With all of the great travel options our great country (and beyond) has to offer, why in the world would you travel to a Disney resort and NOT go to any of the parks??? I mean, I understand it if you are a 2-hour drive away and can go anytime you want and the Disney resorts are the best hotels near you, but if you're flying there, PLEASE reconsider for the sake of the kids.
Ask yourself this question: Would you go to Friendly's for dinner but plan in advance that your kids will NOT be allowed any ice cream?
If you are flying to Orlando anyway, we are blessed with SO MANY great options, why limit yourself to Orlando??? Show your kids some other great things.
There are wonderful (and fun!) spa resorts outside Phoenix, and your kids can learn the wonder and beauty of the American southwest.
We have many beach towns on both coasts that have excellent, fun-and-pampering resorts with a lot of great activities.
Philadelphia and Boston have many great hotel properties with any and every amenity you can imagine, plus a lot of FREE history to see and explore.
San Antonio has wonderful resorts, and the Alamo, the River Walk, and Sea World, too!
The Pacific Northwest. Mount Rushmore. Cleveland (yes, Cleveland.). Anywhere where there's a Great Wolf Lodge. Don't limit your imagination to Walter Elias Disney's imagination!