Torn with going to Disney and not disney

[angel659]

Hi,

My husband wants to go elsewhere on holiday. As much as I like going on holiday all I can think about is going back to Disney. My husband is disney'd out! I keep trying to kid myself thats it best to see other places. I just see or hear disney music and I am there straight away thinking wow I want to go back with a huge smile on my face. Its driving me nuts. So torn!

Just had to rant I knew you would understand. He doesnt get it and thinks Disney is not good for me, because I become obsessed lol.

 

[disney_princess_85]

Can't you compromise? One week at Disney and one week elsewhere?

 

[angel659]

Can't you compromise? One week at Disney and one week elsewhere?

I have done. I might do is look at some villas instead of disney try to get him to agree that way. It needs to be cheap and not too much of the theme parks. He has had enough. I know he loves the idea of a villa in Majorca he also wants to go to Newquay. I am wondering if I could say how about a villa in Orlando instead.

 

[wilma-bride]

Michelle, I completely understand where you're coming from. As much as there are so many places I would love to see in the world, at the moment we are in the position (like most people) where we can only stretch to one holiday a year. And I would much prefer that holiday to be somewhere where I know I will have a good time, rather than 'risk' going somewhere I/we may not enjoy.

My DH was adamant that we were NOT doing Disney this year but I have managed to persuade him to go to Florida this summer on the basis that we will do some of the things that he wants and less of Disney and the other parks which, frankly, I think he is a little tired of. I wish I could be less selfish but, unfortunately, I can't and so this is a good enough compromise. To be fair, my DH would not have allowed himself to be persuaded if he didn't want to go so there must be something that keeps drawing him back too - suspect it is the food and the weather

Some friends of ours (also DISers) have an agreement where he picks where to go one year and she chooses the next year. It seems to work pretty well for them and, again, much as I woud like to come to that agreement with DH, I worry that he will choose somewhere I know I will hate whereas at least I know we both like Florida. When our kids are older and have left home, we both know that we will be able to do more and go away more often so can afford to take more of a 'risk' with our holiday destinations.

Can't really offer you any advice other than try to explain to your DH how you feel and what it is that makes you want to go back. It worked for me, you never know

 

[BRobson]

We are in the same position We have been to WDW 15 times now DH is trying to put his foot down and he doesn't want us to go this year. My head says it is the sensible thing to do but my heart ain't playing the game

Sorry no help am I I know we will go next year for my 40th so will just have to plan an exciting trip for next year.

 

[Dimplenose]

We can only go every 3 or 4 years - but looking on the bright side I enjoy our other holidays and it keeps Disney feeling fresh and new.

 

[natalielongstaff]

We go every two years generally, i think you should let your dh get his way this year...its only fair

 

[mandymouse]

I have done. I might do is look at some villas instead of disney try to get him to agree that way. It needs to be cheap and not too much of the theme parks. He has had enough. I know he loves the idea of a villa in Majorca he also wants to go to Newquay. I am wondering if I could say how about a villa in Orlando instead.

That sounds like a plan ~ Good Luck

 

[Lizzybear]

The bf has requested a non-Disney year for 2010 (I may go to DLRP with my sister if we can get a cheap deal though ) and i'm surprisingly OK with it. He does pay for half of our holidays yet i've made most of the decisions so it's only fair really Personally I wouldn't want to go to WDW, Orlando or even Florida every year (i'm a Disneyland CA convert!) Even just staying within the US there are so many amazing places outside of FL

 

[Nubbedy]

Fortunately my DH is now 'broken' and rapidly becoming as Disney obsessed as me! He actually 'made' me book our flights for August where I tried to be strong and suggest an alternative holiday. But deep down I only want to go to WDW. As you have said, it's the little triggers - some music, a photograph, a smell, a comment from DS1... In the past couple of years we have been lucky enough to be able to do Disney in the summer and somewhere else at Half Term. While we are only able to afford one holiday though, Disney is gonna win every time. It has something for all of us and the free dining swings it every time! Good Luck, I think a compromise is the way to go though...

 

[angel659]

Thanks everyone. I have decided to do what Bruce wants to do. It's hard, but I would rather a happy husband lol. Also we do have some big plans in the future we need to see other places and save money to. I just need to keep reassuring myself that I am doing the right thing lol. It doesnt help my sister in law has just booked her flights and I am not helping her plan makes me have a pair of green eyes lol.

 

[Ware Bears]

I feel your pain Michelle this is the first time we haven't got a Disney holiday planned for the future and I am feeling very lost.

Let us know where you decide to go.

 

[A Small World]

Could you look at a cheap break do DLP to get your disney fix - I notice you are in Kent so you could perhaps do it very cheaply

 

[kieras nana]

we go every 2 years,but even then,we go somewhere else as well,to keep hubby happy.we have done hawaii & orlando,SF & orlando,st petes beach & orlando & a 2 week tour & orlando,this year it is new york & orlando.
also this year,we have decided,not to do disney,although we will be going to mnsshp.
we have never done universal & the water parks & it is about 6 years,since we last went to busch gardens,so these are on our agenda this trip,so it will still be exciting,as it will be new to us.
i love orlando,because theres plenty to do,every time you go.always something new,to see & do.
i would definately look,at a compromise.it works,for us
tracy

 

[scojos]

we too do every other year, but our "other" holidays are action packed too, we dont do "lie on the beach" holidays!! i would recommend the first choice holiday villages, loads of stuff to keep both adults and kids busy!
dh caved in after i was ill last summer and allowed me to book another wdw holiday, though i thik it will be the last for a few years as we have loads of money to spend on the house in the next few years....
Tracy