jann1033 said:
so the baby swap ...you don't all get in line together?
We did baby swap once with my DD. I went on line and told the CM up front that we wanted to do baby swap or rider switch. They will give you a ticket like fastpass and you go wait on line while the other parent waits for you to get off-not online or even near the ride, they can go and rest. Then when you get off, you give the ticket to the other parent and they go through the fastpass line and get right on. At least that is how it worked when we went in 2000. (When DD had just turned 1)
We brought our stroller for my DD's first and second trips(she was 1 and 2.5) and it was helpful since we went to DTD and to other places outside of Disney and had a way to transport her. Subsequent years-when whe was 3.5 and this year, she is 5.5-we would rent in the park since she would be able to walk while we are in DTD or elsewhere.
Slo, you are thinking of the Baby Care Centers and they are wonderful. They have highchairs, a little play area, changing tables, a microwave to heat up food and a little store for any needs you need. We always stop in there to cool off and get DD washed up after a messy snack or if she is a little too sweaty.
Like everyone else said, just go with the flow. I let my DD dictate what she wanted to do. And like others, my DD REFUSED to nap in the room, but she would fall asleep perfectly in the stroller every day for an hour at around 2. It was perfect. When she was asleep we would either walk around and enjoy the park (and sometimes I would hit a ride or two while my grandmother-my wdw companion, DH opts out-sat with her) or find a shady spot, get a snack and rest. I always say let sleeping dogs lie-if I tried to wake her up to bring her to the hotel to finish her nap, she would just be cranky the rest of the day and never go back to sleep.
As far as attractions, she went on pretty much everything. She enjoyed it all. She particularly loved Pirates-she would clap when we went down the little flume thing at the begining. It did not bode well for the future for her poor mother who is afraid of fast rides-LOL
My best advice is to just have fun, enjoy your time with her.
OT:
I heard that a lot too "They won't remember it". I always responded that I don't care if they remember it, just so they enjoy it.
I'll tell you what: I went to WDW when i was 13 and I don't remember a THING from that trip. So by using that logic, 13 year olds should not be allowed to go because they won't remember the trip when they are 30.

Seriously, I remember getting into it a while ago with someone who thought I shouldn;t have brought my daughter until she was 6 because she wouldn't remember any of it. His argument centered around not being able to enjoy his trip because of little kids. It's like you are going to WDW, you have to expect kids! Listen, my dd had a pure look of joy when Mickey waved at her when she was 1. It doesn't matter if she remembers it, I just loved that in that moment, she was just estatic!