Sorry if this is really long... I have a lot of ideas running through my head right now. Also, wasn't sure which board this should go under but it seems to fit here....
I've decided that my New Years Resolution is to lose about 50lbs (that will put me at my ideal weight). Since that's a lofty goal and not easily reached (since I have the worlds largest sweet tooth and like to eat), I decided that I want to reward myself with a trip to WDW. Obviously, I know that it will take a while to lose the weight (which just gives me time to save money). During this time though, I'm trying to decide now if I should go on this trip solo or not (since this plays a big part in how much I have to save).
I've been to WDW three times. The first two times were with my DH. The third and most recent trip we took our niece and nephews (the oldest of which lives with us and is pretty much our kid).
I've enjoyed all three trips, but even with just DH and I, I feel like our plans become more centered around what he wants to do. A great example is eating. He's so picky when it comes to food that if is not basic food he won't even try it (he loves Yachtsman Steakhouse and 50's Primetime Cafe but won't even try Yak and Yeti). I feel like I'm missing out on really great food and experiences because he's so stubborn about what he eats. Also, he doesn't know what it means to relax. His style is pretty much be there at rope drop and don't leave until the park closes. I would prefer to have some relaxation time on my 'vacation'. I like to lay around the pool or go to the spa and really relax. I also like to take my time shopping without being rushed out of stores. Its really frustrating for me because I do almost all the planning but then I let what others want to do run over top of my plans. (I'm just way to much of a people pleaser even when its at my own expense).
At first a solo trip sounds perfect. I can reward myself for hard work in losing weight (and I will lose the weight!!). I can go on this trip and finally do what I want to do, eat what I want to eat, and do everything at my own pace. I would also have more freedom on which time of year to go and where to stay.
But....then I get to thinking... my DH loves Disney so much. I know it would make him sad if I went without him (even though he does support my solo trip idea). Also, I think that I would miss not having someone to talk too. Especially while dining. I like to have company and someone to chat with about the events of the day. I worry that I would feel guilty going by myself.
So, then I got to thinking that it should be a family trip with DH and our nephew (who lives with us). But then it doesn't really feel like much of a reward for me, does it? If I spring for a famly trip, I would make it clear that part of this trip is for me only. If he wants to go from sun up to sun down at the parks that is fine. But he might have to do it without me. If I want to spend time at the pool then that is what I'm giong to do. Also, he would have to be willing to either try new places to eat (he might find out that he likes it) or he would have to eat without me some days because I am going to try new places. (I could also tell him the only way he gets to go is if he also loses weight and see how motivated he is!!!)
I'm open to any thoughts or opinions...what would you do in this situation? Solo? Family trip (with the understanding that this is my trip and my itinerary...and not give in like usual?). For solo travelers that leave people home that love WDW as much as you, how do you not feel a little guilty for going without them?
I've decided that my New Years Resolution is to lose about 50lbs (that will put me at my ideal weight). Since that's a lofty goal and not easily reached (since I have the worlds largest sweet tooth and like to eat), I decided that I want to reward myself with a trip to WDW. Obviously, I know that it will take a while to lose the weight (which just gives me time to save money). During this time though, I'm trying to decide now if I should go on this trip solo or not (since this plays a big part in how much I have to save).
I've been to WDW three times. The first two times were with my DH. The third and most recent trip we took our niece and nephews (the oldest of which lives with us and is pretty much our kid).
I've enjoyed all three trips, but even with just DH and I, I feel like our plans become more centered around what he wants to do. A great example is eating. He's so picky when it comes to food that if is not basic food he won't even try it (he loves Yachtsman Steakhouse and 50's Primetime Cafe but won't even try Yak and Yeti). I feel like I'm missing out on really great food and experiences because he's so stubborn about what he eats. Also, he doesn't know what it means to relax. His style is pretty much be there at rope drop and don't leave until the park closes. I would prefer to have some relaxation time on my 'vacation'. I like to lay around the pool or go to the spa and really relax. I also like to take my time shopping without being rushed out of stores. Its really frustrating for me because I do almost all the planning but then I let what others want to do run over top of my plans. (I'm just way to much of a people pleaser even when its at my own expense).
At first a solo trip sounds perfect. I can reward myself for hard work in losing weight (and I will lose the weight!!). I can go on this trip and finally do what I want to do, eat what I want to eat, and do everything at my own pace. I would also have more freedom on which time of year to go and where to stay.
But....then I get to thinking... my DH loves Disney so much. I know it would make him sad if I went without him (even though he does support my solo trip idea). Also, I think that I would miss not having someone to talk too. Especially while dining. I like to have company and someone to chat with about the events of the day. I worry that I would feel guilty going by myself.
So, then I got to thinking that it should be a family trip with DH and our nephew (who lives with us). But then it doesn't really feel like much of a reward for me, does it? If I spring for a famly trip, I would make it clear that part of this trip is for me only. If he wants to go from sun up to sun down at the parks that is fine. But he might have to do it without me. If I want to spend time at the pool then that is what I'm giong to do. Also, he would have to be willing to either try new places to eat (he might find out that he likes it) or he would have to eat without me some days because I am going to try new places. (I could also tell him the only way he gets to go is if he also loses weight and see how motivated he is!!!)
I'm open to any thoughts or opinions...what would you do in this situation? Solo? Family trip (with the understanding that this is my trip and my itinerary...and not give in like usual?). For solo travelers that leave people home that love WDW as much as you, how do you not feel a little guilty for going without them?
