Toddler almost forces aborted landing - updated in post #1 with resolution

bavaria

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Resolution: I received one email from the station manager within 8 hours of the incident reaffirming that my miles used to upgrade would be returned to my account; a second email from the airline within 12 hours of the incident stating their service commitment to their passengers; today I received a snail mail letter reconfirming all of the above and an additional apology.

I consider this an excellent proactive service resolution, especially as I had only suggested that 1/3 of my miles be returned. Am I loyal to my favourite airline? Definitely. Do they make mistakes? of course. But it is all about how the situation is handled and in this case the outcome was appropriate (of course, I don't know if the family is still flying! ;) )


Some of you may recall when AirTran removed a family from a flight as they could not get their toddler seated and buckled in well after boarding (see here for that long thread http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1334828)

Earlier this week I was on a flight which had to decide whether to abort the landing as we came in for final approach - all due to a similar situation.

The flight was 6+ hours; I was in row 1. Next to me was a woman; her extended family was in row 6, including a toddler of 2-3 year. Before boarding the woman was calling back to her family in Portuguese (I don't speak it but can understand some words). The toddler was whining and then began to shout.

All through takeoff and into the flight, the mother continued to call back whenever the toddler called for her, or shouted. Finally well into the meal service the purser asked her to stop shouting (I was trying to sleep; impossible with a woman next to me shouting every few minutes). Mother and father switched seats.

Their carryon luggage was in the first class closet; as a result there was an endless stream of family coming up to open the closet and remove items. The toddler would run down the aisle every few minutes to visit dad, who essentially ignored him.

This continued throughout the flight; at one point I smelled a bad smell and realized that it was the toddler standing next to me with a soiled diaper. (Some of the contents actually dripped onto the floor and the mother wiped it up)

At various times the toddler banged on the cockpit door, the exit door, and the galley. His mother wouldn't use the lav in her ticketed cabin, but came forward every time. He was shouting throughout the long flight; there was very few stretches of silence. (note that these were happy shouts, or 'outside voice' type of shouts, not distress)

After five hours I mentioned to the purser that this was outrageous, and someone should have asked the family to control their behaviour.

As we were landing, dad refused to put his seat back, and left his laptop out (I assumed that he didn't speak english, but later he was chatting with his seatmate in english)

Suddenly on the approach, the purser who was in the jumpseat in front of me grabbed the phone to the cockpit, and shouted 'we have an unrestrained child!' The toddler had been shouting for the last 20 minutes, and had unbuckled his seatbelt for another dash down the aisle.

The purser ran to the aisle, phone cord stretched as far as possible, and began shouting at the family to restrain the child. She then had to decide if we should land, or abort and circle around until the child was safely seated.

She suddenly shouted into the phone 'LAND, LAND, LAND NOW!' and took her seat. On landing she immediately jumped up again to ensure that the child was safe. Later she showed me her hands, which were shaking and red from the phone cord, and said that she had been terrified that something was going to happen.

Moral of the story - had this been addressed as a safety issue earlier in the flight, we may have avoided a potential aborted landing or even worse.

I continue to fully support AirTran's decision to remove the child in the first incident.
 
And for those of you ready to flame me
  • I started to fly long haul internationally at the age of 2, and believe me, we knew what behaviour was appropriate
  • this is not a 'first class' vs 'economy' type of post - I usually fly in economy and would have been in row 6, but needed some sleep and upgraded with miles (my airline does not upgrade elite members on a complimentary basis, so I usually use miles or $$$ to upgrade
  • yes, I have travelled with children before; in fact I worked with young children for several years
 
You won't get any flames from me. This is a safety issue and the airline has a responsibility to enforce policies that protect everyone. If that means taking the family off before the plane leaves than that's what it takes. No one has a right to air travel it is a privilege.
 
Unbelievable!

I have great sympathy for you and the other passengers, none for the flight crew. They should have stopped the behavior at the beginning of the flight.
 

Unbelievable!

I have great sympathy for you and the other passengers, none for the flight crew. They should have stopped the behavior at the beginning of the flight.

And the purser's response was that she didn't want to upset the family; yet it was a full flight and 100+ other passengers were disturbed by the behaviour.

When we were at the gate, I did explain to the purser that my earlier comments to her were now supported by the potential aborted landing, and she agreed that she should have taken the issue in hand earlier in the flight.

I think that was a lesson she won't soon forget. The purser was definely very shaken up. And I have never seen a pilot look so furious - as soon as we were safely parked at the gate the cockpit door slammed open and he barged out to speak to the purser.
 
Dh and I were flying from Toronto one trip and there was a mother and son (toddler) flying across from us. We were in the bulkhead seats which have more leg rom and the boy was playing on the floor. Not a big deal until it was time to land and the flight attendant tried to get the mom to put her son in the seat and buckle his seat belt.

She wouldn't do, she kept saying he was fine playing on the floor and he didn't want to be buckeld. They continued to go back and forth for quite a while, delaying our landing becuase they wouldn't attempt a landing with the boy on the floor. The flight attendant kept telling the woman all the possible dangers with her son being on the floor and she kept saying "but he's happy, and he doesn't like to be buckled up. Just land. He'll be fine."

Finally after about 1/2 hour she finally relented and put the boy in his seat. He screamed and screamed and she completely ignored him glaring at the flight attendant.

Emily
 
If the dad refused to put his seat up and stow his laptop, he should have been arrested on landing. That could have been a problem in an evacuation for not only him but those around him.

I agree that the crew should have taken action sooner.
 
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Oh my! I can't even imagine something like that. Okay, I know I'm going to sound like my grandparents now, but whatever happened to air travel being a luxury? When I was a kid, it was a big deal to fly on a plane, and we acted (and were treated) accordingly. Now more often than not both the passengers and crew act like a flight is a bus trip or something, except I suspect bus travelers behave better. I guess it's all part of the general decline in manners and customer service in today's society.

Here's my story: 20 years ago, I was on a flight from London to Chicago, and there was a family with an infant about 6 months old. Just before landing, the baby fell asleep and they placed him on the floor at their feet (there were no seats in front of them--just a wall). The flight attendant asked them to pick up the baby and hold him, but the family didn't want to wake him, so they just left him on the floor. We landed--with the baby laying on the floor! Some people have no sense.
 
Oh my! I can't even imagine something like that. Okay, I know I'm going to sound like my grandparents now, but whatever happened to air travel being a luxury? When I was a kid, it was a big deal to fly on a plane, and we acted (and were treated) accordingly. Now more often than not both the passengers and crew act like a flight is a bus trip or something, except I suspect bus travelers behave better. I guess it's all part of the general decline in manners and customer service in today's society.

Here's my story: 20 years ago, I was on a flight from London to Chicago, and there was a family with an infant about 6 months old. Just before landing, the baby fell asleep and they placed him on the floor at their feet (there were no seats in front of them--just a wall). The flight attendant asked them to pick up the baby and hold him, but the family didn't want to wake him, so they just left him on the floor. We landed--with the baby laying on the floor! Some people have no sense.

The proper response IMHO "The captain has the authority to radio ahead and have the police meet us at the gate to take you into custody for endangering this flight. The choice is yours, you have 30 seconds to comply or be arrested."
 
When the child started to bang on the exit doors is when I would have lost all patience. The attendant would have either delt with the child, or had me screaming at them.:eek:
 
When the child started to bang on the exit doors is when I would have lost all patience. The attendant would have either delt with the child, or had me screaming at them.:eek:

:rotfl: since it was the exit door diagonally across from me, I knew that I would be the first one sucked out if that door opened during flight!!!!

And since this was an international flight, I don't know if the same threat of arrest would apply.
 
I fly at least 3 - 4 times a year - not much but often enough to notice that EVERYTIME I fly there is almost always a crying, whining child on board. It doesn't bother so much. Why - because between the years 2000 - 2002 it was my crying, whining toddler on board. She NEVER moved around the plane. And yes I feel so sorry for the OP, I know what its like to be the person just trying to rest, and the mother just waiting on time to go by. :confused3
 
Air travel is feeling more and more like bus travel now. There are so many people flying, due in large part to those great low fares, but they have no idea of good manners while flying. Being seated close to an ill-mannered child on a bus has stopped my going anywhere by bus. There just seems to be that 'you first, right after me' mentality to life nowadays. And that's too bad..it makes travel very unpleasant for people.
For that family, I would have let them know that the plane, by law, is not allowed to land if there are unrestrained people on board. Oh, and Dad?? Either you put the seat back up and you computer away, there will be consequences upon landing. No one had the right to hold up others.
 
The FA's need to get to the point right away, here, making sure everyone is seated. Come to think of it, it is kind of hokey to first ask and beg and only a long time and lots of words of explanation later have to make the demand under threat of punishment.

If numerous and various other passengers and crew reached out and gently mussed the child's hair every time he passed, the mother may have decided to keep the child protected from all that which means out of the way.

OT:

Parent refuses to take back a lap child as plane is about to land:

FA #1 should pick up the child and sit in a jumpseat.

FA #2 should put the belt around FA #1.

FA #2 then sits down in another jumpseat before, after, or while (depending on where the intercom handset is) telling the pilot to "Land, Land" (imperative sentences).

English is the official language only between pilots and towers. The FA's in this case would have to threaten the parents with arrest upon landing using Portuguese.
 
:rotfl: since it was the exit door diagonally across from me, I knew that I would be the first one sucked out if that door opened during flight!!!!

And since this was an international flight, I don't know if the same threat of arrest would apply.

If you were flying TO the US the threat would have been valid. (Not sure on the other way)
 
I have 2 very young child. There are times they cry on a flight and get bored, but I would NEVER let them run up aisles banging on doors. I would sit on my children before I let them up. Safety first. As for the dirty diaper. I always change the kids right before a flight. As luck would have it they have never had a poopy diaper on a plane. I wouldn't be able to let my child sit in his own waste, but there aren't many places to change a diaper either. I haven't been faced with having to change a diaper in the small plane bathroom, but it seems as if it would be rather difficult if next to impossible.

I can understand frustrations towards parents who aren't tending to their children on a plane. But I hope that isn't directed towards those who are, but still have a fussy baby or child.

p.s. I once (notice I say ONCE) flew with both of my babies alone. Never again. It was a direct hour flight but they cried the entire time (not soft cries, full blown melt-down). By the time we landed I was in tears. I was telling the passengers around me how sorry I was. I felt bad for my children, but I also had empathy for those around. There was nothing I could do but keep them in their seats and wait to land. I am sure there were folks cussing me under their breath but not one person even rolled their eyes. I had passengers trying to entertain my kids to no avail. When we landed I kept getting pats on the back and comments like "it gets easier" "you did a good job" one passenger saw me in the terminal with my husband (he had picked us up) and said buy her a drink and let her relax. I doubt people would have been as understanding if I were screaming or letting them run all over the place.

{{{Hugs}}}
 
To the OP I certainly hope you got your miles back that you used to upgrade!!! That story is ridiculous, that FA should be fired. If she cannot do her job and handles situations that poorly she should not be in a position of responsibility. If she couldn't handle that how would she handle a real emergency. For the record I am not one to say people should get fired, I can cut CM's,waiters etc a lot of slack, BUT this person is in that job mainly for safety and she failed miserably.
 
Hannathy, I was planning to ask for 1/3 of my miles back, but actually received an email depositing all the miles back into my account. Kudos to my favourite airline for going above and beyond in trying to make up for a bad situation.

For those of you with small children, I have no problem with kids crying on a plane. Happens all the time. That's what noise cancelling headsets are for. ;) I know that most of you are doing your best - in fact, I often think of a post that Stimpy once made about her DD and how she was a holy terror on a flight. I know that Stimpy did her best, and felt very badly about the situation.

Unfortunately, in a situation like this it is usually the parents who are the problem, not the child.
 
which are usually overnite flights--leaving Hawaii around 10 or so.


there was a girl about 3 rows ahead of us that would just scream---twice the FA asked the mother if there was anything she could do --the mother both times said she'll be alright--the second time the FA said that she has a planeful of people trying to sleep that didnt even get the message across to the mother--she would just "play possium" hoping the kid would just fall asleep which she never did!!!!

when we finally landed in LA around 5:30am I thought the kid was about under 3 but she looked more like over 4!!!
 

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