Travelling by myself

[mariolatry]

We've recently moved cross-country for my husband's job and it's been a bit of an adjustment for me. I've left all my friends and family behind. My DD (14 months) is starting her toddlerhood a bit early and I've been getting a little burned out. My DH said I could take a short trip BY MYSELF, probably in early February. It would probably be 2 or 3 nights. Any of you moms ever travelled without your family? How long were you gone for? Will I feel liberated or miserably lonely?


And for bonus points: Where should I go? My two options are returning back to Chicago to visit my friends or take a whirlwind trip to Disneyland. It would probably be cheaper to go to Chicago but who wants to visit Chicago in February? It's freakin' cold! Everyone will think I'm crazy if I ditch my friends to visit Disneyland by myself though....

 

[XYSRUS]

If you're feeling frazzled, I would suggest Disneyland. If you're homesick, go for Chicago. But, sucky weather is just that, sucky! Wherever you decide to go I hope you have a wonderful, restful, and fun trip!

 

[wrldpossibility]

I think I'd pick Chicago. I know what it's like to move and leave all your friends, and seeing them again may boast your spirits and relax you. And it may just be me, but while I'd love a few HOURS to myself in Disney, a few days would make me miss my kids too much. It's just such a "kid" and family place to me, I know I'd wish they were there. In Chicago, you will probably miss your DD less, since you'll be doing more "adult" and relaxing things. Have fun either way! It's nice of your DH to suggest it.

 

[Our2Girls&Disney]

I would recommend seeing if a friend could join you. Maybe a girls weekend somewhere. That would certainly pull things into perspective. I don't know if I could get away all alone, I would perfer someone with me.

 

[minkydog]

I'd probably go back home for 3 days, even in chicago. There's nothing like some R&R with friends and family without the kids. So much more fun and relaxing.

 

[Cheerdisney]

Coming from a military back ground and moving around alot. I have taken several mommy R&R weekend with other friends. Sometimes we just met in a central location and just relax and hung out. I know if I went to disneyland by myself I would want my kids there.

 

[monorailsilver]

Can you do both? I mean have a few of your friends meet you in DL?

I have gone to WDW once alone & although it got a bit boring it was fun also. I did meet my cousin & my sister there for 2 days (my cousin lived in FL & my sister was visitng her) & their kids but the last 2 days I was on my own.

I also did Club Med alone.

I would do both again in a heartbeat but then I was single & had no kids.

 

[wrighter]

I agree with many pp - try to have a friend meet you somewhere.

I, too, left Chicago when my first child was only a month old. Moved to "the burbs" in NJ where I didn't know a soul. DS was colicky, it was winter so nobody was out and about to meet, etc. Wasn't pretty. I think if, during that really difficult spell, I had gone back to Chicago, it might have made be "pine" for my old life. Does that make sense? Why remind yourself of what your old life was like when you're having a tough time with the new one, ya know?

Having a girlfriend or girlfriends meet you somewhere "neutral" provides relief and companionship - all things that new mommies in new locales could use!!!

Whatever you choose, know that you must have a great husband. And life will even out. Hang in there!