Toys for Christmas right??? Not clothes... vent ahead..

[Swan4Me]

No, I have no problem with people disagreeing with the OP. I do have a problem of 14 pages of people ganging up on the OP, telling her she's raising an ungrateful brat, calling her nasty, disgusting, etc.

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I was the Ganged-upon yesterday
Its a DIS tradition-pick one thread and go crazy

 

[Dee77]

No, I have no problem with people disagreeing with the OP. I do have a problem of 14 pages of people ganging up on the OP, telling her she's raising an ungrateful brat, calling her nasty, disgusting, etc.

One poster insinuated that the OP made comments about Mexicans.

The OP has said her nieces collect snow globes yet people are still accusing her of giving horrible gifts to her niece and making fun of the fact that she gave her nieces the snow globes.

Back for one more post while I continue wrapping...

Lisa- Jane was only pointing out that several people thought that my SIL's quote about giving clothes from CP and Carters etc will go to the guys that mow her lawn, Mexicans, was something I had said because they were on the bandwagon of thinking I am as terrible as I apparently seem on this thread. It was a quick skim of the post I wrote and people thought I feel that way about less expensive clothes being unworthy or something. Reading the whole post shows that it was a disgusting attitude to have and she should have just shut up and gave the clothes away but instead wanted us to know that maybe clothes is our $$ range wouldn't go over well with her.

Jane- thanks again!

 

[JaneBanks]

See that's just it, my counterpart, meaning the other DIL that married one of MIL's sons, not her daughter that is technically also my SIL, has made it crystal clear that the clothes she has recieved for births, birthday and holiday presents will "go to the Mexicans that mow our lawn if they are from Carters, Childrens Place or Walmart etc, they will never see the light of day on my children" So we have all sort of discussed how different all of our tastes are in clothes and also what we each prefer/can spend on clothes etc so that is also a part of why I would have thought that outfits and such would be avoided but matching disney pj's are still good for grandma to get. See there I go again with more in-law venting but really it had to be said.

You do see that is wrong on many levels, right?

And, no, it didn't. In addition to my parents teaching me to be appreciative for what I'm given, they also taught me that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything.

Of course it is wrong, I am not the one who feels that way though and it certainly was wrong for her explain what was happening with the gifts many of us had given her.

I'm glad to see that you realize that is wrong. I was unable to discern that from your post.

Seems insinuated to me.

 

[crashbb]

Seems insinuated to me.

Not to me - at all.

There is an insutation that the OP thinks that it is appropriate to control what type of gifts are given (in the SIL case, nothing from specific stores), but I didn't (and don't) think that YodaGirl was making any suggestion that the OP was saying anything disrespectful about people from Mexico.

 

[JaneBanks]

Not to me - at all.

There is an insutation that the OP thinks that it is appropriate to control what type of gifts are given (in the SIL case, nothing from specific stores), but I didn't (and don't) think that YodaGirl was making any suggestion that the OP was saying anything disrespectful about people from Mexico.

And to me it does, we'll just have to disagree. Even if she didn't, there's plenty in this thread to see that this has been nothing but a bunch of adults bashing the OP page upon page.

Also,I don't see where the OP controls what is given to her child, her SIL does obviously since she doesn't want clothes from Carters, The Children's Place or Walmart.

As far as the OP has said, she didn't tell the SIL to not get her child clothes, she just said she was surprised that she only got her clothes because she usually gives a toy as well.

 

[YodaGirl]

You do see that is wrong on many levels, right?

And, no, it didn't. In addition to my parents teaching me to be appreciative for what I'm given, they also taught me that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything.

Of course it is wrong, I am not the one who feels that way though and it certainly was wrong for her explain what was happening with the gifts many of us had given her.

I'm glad to see that you realize that is wrong. I was unable to discern that from your post.

Oh yeah, wrong, very wrong and made my head spin around when she said it. But hey at least I know to be prepared for racist and unflattering comments to be slung around freely in the presence of my child when we are together.... thus why I said that I have issues with my in-laws and why we are taking a break this Christmas and just sticking with my very predictible family.

Let's review, shall we?

OP made a comment about what her SIL said about Carter's/Walmart/etc clothing. (Meant to quote that in this post, but I guess I didn't click it.)

I asked if she realized that was wrong (as in - does she realize what her SIL said was wrong).

She said that she did realize it was wrong.

I said that I was glad that she realized that, since I was unable to discern that in her post.

Seems insinuated to me.

Nope. Nothing insinuated. I asked for clarification in regards to her okaying her SIL's comment, but I, in no way, at any time, insinuated that the OP said it.

Not to me - at all.

There is an insutation that the OP thinks that it is appropriate to control what type of gifts are given (in the SIL case, nothing from specific stores), but I didn't (and don't) think that YodaGirl was making any suggestion that the OP was saying anything disrespectful about people from Mexico.

 

[JaneBanks]

Let's review, shall we?

OP made a comment about what her SIL said about Carter's/Walmart/etc clothing. (Meant to quote that in this post, but I guess I didn't click it.)

I asked if she realized that was wrong (as in - does she realize what her SIL said was wrong).

She said that she did realize it was wrong.

I said that I was glad that she realized that, since I was unable to discern that in her post.



Nope. Nothing insinuated. I asked for clarification in regards to her okaying her SIL's comment, but I, in no way, at any time, insinuated that the OP said it.

I felt that it was insinuating because the last line of that paragraph said that she was In-Law venting again. To me, that meant that she didn't like what was said. I see that you may not have.

 

[YodaGirl]

And to me it does, we'll just have to disagree. Even if she didn't, there's plenty in this thread to see that this has been nothing but a bunch of adults bashing the OP page upon page.

Also,I don't see where the OP controls what is given to her child, her SIL does obviously since she doesn't want clothes from Carters, The Children's Place or Walmart.

As far as the OP has said, she didn't tell the SIL to not get her child clothes, she just said she was surprised that she only got her clothes because she usually gives a toy as well.

Actually, I've been fairly nice to the OP.

I disagree with her, and to be frank, I feel that her OP does come across as very ungrateful, but that doesn't mean that she is.

I've given my experiences with clothes as gifts, and I've given my DD's opinion as to whether or not she would want the gifts.

What I find rude, is someone twisting my comments to say something that they didn't say, then suggesting that other readers have flawed reading comprehension.

But, hey, whatever. I know what I said and meant. Others seem to understand what I said and meant. You misinterpreting my comments doesn't change their meaning. To each their own.

 

[luvmy3]

As far as the OP has said, she didn't tell the SIL to not get her child clothes, she just said she was surprised that she only got her clothes because she usually gives a toy as well.

The OP doesn't sound like she was surprised her dd didn't get toys, it sounds like she is annoyed and ungrateful because she didn't get toys. Maybe that is why you think she is being ganged up on, because you see the OP as surprised where the rest of us see her as being ungrateful. I'm not a betting kind of girl, but the odds of 99% of us misunderstanding the OP are pretty slim.

 

[YodaGirl]

I felt that it was insinuating because the last line of that paragraph said that she was In-Law venting again. To me, that meant that she didn't like what was said. I see that you may not have.

Indeed.

 

[luvsJack]

hey ya'll! Ho, ho, ho. Merry Christmas, Peace on Earth and all, ya know??

 

[S. C.]

We always give both toys and clothes.

 

[JaneBanks]

The OP doesn't sound like she was surprised her dd didn't get toys, it sounds like she is annoyed and ungrateful because she didn't get toys. Maybe that is why you think she is being ganged up on, because you see the OP as surprised where the rest of us see her as being ungrateful. I'm not a betting kind of girl, but the odds of 99% of us misunderstanding the OP are pretty slim.

No, I think she's getting ganged up on because she's been called some not so very nice things and her 5 year old child has been called some not so very nice things.

Not everyone has been mean in their comments but a lot have been.

I know I'm in the minority here so I'll just step back now.

 

[gracie1]

This thread needs to be closed

 

[lillygator]

No, I think she's getting ganged up on because she's been called some not so very nice things and her 5 year old child has been called some not so very nice things.

Not everyone has been mean in their comments but a lot have been.

I know I'm in the minority here so I'll just step back now.

I agree.....
op I don't think you meant the original post as ungrateful....

 

[Jennasis]

OK I have been called ungrateful one too many times, and told how I should raise my daughter to be more appreciative more times than I think most people would put up with. I came here to vent and that is exactly what I did, now I am off to go wrap my 73 toys for my precious snowflake and to burn what she opened last night in retaliation for how I have been vilified here. Thanks everyone for your insightfulness and take no prisoners attitude. Have a very Merry Christmas and I will be thinking of each of you as DD is on hour 3 of opening her plethora of TOYS and MORE TOYS this Sunday morning, now that we got the boring clothes and crap out of the way

Have a great day everyone!

Ooh! A thread YAGE! Guess it's time to bust it out...here you go:

JAZZ HANDS!!

 

[Ciciwoowoo]

As a sister-in-law with this problem...

I bought my nephew mostly clothes this year.

He is 3 and has far too many toys. I mean, even his parents laugh and call him spoiled. He gets a new toy just about every day!

What could I possibly buy to compete? Anything I purchase will probably go to the bottom of the toybox, and well, money is too hard to come by to throw it away.

Clothes may not be appreciated by the child, but they will be used. It is a very practical gift.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I used to hate getting clothes, but we've been giving clothes to our kids and nieces/nephews for a few years. Usually something special (funny or weird t-shirt, brand names they don't normally get, etc). I agree just giving a pair of jeans or a blouse or something is kind of lame. Socks? Yeah, no thanks.

However, Grandma always gives pajamas. Every year. To EVERYONE. And we are expected to open them Christmas Eve and wear them to bed.

As for telling people not to buy stuff at a certain place... good luck with that. We used to tell family not to buy Barbies, Bratz, and war toys, but we were ignored. . Usually we just dealt with it by letting them keep the toys.

 

[TheBoogieMan]

Here is the thing with clothes:

I like picking my own clothes!!! I'm very picky, I like things that look good and feel comfortable. Not once in my life has anyone ever given me a clothing item that I liked. I think giving clothes is a lazy and cheap way out. It would be better to just write a check and that way the person can buy clothes that they want, should they want clothes.

 

[iheartdisney]

Having missed the ensuing battle, I will offer my opinion on the actual question.
I never understood people that give toothbrushes, underwear, etc- the "practical" stuff as gifts just so the kid has more to open. Gifts should be gifts- not "they needed this anyway so lets wrap it up and we have one less thing to buy."