Too Young For a Certian Purse?

[DCLuvinit]

Tinkerbellish - I think your gym teacher should have kept that comment to herself. I agree that it is nobody's business how anyone decides to spend their money!

 

[pw2pp]

I have 3 Louis Vuittons and a Burberry....... but they are all FAKE.
I'm to poor/cheap to get the real thing.

 

[CinderellaIam]

To Paris Hilton aka tinkerbellish

Very, very rude and uncalled for. This is not a political board, it's a COMMUNITY board on a family oriented site, and community does include young adults. Shame on you tinkerbell of winter. If you didn't like the post, you didn't have to respond to it. And, if all you want to discuss is politics, maybe it's time you found another board....

 

[disneychrista]

Originally posted by Tinkerbellish
I am 13, the purse when I had bought it for retail was 77 dollars. (It goes on ebay for around 300 or so) I personaly don't think that it was that expensive and I am responsible enough to carry it. It do have 7 or so bags from the same line (ones even more expensive...) and this has never been said to me. I even carry "designer purses" (Coach, Burberry, LV, Dooney + Bourke) and never once has this been said.

WOW!! Must be nice. Thanks for the brag.

 

[DiaDeGuadalupe]

I agree with the posters who said it's the OP's business if she wants to carry designer purses. I actually love the messenger bags from Gwen's line and have been a No Doubt fan for many years.

As for doubting the OP's being a fan since the age of 4 (as the Paris Hilton poster so rudely said), my DD is 3 and *adores* Miss Gwennie. She will ask me to change the music if I'm listening to something that she doesn't like, and if we hear No Doubt on the radio, she'll tell us to turn it up.

Anyway, people collect all sorts of things. The OP likes nice purses so what's the big deal? Whether she buys them with her own money or she gets them from her parents, it's her business, not anyone else's.

 

[Nancy]

I personally feel that $77.00 is just too much to spend on a purse, no matter how old you are.(that's half my grocery budget)

BUT if you or your parents can afford it then go for it. My kids would never get a purse that costs that much, unless they used their own money.

And your gym teacher should have been more polite and just said thanks, I like it too. and then let it go.

 

[minniecarousel]

Tinkerbellish - I think your teacher was put out that you had the same purse that she has (ya know - like wearing the same dress to a party?!) that said - I work in a HS in an affluent area in Nor Cal - and lots of the girls carry designer purses. There's nothing wrong with it - it's the norm around here. Let me also say that these kids do good works too - lots of volunteer jobs, especially if they don't ned to work at an after-school paying-job.

tinkerbellof winter - this is the "Community Board". We welcome posters of all ages. Some of us don't read the political threads and enjoy the "fluff". I don't open threads that I don't want to read - why don't you try that? (the "back" button works real well too)

 

[MosMom]

I'm just shocked the gym teacher was carrying a purse.

 

[luvmydogs]

Originally posted by MosMom
I'm just shocked the gym teacher was carrying a purse.

 

[welovedisneyx4]

Tinkerbellish,

This was a fine post. If I wanted all political posts, I would so not be here on this board!! In fact, I am not very interested in all the political debate, so you know what? I don't read those posts!! Wow, its really great, I don't have to see things I don't like or am not interested in!! (And even if I do look at them, I don't get all up in arms if I don't like what it says!)

As far as the cost of the bag, I know when I was growing up, if I wanted something expensive and not "necessary", I could pay for it from $ saved up from babysitting, allowance, birthdays, whatever. I think this taught me to take care of my things, especially if it was something expensive.

Sorry for the rude posts about this, there was no need for that whatsoever!!!!

 

[jfulcer]

But if we're allowing tinkerbellish to have her own opinions about having a purse and being upset about the teacher, can't we all also respect that for tinkerbell of winter has their own opinions about the situation and a 13 year old having that kind of purse?

Do we really need to chastise tinkerbell of winter for their opinion when we are telling tinkerbellish that other people have their own opinions and can speak them just as she can?

Personally I think that if she wants to buy the purse, it's her choice and her money. If she brings it to school and gets stolen, that's a good life lesson for her to learn now, and not when she's 23 and has a purse full of credit cards/etc to lose?

As a Love and Logic parent, it's mean to say but I hope it does get stolen, for a myraid of reasons.

 

[SC Minnie]

Personally I think the gym teacher was out of line with her comments. I have never known a female gym teacher that was that 'girlie' to carry a cute purse like that.

In response to the other issues opened here--
I would assume that in more affluent parts of the country many teens have expensive 'things' that I wouldn't buy for or couldn't afford to give my own child. The cost of these 'things' is relative to the environment you live in. I work very close to the high school in our town-- the kids drive past the office here to get to the main road. I cannot believe some of the cars these 16 and 17 year olds are driving-- expensive SUV's, brand new sports cars, BMW's, etc. We have a lot of new developments going up around here that are very pricey. People are moving from more expensive areas of the country and are able to buy more house here and still have the disposable income.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Well since you asked me - yes too young for that purse.

Just my opinion, but over the past 2 to 3 years especially, I've worked very hard to steer my kids away from consummerism and the love of "things." Purses, clothes and other "symbols" that are pretty much just saying to the world....look at me, I'm rich. There is nothing wrong with looking nice and having nice things, but there is a distinct line between that and just outright spending money to show you can.

I don't have a girl, so a purse isn't an issue. But if my 14 year old boy wanted to buy something along those lines, even it was his own money, I'd most likely say no.

I don't hope that the purse gets stolen, but the chances of something happening to the purse in a kid infested environment are so great, I hope that whomever carries one is well prepared for the loss or ruination of the item.

Just my value system, YMMV.

 

[MosMom]

Originally posted by Toby'sFriend
Well since you asked me - yes too young for that purse.

Just my opinion, but over the past 2 to 3 years especially, I've worked very hard to steer my kids away from consummerism and the love of "things." Purses, clothes and other "symbols" that are pretty much just saying to the world....look at me, I'm rich. There is nothing wrong with looking nice and having nice things, but there is a distinct line between that and just outright spending money to show you can.

I don't have a girl, so a purse isn't an issue. But if my 14 year old boy wanted to buy something along those lines, even it was his own money, I'd most likely say no.

I don't hope that the purse gets stolen, but the chances of something happening to the purse in a kid infested environment are so great, I hope that whomever carries one is well prepared for the loss or ruination of the item.

Just my value system, YMMV.

Seems to me though she probably likes that purse because it is from Gwen Stefani's line. I bet many teens like that purse and not because it costs $77.00. I think the GYM teacher is the one that brought the issue of cost into it. Think of all the teenage boys that have sneakers that cost $77 or more. Hell, a pair of Abercrombie jeans are $60 but nobody scoffs at that.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Think of all the teenage boys that have sneakers that cost $77 or more. Hell, a pair of Abercrombie jeans are $60 but nobody scoffs at that.

oh believe me. Plenty of people scoff at Abercrombie prices. But that is a whole different issue. My children own a few Abercrombie shirts that were bought on clearance/sale.

Three or four years ago I would have probably bought them Abercrombie jeans if asked, but as my kids got older, I really didn't like the sense of entitlement attitudes they were developing. We do have a bit of money and I do love my kids, I enjoy buying them things...just like most parents.

A couple of years ago my husband and I decided together that some of our actions were leading our kids into values that were not what we wanted. So we made an effort to change.

I only answered the question as asked. I certainly don't go up to 13yo girls on the street and express my opinion.

 

[arminnie]

Originally posted by caitycaity
tinkerbelle of winter - spending $77 on a purse means someone is paris hilton?

Paris Hilton wouldn't be caught dead carrying a purse that only cost $77. The expensive "status" purses can easily cost $1000 and up.

I think it would be odd for a 13 year old to be carrying a Chanel or Hermes or Judith Lieber mega-bucks bag, but I would still keep my mouth shut and not insult her personally.

The purse the OP posted is adorable, but hardly qualifies as a mega-bucks status purse.

Now that I am not in the workforce I love buying really cheap cute purses for fun. I spend $5-15 on these bags. But that doesn't mean that I think someone who spend $77 is a spoiled selfish person.

 

[welovedisneyx4]

I don't think anyone is saying tinkerbell of winter can't have an opinion, but the response came across as rude.

 

[minniecarousel]

"As a Love and Logic parent, it's mean to say but I hope it does get stolen, for a myraid of reasons"

Wow - that's kinda harsh. So "love & logic" wishes bad things to happen to their kids?

No one is saying that Tinkerbell of winter can't express her opinion - it was the way she told Tinkerbellish to get off the board - and not to bother us with such silliness - at least that was what I got out of her posts.

 

[vernon]

But if we're allowing tinkerbellish to have her own opinions about having a purse and being upset about the teacher, can't we all also respect that for tinkerbell of winter has their own opinions about the situation and a 13 year old having that kind of purse

I think the difference is that 1) the OP expressed her opinions in a manner that would not cause offence and 2) even if those opinions did cause offence, it's unlikely said teacher would read the material.

However tinkerbell of winter was quite clearly offensive, quite clearly meant to be offensive and obviously knew the target for her spite would read the post.


While I agree with a few of the comments that for a 13 Y old to have probably in excess of $1000 worth of purses alone, she is indeed fortunate and I hope she appreciates the priviledged position her family has afforded her, I don't think it's fair to openly critisise someone for being in that position. What do you want? Everyone that's been lucky, or has a hard working family live in rags to make those less well off feel a little better? America is a very commercial and materialistic world. You can't blame the kids, it's the adults who push the adverts at them and it's the parents that give in to the pressure. If you want to change the system, hit the people pushing the messages, not those being targetted and exploited by them JMHO.

 

[Pam]

Do we really need to chastise tinkerbell of winter for their opinion when we are telling tinkerbellish that other people have their own opinions and can speak them just as she can?

I do not feel that we are chastising tinkerbelle of winter at all - we are just calling her out for being rude and attacking two posters.

And Jeff, I am a little disappointed in your comment in hoping that the OP loses her purse. That comment seems so out of character for you. When my DD was 13, she accidently left her CD player and a stack of CDs (to the tune of over $400.00) on a post at the airport because we had to unexpectedly dash from part of the airport to another.