TKers: Six threads under and still killin' time....

[JOCAmom]

Give D&D a gold medal!!!

But I swear if I have to hear that joke one more time, I'm going to go insane. Ooops, sorry, too late.

 

[D&DDisney]

Can't believe I forgot to get my driver picks in for the Dis. Does that mean I have to go with my default group??

 

[D&DDisney]

Give D&D a gold medal!!!

But I swear if I have to hear that joke one more time, I'm going to go insane. Ooops, sorry, too late.

Tell DD she can tell me corny jokes all she wants in Aug. I'll laugh. I'm easy that way.

 

[JOCAmom]

I'm easy that way.

I've heard that about you.

 

[JOCAmom]

You might have to use your defaults since you didn't get your picks in before qualifying. I'm not sure how Brer Papa does that. But I know I've seen others not get their picks in until after qualifying.

 

[MagiKitty]

I'm easy that way.

That's what she said! (The Office rules!)

Morning ladies....brrr! Its cold outside. Its just above freezing but supposed to be nice 60s sometime today. I hope so. I was planning on transferring my pathetic attempt at an herb garden into a larger planter sometime soon, but with this weather, I'm going to keep it in the kitchen for a while longer.

And we've entered that cusp period where I have both spring and winter clothes out, so my closet looks like a hurricane went through it. Dress for cold in the morning, and layer up so I can peel myself like an onion as it gets warmer during the day. But I absolutely refuse to wear a heavy coat anymore. Its the principle.

Failing spectacularly at Fantasy Baseball. Only a few days in...and have crashed and burned. Started strong at position five, only to fall...and fall. I'm now at position 11 (out of 13) and my guys aren't looking good at all. Can't trade them out, no one better is available. Just have to hope the boys rally back and get me out of the bottom tier. Ugh. For someone who doesn't understand baseball very much, this competition thing gets me going!

Let's have a good day everyone! HOpe you're having good weather and some plans to enjoy it.

 

[mking624]

Good morning. I slept better last night, but I think today will still be a lazy day. Lazy as in I really want pancakes but I have no desire to make them. Eh, a bagel is easy. Hope you all are doing well!

 

[MagiKitty]

Morning Mary! mmm...pancakes sound good. But I'm lazy too. Had my usual half bagel, fruit, and cheese. Always satisfying but now that you mention pancakes...yum.

 

[Pikester]

Snowflakes? Snowflakes!

 

[mking624]

It's just that mixing the water and pancake mix is more effort than I feel like putting forth right now.

Actually fruit and cheese sounds yummy...but I have a tendency to gobble up my fresh fruit as soon as I get it...same with cheese. I'm a sucker for both.

 

[MagiKitty]

Pikester...are you speaking in code again? Or is there s*** out there? Ack!

Mary, for me its abou the cleanup. After pancakes, I'm too full to do anything and I leave a big mess.

 

[mking624]

Snowflakes? Snowflakes!

WHAT?! Stay far away....

 

[whgrn]

As for that adoption story, I want to make it clear that I DO NOT condone what that woman did. It was not the proper way to handle it. However, I did read more of that story and it looks like this boy had severe RAD issues or other psych issues too. I can relate to this story because this thought crossed my mind many times with my DS. He has RAD and it has been the worst experience of all. You can never fully understand how HARD it is to parent a RAD child until you've done it. That boy looks so innocent and adorable in the pics, but I can see right through that. When you parent a child like that, you can almost go crazy. Especially if you are a single parent and have no partner or support staff to fall back on. IT IS SOOOOO HARD!!! Can't say that enough. As horrible as you can imagine it is to parent a plain mentally ill child, you almost wish it was that easy when you are talking RAD (Reactive Attatchment Disorder).
There is a thread about this on the Dis and I felt so strongly about this that I had to chime in.
Again, I am not condoning what this woman did, but I can fully understand why. And I believe she needs our prayers more than our condemnation. It is not AT ALL like what they should do to child abusers. Child abusers or Child sex abusers are a TOTALLY different animal.
If I hadn't had support from a DH, friends and other family, this might have been me because believe you me, I was near a break down at one time. A woman from my support group finally had to put her son back up for adoption because she feared for her life and the life of her family members. It was THAT bad.

I'm not looking for sympathy here, just wanting to get the word out about what RAD parents go through. I feel so strongly about this.

I've been doing some reading on the little Russian boy and what happened.

I think the mother was wrong in putting the child on a plane and sending him back. If she felt she couldn't parent the child anymore, there had to be another way to have him removed from the house. I'm just sorry that in this day and age, she felt she had no other options.

I've done a lot of reading on RAD too. And it just horrendous. I can't imagine what the woman must have been going through. Well, I can to a point but our lives are not that bad.

I just feel sorry for everyone involved.

No worries Kitty! I still love ya. Just wanted the world to know that RAD mothers aren't all monsters. Just people who have been driven to the end of their rope - and then some. I have stories of mostly moms from my support line that had it much worse than I did. It would absolutely blow you away what they had to put up with. So very sad.

Children w/ severe RAD don't really have trust, so there's not much to betray. In order to have any sense of trust, one has to bond to someone. These children are so twisted that they believe everyone will leave them and ultimately it is their goal to push everyone away. They are so damaged that love actually feels like someone is trying to kill them. I know that sounds so foreign to us, but this is what I've learned in the classes I took. They have come to rely on only themselves and anytime someone tries to infiltrate that and actually parent them, they lash out at that person like they're being attacked.

RAD is just awful. I'm not sure if DS has full blown RAD, or just the garden-variety attachment disorder. He's not been diagnosed with RAD, in any case. But alot of the behavior is there. I have friends with RAD kids who have told horror stories. In several cases, the children have had to be institutionalized. It's really sad.

i can certainly understand this mother's frustration, fear, and feeling of hopelessness. i've been there with DS, believe me. I understand her feeling like she couldn't parent this child. I understand her wanting to "give him back". I do NOT understand how she could think it was ok to send him on a plane by himself to a foriegn country, with no pre-arranged conclusion other than that they "paid someone to meet him at the airport". Sorry, but that's child abandonment, plain and simple. It's wrong, wrong, wrong, not to mention illegal. She should have worked with her agency, or her local social services department, to find a new placement for him if she truly felt she couldn't keep him. My beef isn't with the fact that she chose to disrupt the adoption, but rather with HOW she did it.

Not as much as I should be. I have my entire outline done and a couple of chapters. That is another thing I need to get back to. I love to write and I have lots of stories in my head I need to get on to paper.

PEPPER!!!!!! Oooh, when you are a famous author, I can say I "knew you when"!!!

If you all liked her, I bet I would have too.

 

[lilmissdisney216]

Morning my fellow TK'ers. So excited to go to the Drive In tonight with darling fiance. Its our 2 year on Wednesday but we're going to celebrate early.

 

[Pikester]

Not speaking in code. We had actual snowflakes coming from the sky! When I saw a couple I thought maybe they were just fuzzies from the tree but then they it started to come down faster and I realized it was snow. Thank goodness it didn't last long.


LMD: Congrats on your 2 year!

 

[Pikester]

Well, I'm a little cranky. Just found out that the release date for the Passporter's Disney Cruise Line 2010 has been pushed back to May. When I preordered the release date was in April but they are trying to get some new inforamation about the Disney Dream updated in the book before they send it out to us.

I want it NOW!

 

[MagiKitty]

aw, Pike, sorry to hear about the delay. Maybe the new info is gong to be really really good! I love the travel books too.

 

[DL55]

What a serious bunch last night. Sometimes I've wanted to send my DD off to somewhere. I've read about RAD. What a terrible condition for everyone.

It was weird to actually get normal email. Usually it's just from my cousin and newsletters.

 

[Pikester]

There is going to be a second Adult only restaurant on the Disney Dream.

 

[Pikester]

DL and I posted at the exact same time!