Tragic News...

[poohandwendy]

My DD has a friend Paul who lost his battle with brain cancer sunday morning. He was 15. She was blessed to have know him, he really made a difference in many peoples lives. He was diagnosed when he was in 7th grade and outlived the expectations of the doctors. He finally slipped into a coma sat night and passed in the am. Jessica is visiting my inlaws (an hour away) and I received the message sunday evening and called her, it was so hard to give her this news over the phone, but I needed to make sure she would be home for the funeral. It is hard to hear your daughter in pain and not be able to give a hug or hold her hand. She is really upset because she was hoping he would make it through another school year. She sat with him on the bus every day.
Well...it gets worse....
Paul had a 20 yo sister and 10 yo brother. Apparently his sister, Nicole has had problems with drugs and recently got out of rehab. She took her life this morning, (heroin od). I cannot think of more to say, I just hope you all could sent out some love to and prayers across the miles to this family. A 10 yo became an only child in 24 hrs. There is no way to understand why this family has been dealt such pain, I wish their was somehting I could do, I feel so helpless. I am not telling Jess until she gets home tommorow morning, I can't bear how she is going to react to this tragic turn of events. Anyone have any idea how to tell your 15 yo why this happened? Sorry, if my words aren't eloquent, I cannot think straight.
wendy

 

[Dan Murphy]

That is such a sad story, poohandwendy. So very sad. My prayers are with this family, in support and in their grief. God bless the little 10 year old. Hoping your Jess does well in the days ahead.

 

[ZPT1022]

So sorry to hear everything that's happened. My brother lost a friend this past spring, also to cancer, also age 15. They had known each other since they were little, went to scout camp together, etc... I don't know what to say, at least it is good that your daughter had a reaction, my brother did nothing. No reaction, honestly we think he still hasn't dealt with it, it would mean he would have to face his own mortality a bit. Anyhow, good luck, honesty is probably the best way at her age, she will find out through the rumor mill when school starts anyway. Probably better that you just lay it on the line to begin with. That poor family, they have my prayers

 

[Rajah]

How horrible! Everyone involved is in my prayers.

 

[Planogirl]

I can't begin to imagine what this family is going through. My prayers for them and for your DD too. So very sad.

 

[lizfromfl]

My prayers go out to both your family and their family. What a horrible thing!

 

[mamajoan]

Wendy,
I am deeply saddened by the death of these two young people. It is so difficult to understand why life is so difficult for some people. This is a tremendous loss for any family, let alone a 10 year old sibling.
Please know that I have sent my prayers in earnest.
Joan

 

[catsrule]

this is so sad. i am so sorry for everyone's pain. everyone will be in my thoughts.

 

[poohandwendy]

Thank you all, you are so kind. This family needs all of the support, love and prayers they can get...
One thing that just keeps coming to my mind is a conversation I had w/ Jess last Friday. She hadn't visited with him for a while and told me she really wanted to see him but it was so hard to see him deteriorate. He was losing funtion on the one side of his body on their last visit. When I broke the news she kept saying, 'I KNEW I should have seen him, there were things I needed to tell him..' I know that she feels guilty. I am so stunned, I want to think of the right way to make her feel at ease about not seeing him. Thanks for all of your prayers, the viewings for Paul were scheduled to be tommorow and wed with the funeral being on Thur. I don't know if his sister's death has changed any of the arrangements. I feel such pain for this family, this is going to be a really hard time. I guess I am rambling, I come back later when I can gather my bearings....

 

[Doctor P]

How very terrible. The family is in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[dianeschlicht]

How Tragic!!

 

[glo]

Wendy your words were just fine. MY thoughts and prayers to that family, and an extra big hug to you and your DD too.

 

[helenabear]

This is so very sad to hear all this That poor family. My thoughts and prayers are with all who are hurting right now

 

[Tony-NJ]

How awfull! My thoughts and prayers are with this family. And for Jess.

 

[Serena]

Please send my condolences to the family and friends.
I can't think of any advice for you to help your daughter, honesty and hugs, I guess. This is just so awful for her.
My thoughts and prayers for everyone.

 

[meeshi]

I can't even imagine the pain this family is going through. They are in my prayers along with your dd. (((((((HUGS))))))))

 

[Pooh93]

I can't even imagine what this family is going through. Prayers for their pain and your daughter's too. {{hugs}}

 

[janette]

How tragic, my thoughts and prayers will be you all.

 

[newmousecateer]

How very heartbreaking. I will keep this family in my prayers.

{{{HUGS}}} to your daughter.

 

[jx3smom]

What an incredibly sad story. My heart aches for that poor family. My prayes go out to them and your DD.