This thread (even if it was an old one to start) has had me glued to my computer.
Now, however, I am not feeling very "normal". I actually have no problem with neighborhood kids ringing the doorbell and selling stuff. I just make my decision on whether or not to buy based on a few things. First off, if I can actually afford the product. Second, is it a legit fundraiser (at least, I hope I know the difference) and third, will one of my niece's be selling the same thing? (I always buy from them first.) Of course, I live in a small community, I am certain I would feel different if I lived in a city where this became a nightly or even a weekly thing.
I was a GS troop leader for years with my oldest daughter. We never went door to door to sell cookies and she was the top seller in our troop every year she sold. Honestly, GS cookies just sell themselves around here. I would have people contact me at the beginning of the school year asking me to remind them when cookie sales were. We did a lot of "fun" things with the money our troop made, but we balanced it with community service and we also didn't charge any dues to our Scouts. If the girls were making money from their cookie sales, then there was no sense in charging the (very modest, at least around here) dues other troops charged. Our troop was very diverse, we had some kids who went to private school and their parents clearly were well off, others who qualified for state assistance. We tried to make it easy for any child who wanted to join. We also did not require cookie sales, but every girl ended up always contributing. Until this thread, I had no idea some groups required sales/donations. I feel so naive.
I have no problem with the funds being used for "personal stuff" as it's just the way it has always been. Heck, a few years ago our neighbors daughter walked around our neighborhood selling candy that she had bought herself and was selling for a slight profit...to make money to buy something that she wanted. She told us why she was selling...and, yes, I bought some candy! I thought it was quite smart of her at the young age of 8 or 9 to purchase something and sell it at a mark-up...to me that was just being an "entrepreneur".
I won't, however, support the Boy Scouts. I have 2 daughters, so no conflict on the "to be a Boy Scout or Not" topic. But, I do make the decision to not give them my money. I don't support their policies...I don't feel I need to feel guilty about not supporting them. There are other organizations I feel the same way about, it's just a personal decision. I am not going to be rude if a child comes to my door and asks me to buy popcorn, a simple "No thank you" and that is that. Now, if it were an adult selling (as I have seen at local town events...adults selling...kids nowhere to be seen.) I will mention why I don't support the Boy Scouts (as polite as possible) just because I believe maybe someday policies will change to include everyone. Again, I would never tell a child this...although I think the older scouts do need to be taught how to handle it if others do tell them why they aren't buying.
My best friend's son is a Boy Scout. He also plays baseball and is on the wrestling team. I will buy anything (whether I need it or not) from him when it comes to him making money for baseball or wresting. However, I don't even buy the popcorn from him. She respects my decision and it's never once been an issue between us.
I just feel bad for the boys...because of the policies of the organization, it is going to get harder and harder for them to have successful fundraisers. I believe it was last week that they took another big hit in the news when the organization kicked out a gay teen who had just completed his project for his Eagle Scout status. Again, I may be naive, I just wish these organizations would actually put the kids first.