Just wanted to say I share your frustration in finding the right home to purchase.
We have been looking since last March and put a bid on only one house - we even bid over the asking price by $10,000 - and were outbid by someone else.
We no longer have faith in our realtor; she was nice but really not good at her job. Showing us houses that were 45 minutes from our lives and in horrible shape. One house was so bad she actually waited outside with our kids when we showed up to look because it was unsafe in her opinion. The basement had A FREAKIN TWO WAY MIRROR and the room it looked into had a drain; there was even an intercom with switches and knobs...and a portion of ceiling that was mirrored. Wtheck?!
Now we have been involved with Habitat for Humanity and it has become increasingly stressful and complicated. Our first property offer? 45 minutes away, bad neighborhood with FOUR SO's within five blocks of the address. Um, no. How is that safe and affordable housing? We feel we just wasted seven months of our lives chasing a plastic carrot.
I hope you find your dream home soon. We know how difficult it is. I'll be thinking of you!