understand the temptation to want to wow and amaze her, but from the girl perspective, I'd say just take it one step at a time and be yourself. Try not to force any romance on the day. Springing for food is always nice, but just try to relax and enjoy yourself

 

[jernysgirl]

Thank you for serving our country. Your service is greatly appreciated.

If you already have a history of going to Disneyland together, then you should probably know a few things that she has enjoyed in the past (maybe favorite rides, snacks, shows, etc.).... If that is the case then make a point to do a few of those things. If you know that Splash is her favorite ride, then maybe ride it first or if churros are her favorite snack make sure to buy her one, or even if Mickey is her favorite character make sure to take her to ToonTown to meet Mickey. Take lots of pictures and maybe you could buy her a photopass picture at the end of the night as a souvenir.

Overall, I would agree with everyone else though. Don't go over the top. Sometimes the small simple things are the sweetest. Just having fun, laughing together, and enjoying shared experiences can really be some of the best memories. Don't be afraid to just let loose, relax and enjoy yourselves and each other's company.

 

[SplashMo]

Thank you for serving our country. Your service is greatly appreciated.

If you already have a history of going to Disneyland together, then you should probably know a few things that she has enjoyed in the past (maybe favorite rides, snacks, shows, etc.).... If that is the case then make a point to do a few of those things. If you know that Splash is her favorite ride, then maybe ride it first or if churros are her favorite snack make sure to buy her one, or even if Mickey is her favorite character make sure to take her to ToonTown to meet Mickey. Take lots of pictures and maybe you could buy her a photopass picture at the end of the night as a souvenir.

Overall, I would agree with everyone else though. Don't go over the top. Sometimes the small simple things are the sweetest. Just having fun, laughing together, and enjoying shared experiences can really be some of the best memories. Don't be afraid to just let loose, relax and enjoy yourselves and each other's company.

Nicely said. I agree...

 

[garcia6112]

Maybe I'm reading in between the lines here but it almost sounds like you want to propose to her (or at least get back together for good) like the previous poster said we don't really know the relationship. Did you two break up because of the deployment? Was it mutual?

And like she also said it's probably best to just relax and have fun, no pressure. But if you really just want to be romantic there are little places in the park that have that little extra romantic factor, first the YOU places. The places you already have great memories together.

That said, there are lots of generally romantic spots. First, and well, this is totally old fashioned but if it's still warm out, I find sharing a large ice cream or shake with the hubs to be kind of sensuous, unless one or both of us wants it all to ourselves , or just have a nice relaxing dessert in a pretty spot period. You could go to Gibson Girl on Main Street for that but it's generally pretty busy so a better choice might be Riverbelle Terrace (nice outdoor seating) in the afternoon.

Other romantic areas are the carrousel (of course), Snow White's wishing well, and all through New Orleans Square (when it's not crowded), and taking a train ride. The bridge over at DCA at sunset.

If you want to do a great dinner for the romantic factor, everyone here says Napa Rose has the best on property dining experience (at Grand Californian) or Steakhouse 55 (Disneyland Hotel) if you want more of a steakhouse. Maybe even Blue Bayou (the foods probably not as good for the $ but it's nice and dark).

Just have fun riding your favorite rides and take time out to relax here and there. I hope it works out for you too, and I'm betting it will.

Propose? No. I would love to stick with this girl forever but its just not gonna happen. At least not now. I blame myself for the break up. I took her for granted at the time. We were kids. I'm 21 now, was 18 when we broke up so its been a while since the break up. It's too long of a story to type.

A lot of you are saying to just have fun and enjoy ourselves. I still feel like I want to do something for her tho! I think about it and I really shouldn't. Maybe ill just try and start over with her... get to know one another again... sounds like a better idea.

Thank you for the advice.

 

[Quinnie]

who knew there was so much good relationship advice on disboards?

I know where to come for free counseling now ....

 

[twelvesixteen]

For me, Disneyland has always been about the little quirks and traditions and things that I've found that I love, not about the big hoopla (well, excluding my first trip when I was 5. That was definitely all about the hoopla). I would say just make sure you do all the things she loves, and since it's not a big proposal or anything, maybe not super extravagant is the way to do it. She sounds like a good Disney veteran so I'm sure if you just make her comfortable and do things that she loves, and maybe make it more romantic/relaxed at night after a whole day of fun with a nice dinner at the Blue Bayou perhaps, it would add that special spark. Good luck Garcia! We're rootin' for you

 

[MyYearWithTheMouse]

I hope you have a lovely time!

 

[ducky_love]

To me the small things are always the best. Since we live here at WDW it is our special place. A night a couple weeks ago before the fireworks my hubby said he had to use the restroom and bolted off. He can't set still... so it wasn't entirely out of character!

When he came back he had light up mouse ears for me. He said as he was dashing by they just made him think of me. I love that after all these years he still thinks of me.

Just show her you're still thinking of her!

 

[Mama Who]

Propose? No. I would love to stick with this girl forever but its just not gonna happen. At least not now. I blame myself for the break up. I took her for granted at the time. We were kids. I'm 21 now, was 18 when we broke up so its been a while since the break up. It's too long of a story to type.

A lot of you are saying to just have fun and enjoy ourselves. I still feel like I want to do something for her tho! I think about it and I really shouldn't. Maybe ill just try and start over with her... get to know one another again... sounds like a better idea.

Thank you for the advice.

Look at it this way- do you want one good weekend with a big showy moment or are you hoping for a future together?

If you want a moment, stage one. She'll remember it for a long time- fondly if it goes well and twitching if it doesn't. Chances are though, she'll remember it while she lives her life without you in it.

If this is someone you are hoping for a second chance with or even just to rebuild a friendship with, the advice you're getting is dead on. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Be the guy who knows her favorite ride. Be the guy who remembers that she likes to throw a coin in the wishing well. Be the guy who thinks of her and pays attention and likes to see her smile. That's the guy women keep around. When the right guy does the big gesture, it is wonderful, but it is important to be the right guy first.

 

[EmmersIsTheMommy]

Isn't it crazy how much you change in 3 years? She might've changed too. I agree with everyone. Nothing crazy extravagant. Just a good time. Get to know each other again. Maybe you fit together better now. Maybe you don't fit at all anymore? Either way, you don't want to plan something crazy awesome and have it fail because you're just two different people now. Do something small and impulsive once in a while when you're there. Something that fits. You'll know when it comes to you.

 

[DlandAmanda]

Great advice from everyone! Was just thinking if you guys have been to Disneyland a bunch before, maybe just do something like try and find all the hidden Mickey's in the park, you can buy the book as a surprise and say it's something that you thought you could do together. Nothing big, nothing flashy, but something fun you can experience together. Although Disneyland is a family place there is something romantic about it all the same, so just enjoy the atmosphere, each other and the Mouse!

 

[garcia6112]

Thank you all for being so supportive, I really don’t have a lot of time on my hands to be on this daily but I'm reading all of your comments. They are all very helpful. I'm so excited to get back home!