Traveling with someone who has VERY different opinions and taste

[mommyrosa2]

I'm doing my best to think of who I know that could go!

If I could find someone who I know would love it, I'd take them in a minute.

I guess there's no harm in keeping the reservation for a while while I'm searching.

I wouldn't cancel just yet...keep trying.

No, in fact, it was within the given budget. But just out of the question.

That alone speaks VOLUMES....

My BIL and I have our differences, but lemme tell ya, after a long hot day in AK, we had some words and it was NOT pretty! I will only go with DBF and close family from now on, thank you very much!

I hear ya....

 

[BringingUpDisney]

When is your reservation? Can you meet up with some Disboards friends? I often think that I would have more fun with most of the people on this list than my family! I have one friend that indulges my obsession so she comes on our trips and travels the same way I do. If not, I don't mind bringing DD on my own even though at 2.5 she isn't much of a conversationalist.

 

[DisneyGuy]

I'm not going until September so I have some time.

Don't know if i'd go on my own completely though.

 

[DisneyGuy]

I wouldn't cancel just yet...keep trying.



That alone speaks VOLUMES....

Good point!

 

[Evansvillegirl26]

This has happened to me for years. Most of my friends and family are on a value budget.I have had to stay moderate/ value many times due to other peoples budgets. I don't usually mind but then every few years I go on a mega disney vacation! Like this yr for example staying at AKL and GF club level with deluxe dining!!

 

[rocknroll]

I'm not going until September so I have some time.

Don't know if i'd go on my own completely though.

If you are going in September, FD booking comes out on May 9th I believe. And not that I would travel with someone who is going to cheap out at Disney (and let's admit that claiming a $200 difference nixes something that is within a budget, is just being cheap), but will the "savings" cover the "upgrade" to the resort you want (assuming availability). Or will FD allow you to go solo?

Of course that creates the dilemma of probably having to eat with your friend and fighting over who tips. LOL.

Cheers!

Roehl

 

[DisneyGuy]

If you are going in September, FD booking comes out on May 9th I believe. And not that I would travel with someone who is going to cheap out at Disney (and let's admit that claiming a $200 difference nixes something that is within a budget, is just being cheap), but will the "savings" cover the "upgrade" to the resort you want (assuming availability). Or will FD allow you to go solo?

Of course that creates the dilemma of probably having to eat with your friend and fighting over who tips. LOL.

Cheers!

Roehl

I actually booked with the Visa promo for the room only discount. I don't think the FD savings will really look any better honestly, because than it's rack rate. I've never done FD, but have always thought about it. If I were to go solo I'd probably do better with the Room Only discount though as I don't think i'd spend as much on food as FD allows.

 

[WDW in Pearls]

I'm not going until September so I have some time.

Don't know if i'd go on my own completely though.

When?? Maybe we can find some DISers that will also be there. DBF and I are going Sept 14-19.

 

[spiceycat]

I'm not going until September so I have some time.

Don't know if i'd go on my own completely though.

boy you don;t know what you are missing.

traveling solo can be wonderfully or horrible completely depends upon you.

now have been with others a few times - the worst was my mother who expected me to pay for everything - that gets old fast

then there was that person who only complained - resort, parks, etc.

what I want would be someone who could appreciated Wdw as much as I do.
or forget it - not worst the hassle - life is too short to spend it on people who don't appreciate you.

 

[Kim1964]

I hope you can find someone else to share your trip. This particular friend is clearly not a good fit. I have a very dear friend wih whom I traveled to Italy. Even though we'd been friends since we were 10 (almost 30 years), the trip was a disaster. We don't have the same traveling style at all. We didn't speak to each other for almost a year after that trip. Now I only travel solo, with my husband and kids, or with my sister.

 

[ammag]

Can you stay at two different resorts and meet at a certain time? Or were you sharing a room......maybe show her the videos here or on YouTube of the different resorts she may change her mind when it's not just a number. On the other hand, staying in value and taking the bus isn't that bad? But if you did that I definitely wouldn't give into everything the rest fo the trip...

 

[lmhall2000]

$200 is a lot when you are tight...some people may have the money but still would never dream of paying that for convenience. I break it down like this..

If the trip is primarily about fostering this friendship....you let go of preferences and do LM room at AoA...it is new, fun, and you literally are talking about 15 minutes of transportation time if that. Boils down to is the time spent with a friend more important?

If the trip is primarily about what each wants regardless of friendship...do not go...you both put your preferences above people and will harbor resentment.

I just know I would love the opportunity to share Disney with a friend...matters little how we get to the parks, just get me there!

 

[Steven41782]

When extended family goes with us, we don't do deluxe because not everyone sees the value in it. We usually do a moderate though. I'm not sure how often you go, but if you go every year, then just remember there's next year and save your $200 for an even nicer view at a Deluxe on your next trip. I think a value in September wouldn't be too bad because crowds are less. We always manage to have a good time regardless of where we stay. Only you know you...good luck with you decision.

 

[mtfarlin]

I'm not going until September so I have some time.

Don't know if i'd go on my own completely though.

I have gone on MANY SOLO trips to WDW!! I love it!!! Might sound selfish, but it is nice to be on one's own schedule, to eat and do what I want when I want. I have always been treated very nicely by CM's parkwide and was never once singled out because I was there by myself. The CM's at the resturants went out of their way to make my dining extra special, seeing I was a single diner and that was some extra pixie dust I did not expect. Enjoyed talking to other vacationers and they often struck up many a conversation with me out of the blue. Just sitting on a bench in one of the parks and watching the crowds go by was enjoyable to me I throughly enjoy doing solo trips and would recommend it to anyone

 

[buzznina]

I am a little confused, can you explain the $200 over her budget? Because you mentioned that it was only $200 more then her total budget, but then later said you were thinking of treating for a lot of stuff. So, to me that sounds like her budget (lets say $1000) for the whole trip is used up on just the resort fee. If thats the case then I can understand her issues. But if not, then she is not being flexible.
Me personally, deluxes are okay but definitely not a deal breaker.

 

[TDC Nala]

You can't make her stay in a more expensive room. You can ask her, but if she says no, then it's up to you whether you are ok with sucking up the less expensive room or you want to travel on your own so you can have your deluxe. Maybe she's being unreasonable, or maybe she's thinking of all the extra stuff she could do with that $200, and riding the buses is not as big a deal to her as it is to you.

If you want the deluxe badly enough that you are willing to pay her share of the difference, then that is up to you, but you can't make her pay more than she wants to. Plus, if you're going to resent her for "making" you pay more than you want to, or if you expect her to act a certain way beyond just saying "thank you" it's not going to be a fun trip.

I travel with friends a lot and the way for it to work is for both parties to be on the same page. And if they don't want to be on the same page, then one has to bend, and do so without overly resenting the other. If I needed a budget trip I wouldn't go with someone who insisted on a deluxe resort myself. I would have a big problem going with someone who insisted on the dining plan. And if I couldn't suck it up and do the plan for just that one trip I wouldn't go.

 

[Runnergal]

Honestly, I would skip it. Vacations are one place where I won't compromise. When I get the opportunity to go away, which is definitely not as often as I would like it to be, I like to stay at nicer hotels.

 

[Bob NC]

Any thoughts? suggestions? Would you downgrade your resort to make someone else happy? Keeping in mind that everything would be completely one sided at this point (food included).

I go enough that I'd be more than happy to do the trip the way my friend wants to do it.

That's what friends are for.

My next trip with another friend or family would be different.

 

[maxiesmom]

Unless you know you would be totally miserable at a value, I say stay at a value resort for a change, and focus on having fun with your friend. Where you stay shouldn't matter as much as having a good time with your friend.

 

[Sweettears]

I'm doing my best to think of who I know that could go!

If I could find someone who I know would love it, I'd take them in a minute.

I guess there's no harm in keeping the reservation for a while while I'm searching.

I did not read the whole thread but this sounds like a perfect time for a solo trip.