TKers...8 is NOT enough!

[JOCAmom]

Good morning!

Livvie starts school today. 1st grade. Where did my baby go? Tomorrow, all the other kids go back too. I'm looking forward to some peace and quiet but it sure is going to feel weird not having any of them here all day.

LITC, you totally summed up my feelings on family.

I'll post my costume choice later.

I'll be back in a little after Liv is off on the bus.

 

[MagiKitty]

Good morning! Happy first day of school Livvie! I can't believe she's in first grade either!

JO--I like the goddess costume best. Heck, I'd wear that as a regular outfit and not just as a costume! Its so pretty! It would look so good on you.

I didn't sleep well last night, kept having thoughts of the family situation. What can I do? Just move on and at least now the worst is over. I'm getting my nails done today and have to fill the car up with gas, and just prepare for my getaway! Quincy and Edward have confirmed their flight details and I think we have an idea of what we'll do.

I found something on a state park they call the "Grand Canyon of the East"---now I know it won't nearly be as spectacular as the real thing, but it does have a recommended winery nearby...and we have plans to go to the Strong Children's Museum. They have some great exhibits on superheroes and dolls, as well as the Toy Hall of Fame. Who knew they had such a thing?

Thanks you, dear friends, for being here for me and giving me a shoulder to lean on. Again, I'm sad that so many of us have similar situations on the family front, but all the more reason to appreciate the others in our lives....hugs!

 

[Pikester]

Morning.

JO: Time sure does fly! I can't believe that my babies are in 4th and 7th grade. I hope Livvie has a good day and tell her that we want to know how it went.

Oh yeah, I like the first costume the best.

Magi: I am so sorry to hear about your nephew. Sometimes you just want to give relatives the McFly. {Knocking on nephew's head} "Hello, McFly!"

Go and have a great time on your trip!

So I was on DH's FB page and he is now friends with his sister. She was up because of their Dads passing and while here lots of pictures were taken which DH put on his FB page and then shared with his sister. She posted how great the pics were and then she posted that she talked to their Mom and are talking about having Mom come to visit her in FL over Thanksgiving. I'm not really sure how I feel about that. We've spent the last 6 yrs or so having Thanksgiving with my in-laws and it would feel weird not having it. It's going to feel weird enough not having FIL around but now MIL might not be here either. My in-laws use to go to FL for the winter so there were many years that we didn't have TG with them and there were a few yrs that the in-laws had TG with my SIL once her family moved to FL from IL. I guess what will be, will be.

 

[MagiKitty]

Pike, how does DH feel about it? I agree, with the recent loss of your FIL, it will be a difficult holiday time and if your MIL is in Florida, the loss will be that much more acute. But it also may be easier for MIL to spend such a special time away from home...you're right, however it goes, it was meant to be.

I watched a lot of the kiddies walking up/down my hill on the way to school. Elementary goes down the hill, middle/high school go up the hill. Its a gorgeous day for it too...new backpacks, new teachers, a new school year. Its so cute!

 

[JOCAmom]

MK, I've decided just to put what is going on behind me. Someday, I'll revisit it but for now, I just want to live my life without feeling bad about everything. My door is open but I'm done pounding on his.

Pikester, I can see how having MIL in FL would be so hard for you, DH and the boys. Though she may be feeling that she wants to escape from the memories, you all may want to be there for the memories. Such a hard situation. It doesn't sound like it's a set deal yet and maybe you all can make a compromise about where she will spend the holidays.

 

[D&DDisney]

One week from today we'll be on our way to visit family. Oh boy

for the trip part. for the family part. Take along a few bottles of adult juice and "Just smile and wave boys. Smile and wave."

D...thank you so much. I just don't understand. My nephew did come over, but I was out. Actually, I was sitting in the grocery store parking lot crying on the phone to BF. I just don't know why things are like this sometimes. I think we've talked about it before--I've never gotten that feeling from anyone (aside from my mother) that I really mean something to them, outside of obligation. My grandparents, aunts, cousins, anyone. It makes me feel self-conscious--what's wrong with me? Why doesn't anyone appreciate me?

BF was sweet and just said that we'd just have to make our own family (happiness level---HIGH!) but it almost makes me scared that sometime down the road he may also not want me in his life. I try to be a good person, but it can really mess with your head when you just have such obstacles.

On the other hand, I thank God that I have so much going to for me and for all my other blessings. While I would love to have family who was close and loving, its not the cards I was dealt. But I'll never let my own kids feel like they're second rate family.
Hugs to my family here. I really appreciate each of you for being a part of my life willingly and sharing your lives with me.

Oh Kitty. I know how hard it must hurt. I'm tearing up just thinking about it. It will be his loss.
I hate feeling like I'm the "second choice" for some people. That really stings. Makes you wonder what the heck is wrong with you. But really, we should be asking "What's wrong with them?"

I heard from my dad. He pretty much told me that he always goes to the fair on the day that it was our picnic. So not only do I rank under his new family but fair is more important than us.

We've decided to have a Halloween costume party here next month. Jackie is all out for this one and has already requested a fog machine for the party. Now I just have to come up with a costume.

Sounds like so much fun and I think either of those costumes would look good on you.
I have never been good at costumes but this year I so feel like finding the "witchiest" one and then run around casting evil spells on some people.

Livvie is standing here being nosy and she wants me to tell you that she got a Hello Kitty lunchbox for school this year.

Have a great day at school Liv!

Morning.

JO: Time sure does fly! I can't believe that my babies are in 4th and 7th grade. I hope Livvie has a good day and tell her that we want to know how it went.

Oh yeah, I like the first costume the best.

Magi: I am so sorry to hear about your nephew. Sometimes you just want to give relatives the McFly. {Knocking on nephew's head} "Hello, McFly!"

Go and have a great time on your trip!

So I was on DH's FB page and he is now friends with his sister. She was up because of their Dads passing and while here lots of pictures were taken which DH put on his FB page and then shared with his sister. She posted how great the pics were and then she posted that she talked to their Mom and are talking about having Mom come to visit her in FL over Thanksgiving. I'm not really sure how I feel about that. We've spent the last 6 yrs or so having Thanksgiving with my in-laws and it would feel weird not having it. It's going to feel weird enough not having FIL around but now MIL might not be here either. My in-laws use to go to FL for the winter so there were many years that we didn't have TG with them and there were a few yrs that the in-laws had TG with my SIL once her family moved to FL from IL. I guess what will be, will be.

Love the joke and on TG. I hope MILdecides to stay with you all but if she doesn't don't take it too personally. It may be what she feels she needs to do.

Maybe we should all go be with Marie in DW for TG??? Now that would be fun.

 

[D&DDisney]

VERY

here today. Expecting wind of up to 50mph. Yikes!


We had a nice Labor Day. DH and I went to the Parade Of Homes show which is basically a bunch of newly built homes on display to walk through and get building or decorating (in our case) ideas. Kids spent the day w/ grandma and DH and I had a nice quiet day together getting ideas for fixing up our house.

Today was the day that being unemployed really hit me. I had to fill out new emergency forms for the kids and on the line where it asked for mother's occupation and work # I had to leave it blank. First time in years I am not working and it makes me feel a little sad because I miss it so.

 

[mariezp]

Maybe we should all go be with Marie in DW for TG??? Now that would be fun.

I heard that! I'd be happy to have you all come join me BUT if you head to DW you are going to miss me! We will be in Disneyland so ya'll will all have to head out west. Only 63 days til our trip!

What little time I've been getting on the computer, when it works, is usually devoted to keeping up with the November DL thread. Gotta stay in touch with things you know! Anyway, I 've been keeping up with you all when I actually do get a e-mail update. Been missing everybody. Sounds like there has been a rash of bad behavior on the parts of a lot of family members. It's a shame you can't trade em in for a new batch but unfortunately we don't get to pick them so most of us are stuck with what we got. There are many times that I am glad I have a very small family! Anyway, hugs to all of you whose family trees are filled with morons who do not appreciate you!

My son got his purple belt Saturday! He is halfway to his blackbelt now. Dove season is in full swing so the guys have been gone nearly every evening so DD and I have been getting in some quality mother/daughter time. We have some storms moving in today so will batten down the hatches and see what the winds blow in.... or down.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day! God bless you all!

 

[D&DDisney]

I heard that! I'd be happy to have you all come join me BUT if you head to DW you are going to miss me! We will be in Disneyland so ya'll will all have to head out west. Only 63 days til our trip!

What little time I've been getting on the computer, when it works, is usually devoted to keeping up with the November DL thread. Gotta stay in touch with things you know! Anyway, I 've been keeping up with you all when I actually do get a e-mail update. Been missing everybody. Sounds like there has been a rash of bad behavior on the parts of a lot of family members. It's a shame you can't trade em in for a new batch but unfortunately we don't get to pick them so most of us are stuck with what we got. There are many times that I am glad I have a very small family! Anyway, hugs to all of you whose family trees are filled with morons who do not appreciate you!

My son got his purple belt Saturday! He is halfway to his blackbelt now. Dove season is in full swing so the guys have been gone nearly every evening so DD and I have been getting in some quality mother/daughter time. We have some storms moving in today so will batten down the hatches and see what the winds blow in.... or down.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day! God bless you all!

I knew it was DL but typed DW by mistake. Duh!

Stay safe today Marie. I hear you're getting quite a bit of rain too.
Congrats to your son on his purple belt.

 

[DL55]

Sangria sounds good. I'm having a margarita right not. And Curt grilled up some fish for dinner tonight. All I had to do was heat up the leftover rice and beans from the other day and the corn on the cob.

I heard from my dad. He pretty much told me that he always goes to the fair on the day that it was our picnic. So not only do I rank under his new family but fair is more important than us.

My mom put volunteering in a classroom full of non related children over visiting me. She has never visited since we moved to NM (12 yrs).

I heard that! I'd be happy to have you all come join me BUT if you head to DW you are going to miss me! We will be in Disneyland so ya'll will all have to head out west. Only 63 days til our trip!

What little time I've been getting on the computer, when it works, is usually devoted to keeping up with the November DL thread. Gotta stay in touch with things you know! Anyway, I 've been keeping up with you all when I actually do get a e-mail update. Been missing everybody. Sounds like there has been a rash of bad behavior on the parts of a lot of family members. It's a shame you can't trade em in for a new batch but unfortunately we don't get to pick them so most of us are stuck with what we got. There are many times that I am glad I have a very small family! Anyway, hugs to all of you whose family trees are filled with morons who do not appreciate you!

My son got his purple belt Saturday! He is halfway to his blackbelt now. Dove season is in full swing so the guys have been gone nearly every evening so DD and I have been getting in some quality mother/daughter time. We have some storms moving in today so will batten down the hatches and see what the winds blow in.... or down.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day! God bless you all!

I'm already going to WDW in 2011 but I can plan for a TG trip in 2014.

 

[JOCAmom]

Evening Ladies! Livvie had a wonderful first day of school. She was practically bouncing off the bus this afternoon to tell me about it. She got to eat lunch in the cafeteria and she complained it was loud. She does have a big binder she has to carry this year. Not sure how I feel about it yet especially once she gets library books to bring home. But on the other hand, she is learning organization skills for higher grades.

DL55, If I ever make it out West, I am going to visit you. I hope you're ready.

Marie, if I can make it to Texas, can I hide in a suitcase? Please, please??? My brother's wife wants me to host T-day dinner. But she did volunteer to take Christmas this year. Should be interesting. And congrats to DS. What a great accomplishment.

D&D, did you send the wind here? I tried to sit outside this afternoon to start my grocery list and all my papers blew away.

 

[Pikester]

Evening!

JO and D&D: I talked to MIL this evening and she brought up TG. She wants to get her vacation days used up before she loses them and typically the weather is pretty good that time of year so when flying to FL she won't have to worry about storms then. I'll really miss her but DH says he'd rather give up TG then Christmas.

marie: I would love to go to DL for TG with you! Oh well, maybe someday.

DL: You are such a planner! All ready thinking of 2014. Shhhhh...me too! Hoping to do WDW with DH for our 20yr anniversary.

 

[JOCAmom]

Pikester, your DH has a very good point. I think I agree with him. How have you spent Christmas in the past?

 

[BKMETV]

Evening all:

I love Grease and even its lesser sister Grease 2. Didn't I tell you this before? For my kindergarten graduation, I sang "Hopelessly Devoted to You"---seems creepy now, but at the time I was really cool...I'm a huge Olivia fan!

Kindergarten???? Thanks for making me feel old!!

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I'd like to share the joke that my DH told that had the crowd laughing and that is totally what FIL wanted.

A man was walking back home when he noticed a most unusual funeral procession approaching the nearby cemetery.

A long black hearse was followed by a second long black hearse about 50 feet behind. Behind the second hearse was a solitary man walking with a dog. Behind that were 200 men walking in a single file.

He respectfully approached the man walking with the dog and said, "I am so sorry for your loss, and I know now is a bad time to disturb you, but I've never seen a funeral procession like this. Whose funeral is it?"

The man replied, "Well, that first hearse is for my wife. My dog attacked and killed her."

He inquired further, "Well, who is in the second hearse?"

The man answered, "My mother-in-law. She was trying to help my wife when the dog turned on her."

After a moment of silence he asked, "Can I borrow the dog?"

The man with the dog replied,

"Get in line."

RIP FIL. You were the best FIL that a DIL could ever have.

Love it what a wonderful story!!

D...thank you so much. I just don't understand. My nephew did come over, but I was out. Actually, I was sitting in the grocery store parking lot crying on the phone to BF. I just don't know why things are like this sometimes. I think we've talked about it before--I've never gotten that feeling from anyone (aside from my mother) that I really mean something to them, outside of obligation. My grandparents, aunts, cousins, anyone. It makes me feel self-conscious--what's wrong with me? Why doesn't anyone appreciate me?

BF was sweet and just said that we'd just have to make our own family (happiness level---HIGH!) but it almost makes me scared that sometime down the road he may also not want me in his life. I try to be a good person, but it can really mess with your head when you just have such obstacles.

On the other hand, I thank God that I have so much going to for me and for all my other blessings. While I would love to have family who was close and loving, its not the cards I was dealt. But I'll never let my own kids feel like they're second rate family.

Hugs to my family here. I really appreciate each of you for being a part of my life willingly and sharing your lives with me.

I'll adopt you anytime.

I found something on a state park they call the "Grand Canyon of the East"---now I know it won't nearly be as spectacular as the real thing, but it does have a recommended winery nearby...and we have plans to go to the Strong Children's Museum. They have some great exhibits on superheroes and dolls, as well as the Toy Hall of Fame. Who knew they had such a thing?

who needs a whole in the ground when there's WINE!!!!

 

[Pikester]

Pikester, your DH has a very good point. I think I agree with him. How have you spent Christmas in the past?

Yes. Since FIL health was failing we always did Easter, 4th of July, TG and Christmas with them. My parents come over in the late morning/early afternoon on Christmas Day for gifts and then we do dinner with my in-laws.

In the early years of our marriage we did Easter, TG and Christmas with my parents because the in-laws were in FL but over the last 6yrs or so they stopped going due to FIL's health. We kept telling ourselves that this could be his last year so we wanted to do the holidays with him.

 

[JOCAmom]

I know it's early but have you thought about how would do Christmas this year?

 

[Pikester]

I know it's early but have you thought about how would do Christmas this year?

Not sure I guess.

 

[Pikester]

Have a good night!

 

[MagiKitty]

Hugs Ev...thanks for offering to adopt me! I'll be a Canadian!

Pike, the travelling while winter thing is absolutely something to consider. I'd like to plan an early December trip to Disney, but with the way the winters have been, I'd be lucky to get out of my driveway, let alone to the airport!

JO--how wonderful to see your little one loving school! I do agree about developing skills, but kids have so much to carry these days! I see them walking around, the backpacks easily as heavy as they are, poor dears!

I'm not a huge fan of California, but I"m more than willing to give Disneyland a try!

 

[JOCAmom]

Night Pikester!

MK, how are you doing tonight?