To the parents of teens...I am fed up with you!!

[Disneyrsh]

My son is on a campaign because he wants the following items that "everyone" has...

1) He wants a TV in his room. Every child he knows has their own TV and DVD player in their room.

2) He wants a computer in his room! Of course, every child he know has one in their room.

3) He wants a cell phone. Now, he has a MIGO, which is a phone with 4 programmed numbers where he can reach my husband and I, but he is teased about it and he is embarrassed about it.

When my husband was a kid and would start blatting about "I want this" "I want that" his dad would calmly reply "How does it feel to want?"

We find this phrase also works fantastically well with our kids, who are only 5 and 7 and have also asked for cell phones and tv's and computers in their rooms.

Once we pick ourselves up off the floor from laughing, we gently tell them that tv and computers are family activities, to be done around the family, and that if we spent money on all the stuff they wanted, we'd have no money left to go to WDW. So far, that works!

 

[Daxx]

What are you complaining about?! Be glad your kid is 12 and asking for this stuff!!!! Mine started asking for the cell phone at age 8 b/c kids in his class had them.

Why would you want your child to have a TV in their room? So you don't have to see them or talk to them? So you don't have to be bothered with monitoring their TV programs?

Oh, please!!!! DS9 has a tv in his room w/a DVD player. No Satellite hook up, doesn't even get local channels. It's basically a screen for dvd's/movies. Why? Let's go back to nights where he wanted to sleep w/us. The TV/DVD player gave him comfort to be in his room by himself. Now, he doesn't use the tv/dvd at night. It was a "comfort" thing. He didn't feel alone. It sure beat having him in bed w/us. Anyway, the tv is hooked up ONLY to the dvd player and his playstation (which he bought w/money and gift cards he saved up from several b-days and holidays). As for him watching tv in his room -- no satellite hook-up, so it's movies, games or nothing. I monitor his DVD's and movies ... so that's covered. As it is, he rarely uses that tv!

As for the computer, we have a "spare" one in the family room that I got from school b/c we were updating computers and I got to take the old one home. That computer has games on it and NO internet connection. That's DS's. The ONLY reason he has one is b/c it was free. As for the computer, it is old and slow and you wouldn't want to use the modem for internet purposes! He's only playing games on it that WE program in, so what difference does that make!? Anyway, that thing sits collecting dust for the most part. If he has to do research, he uses my computer and I am right there to monitor him. He does not chat, IM, etc. Has NO interest whatsoever. When that time comes, I'll be monitoring him like nobody's business. DS will not have a computer in his room. He can take his dumpy, no-internet computer into his room to play his games, but there's no reason to.

Don't call me a bad parent. DS is *lucky* that he has the tv/DVD player and computer. He knows that and isn't a bad kid b/c of it. He knows the value of a dollar b/c he had to save for the playstation and games.

I do NOT know why I even bothered justifying myself ... such a waste of time!

 

[dcgrumpy]

I just went back and read some old threads! http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=11860452#post11860452

Why would you post on a message board that you have such a low opinion of the other poster?

Yet on this thread she said almost the same thing about her own DS http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=9958197#post9958197

 

[isyne4u]

No need for a DVD player. The only entertainment kids need in the car is a good book. Have them read the whole time they're in the car - especially on family long vacations. They should read classic novels preferably in true old English style (such as Swiss Family Robinson). Take a dictionary along for those words they don't know. They are guaranteed to be quiet the whole trip,

Yeah, right!

Who should read out loud?? The 5 year old who may end up with a learning disability in reading or the not yet 2 year old??? My bet is on the 2 yo!!

 

[isyne4u]

I'm not the grammar police and if you go back to page 14, you'll see that I now have piece of mind now that my kids have cell phones instead of peace of mind, so I'm not picking on you. I just thought it really funny when you said to play a bored game.

I did it intentionally after I saw another poster do it! Was meant to imply that the kids would be bored by the board game!! oops...my humor gets me again...in my head it sounded good!!

 

[DisTeach1]

Wow! The DIS is an amazing example of "pack mentality" that happens in middle schools. I've seen it happen here before, but thought I'd try it and see. Here's what happens:

1)Post something controversial...This can be any topic-I picked child rearing, but I could have chosen any other topic.

2) Take a really strong, controverisal stance on it.

3) Watch the "holier than thou" Disers call the OP (me, in this case) call names and accuse the OP of being judgemental, while at the same time tearing that person literally apart.

4) Then patting themselves on the back because even though they have engaged in this group attack, they are "better" than the OP.

I have to laugh, because this happens all the time in middle school, but it happens here on the DIS too. I could even have predicted that some poor soul would take the time to look up old threads and attack those too. (Of course, that person would never, ever be judgemental. They just had the time to do all that research so that others in the community could join in the group attack. It's an amazing study of human nature that I see happen all the time on the DIS. I really don't care what teenager has a TV in their room or calls who on the cell phone. However, I could write a thesis on the human behavior witnessed here today. It's amazing!

(But, for those that joined in the attack and picking apart, I'm glad you're not judgemental!!)

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Wow! The DIS is an amazing example of "pack mentality" that happens in middle schools. I've seen it happen here before, but thought I'd try it and see. Here's what happens:

1)Post something controversial...This can be any topic-I picked child rearing, but I could have chosen any other topic.

2) Take a really strong, controverisal stance on it.

3) Watch the "holier than thou" Disers call the OP (me, in this case) call names and accuse the OP of being judgemental, while at the same time tearing that person literally apart.

4) Then patting themselves on the back because even though they have engaged in this group attack, they are "better" than the OP.

I have to laugh, because this happens all the time in middle school, but it happens here on the DIS too. I could even have predicted that some poor soul would take the time to look up old threads and attack those too. (Of course, that person would never, ever be judgemental. They just had the time to do all that research so that others in the community could join in the group attack. It's an amazing study of human nature that I see happen all the time on the DIS. I really don't care what teenager has a TV in their room or calls who on the cell phone. However, I could write a thesis on the human behavior witnessed here today. It's amazing!

(But, for those that joined in the attack and picking apart, I'm glad you're not judgemental!!)

So, why the nasty posts, if you don't care? Curious.

 

[SillyMe]

Wow! The DIS is an amazing example of "pack mentality" that happens in middle schools. I've seen it happen here before, but thought I'd try it and see. Here's what happens:

1)Post something controversial...This can be any topic-I picked child rearing, but I could have chosen any other topic.

2) Take a really strong, controverisal stance on it.

3) Watch the "holier than thou" Disers call the OP (me, in this case) call names and accuse the OP of being judgemental, while at the same time tearing that person literally apart.

4) Then patting themselves on the back because even though they have engaged in this group attack, they are "better" than the OP.

I have to laugh, because this happens all the time in middle school, but it happens here on the DIS too. I could even have predicted that some poor soul would take the time to look up old threads and attack those too. (Of course, that person would never, ever be judgemental. They just had the time to do all that research so that others in the community could join in the group attack. It's an amazing study of human nature that I see happen all the time on the DIS. I really don't care what teenager has a TV in their room or calls who on the cell phone. However, I could write a thesis on the human behavior witnessed here today. It's amazing!

(But, for those that joined in the attack and picking apart, I'm glad you're not judgemental!!)

Well that wasn't a very nice thing to do.

 

[beckmrk04]

Wow! The DIS is an amazing example of "pack mentality" that happens in middle schools. I've seen it happen here before, but thought I'd try it and see. Here's what happens:

1)Post something controversial...This can be any topic-I picked child rearing, but I could have chosen any other topic.

2) Take a really strong, controverisal stance on it.

3) Watch the "holier than thou" Disers call the OP (me, in this case) call names and accuse the OP of being judgemental, while at the same time tearing that person literally apart.

4) Then patting themselves on the back because even though they have engaged in this group attack, they are "better" than the OP.

I have to laugh, because this happens all the time in middle school, but it happens here on the DIS too. I could even have predicted that some poor soul would take the time to look up old threads and attack those too. (Of course, that person would never, ever be judgemental. They just had the time to do all that research so that others in the community could join in the group attack. It's an amazing study of human nature that I see happen all the time on the DIS. I really don't care what teenager has a TV in their room or calls who on the cell phone. However, I could write a thesis on the human behavior witnessed here today. It's amazing!

(But, for those that joined in the attack and picking apart, I'm glad you're not judgemental!!)

With all due respect, you started the attack on all parents whose kids have these things, and called them lazy- you kicked it off! What did you expect? And, I'm sorry that someone linked your WISH journals, but it goes to show that maybe you aren't the perfect parent either.

YOU started the judging. People are simply defending themselves as well as their parenting styles. It's not pack mentality.

AND, most people took the stance of "You have your style, I have mine- what makes you right?" That's not attacking the OP.

ETA- of this all was really an "experiment", which I doubt, you could have chosen a controversial topic with a controversial stance without resorting to being judgemental and downright nasty- even calling parents, Boosmom in particular, I think it was, "lazy." How does that make you any different? Just because it was all in the name of "science"? Hardly.

 

[Marseeya]

Wow! The DIS is an amazing example of "pack mentality" that happens in middle schools. I've seen it happen here before, but thought I'd try it and see. Here's what happens:

1)Post something controversial...This can be any topic-I picked child rearing, but I could have chosen any other topic.

2) Take a really strong, controverisal stance on it.

3) Watch the "holier than thou" Disers call the OP (me, in this case) call names and accuse the OP of being judgemental, while at the same time tearing that person literally apart.

4) Then patting themselves on the back because even though they have engaged in this group attack, they are "better" than the OP.

I have to laugh, because this happens all the time in middle school, but it happens here on the DIS too. I could even have predicted that some poor soul would take the time to look up old threads and attack those too. (Of course, that person would never, ever be judgemental. They just had the time to do all that research so that others in the community could join in the group attack. It's an amazing study of human nature that I see happen all the time on the DIS. I really don't care what teenager has a TV in their room or calls who on the cell phone. However, I could write a thesis on the human behavior witnessed here today. It's amazing!

(But, for those that joined in the attack and picking apart, I'm glad you're not judgemental!!)

You are so right! I can't believe I haven't seen before how utterly out of touch we all are, and how WRONG we are. Thank you so much for showing us the error of our ways!

We're not worthy!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Wow! The DIS is an amazing example of "pack mentality" that happens in middle schools. I've seen it happen here before, but thought I'd try it and see. Here's what happens:

1)Post something controversial...This can be any topic-I picked child rearing, but I could have chosen any other topic.

2) Take a really strong, controverisal stance on it.

3) Watch the "holier than thou" Disers call the OP (me, in this case) call names and accuse the OP of being judgemental, while at the same time tearing that person literally apart.

4) Then patting themselves on the back because even though they have engaged in this group attack, they are "better" than the OP.

I have to laugh, because this happens all the time in middle school, but it happens here on the DIS too. I could even have predicted that some poor soul would take the time to look up old threads and attack those too. (Of course, that person would never, ever be judgemental. They just had the time to do all that research so that others in the community could join in the group attack. It's an amazing study of human nature that I see happen all the time on the DIS. I really don't care what teenager has a TV in their room or calls who on the cell phone. However, I could write a thesis on the human behavior witnessed here today. It's amazing!

(But, for those that joined in the attack and picking apart, I'm glad you're not judgemental!!)

Well you don't have that many posts and it's easy to hit your user name and then show all posts. Really not much involved at all.

 

[DisTeach1]

I don't know if they were nasty, as they weren't directed at one poster in particular...they were strongly opinionated, however and meant to elicit a strong response. I wasn't surprised at any of it and even laughed at the poster who went and looked up an old thread...typical DIS stuff.

This sort of thing happens on MySpace all the time. I had a student make the mistake of saying something on there that was opinionated and she was torn apart by it. I told her to turn the computer off and not turn it back on.

I just shake my head at it, to tell you the truth. Now, I'm going to go sit with my Mom and watch the news. I know when I turn my computer off, that this situation will be "over" except for the judgemental people on this board who will continue to tear it apart for the next several days.

 

[SillyMe]

I don't know if they were nasty, as they weren't directed at one poster in particular...they were strongly opinionated, however and meant to elicit a strong response. I wasn't surprised at any of it and even laughed at the poster who went and looked up an old thread...typical DIS stuff.

This sort of thing happens on MySpace all the time. I had a student make the mistake of saying something on there that was opinionated and she was torn apart by it. I told her to turn the computer off and not turn it back on.

I just shake my head at it, to tell you the truth. Now, I'm going to go sit with my Mom and watch the news. I know when I turn my computer off, that this situation will be "over" except for the judgemental people on this board who will continue to tear it apart for the next several days.

You have some serious issues.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I don't know if they were nasty, as they weren't directed at one poster in particular...they were strongly opinionated, however and meant to elicit a strong response. I wasn't surprised at any of it and even laughed at the poster who went and looked up an old thread...typical DIS stuff.

This sort of thing happens on MySpace all the time. I had a student make the mistake of saying something on there that was opinionated and she was torn apart by it. I told her to turn the computer off and not turn it back on.

I just shake my head at it, to tell you the truth. Now, I'm going to go sit with my Mom and watch the news. I know when I turn my computer off, that this situation will be "over" except for the judgemental people on this board who will continue to tear it apart for the next several days.

And you weren't judgmental in any way? Yeah okay. And if you are going to sling that word around, you should learn how to spell it, especially with being a teacher.

 

[MickeyMickey]

What a weirdo

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I don't know if they were nasty, as they weren't directed at one poster in particular...they were strongly opinionated, however and meant to elicit a strong response. I wasn't surprised at any of it and even laughed at the poster who went and looked up an old thread...typical DIS stuff.

This sort of thing happens on MySpace all the time. I had a student make the mistake of saying something on there that was opinionated and she was torn apart by it. I told her to turn the computer off and not turn it back on.

I just shake my head at it, to tell you the truth. Now, I'm going to go sit with my Mom and watch the news. I know when I turn my computer off, that this situation will be "over" except for the judgemental people on this board who will continue to tear it apart for the next several days.

Oh my goodness...

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

You have some serious issues.

So you tried to compare us to a bunch of kids on myspace? Gee thanx.

 

[wdwcoltsfan]

So, you make up a strongly worded topic that you really couldn't care less about so that you can sit back and figure out how to criticize the people who posted to your thread? Yeah, and we're the one with issues.


Rachel


p.s You're right, that does sound like something that would happen in middle school!

 

[drgnfly30]

Wow! The DIS is an amazing example of "pack mentality" that happens in middle schools. I've seen it happen here before, but thought I'd try it and see. Here's what happens:

1)Post something controversial...This can be any topic-I picked child rearing, but I could have chosen any other topic.

2) Take a really strong, controverisal stance on it.

3) Watch the "holier than thou" Disers call the OP (me, in this case) call names and accuse the OP of being judgemental, while at the same time tearing that person literally apart.

4) Then patting themselves on the back because even though they have engaged in this group attack, they are "better" than the OP.

I have to laugh, because this happens all the time in middle school, but it happens here on the DIS too. I could even have predicted that some poor soul would take the time to look up old threads and attack those too. (Of course, that person would never, ever be judgemental. They just had the time to do all that research so that others in the community could join in the group attack. It's an amazing study of human nature that I see happen all the time on the DIS. I really don't care what teenager has a TV in their room or calls who on the cell phone. However, I could write a thesis on the human behavior witnessed here today. It's amazing!

(But, for those that joined in the attack and picking apart, I'm glad you're not judgemental!!)

All part of your "grand plan" I presume?! If true, any empathy I had to your situation http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=12254605&postcount=253 went out the window... If it's just a lame excuse to get out from under the magnifying glass... sad

 

[drgnfly30]

I don't know if they were nasty, as they weren't directed at one poster in particular...they were strongly opinionated, however and meant to elicit a strong response. I wasn't surprised at any of it and even laughed at the poster who went and looked up an old thread...typical DIS stuff.

This sort of thing happens on MySpace all the time. I had a student make the mistake of saying something on there that was opinionated and she was torn apart by it. I told her to turn the computer off and not turn it back on.

I just shake my head at it, to tell you the truth. Now, I'm going to go sit with my Mom and watch the news. I know when I turn my computer off, that this situation will be "over" except for the judgemental people on this board who will continue to tear it apart for the next several days.

If you dislike the place & people so much why are you here? I'm here to have fun, talk Disney & at times have a sounding board... Not to cause trouble - Middle School indeed!