My first truck was an F-150. When I bought it (new), I was very clear that I wanted to tow our TT (Max weight about 7,500 pounds) and that I wanted the truck to have a towing package INCLUDING a brake controller. Well long story short, while they insisted it had a brake controller, the guy I took delivery from was telling me all I needed to do was put this "Relay" in to the slot inside the fuse box and I was all set. When I questioned where the controller was (as I was looking for the one with settings to adjust the controller), he told me it was integrated into the system. Still a bit confused but thinking maybe technology has improved this where they are now "Auto Sensing"..... I left with my new truck. After reading through the manual, I quickly realized, that I still needed the controller.
Anyway, I bought one (I really don't remember which one) but it was so simple to install. There was a wiring harness built into truck where I just had to take a piece of trim off to get to it, wrap under the dash to where I installed the controller (with velcro because I didn't want to drill holes into the trim anywhere). It worked like a charm and took me less than an hour to do everything.
You could get by without a brake controller and it will work, but I wouldn't want to. Not having one will put more strain on your tow vehicle. Also, because your max of your escape is around 3500 and the new TT is a dry weight of 2800, it won't take long to get the 700 pounds of "STUFF" in your new Winnie, especially when you consider the Propane, Water, Food, Dishes, clothes, etc.... It adds up quick. Plus, my rule of thumb is to keep the towing at least 10% below the capacity of the Tow Vehicle. So that would be a towing of 3150 max with the Escape. (You can tow at or even above max, but it's much harder on the vehicle and not near as safe).
A Weight Distributing Hitch (WDH) would also help especially with "Sway" at highway speeds, but that one is light enough it shouldn't give you too much problem. If you can use it though, I think again, you would be better off, but not necessary (Especially since they aren't cheap)
My last bit of advice (this post) is to take a test run of the Winne locally. That way you can see what you need or don't need. Even if there is no place locally to go, you can "Camp" at your house. Just try to avoid going into the house. That way you can see what you need for a typical trip. (Towels, TP, Food, Pots/Pans, spices, linens, etc...)
Welcome to RV'ing. I am sure you will have a blast. Bring on more of the "Silly" questions.... As you can tell, we are not swayed by them.
