Sitting here listening to my co-worker vent about her live-in boyfriends family. I see things differently and think she is making a mountain outta a mole hill.
She's divorced with 3 kids - 23, 22, and 20. All three live on their own. Two are living with their boy/girl friend and the 3rd one is newly dating a girl. The live in girl friend has custody of her son from previous relationship. So "her family" count is 7.
He's divorced with 2 kids - 10 and 8. They live with mom, but visit every other week, this weekend being a weekend with dad. "His family" count is 2.
His mom called last night and asked if the two of them and his kids wanted to come over Sat for a cookout. Said the meat market they go to had a really good price on some steaks and they grabbed a couple extra.
She's ticked and said she's not going, because once again, her family is not being invited. Her stance is, if you invite her, you need to include her family, not just his kids.
My thought is, his family was inviting those that live within the household that is their sons - ie his partner and his kids. Her kids are grown adults that live on their own and would not be included in a dinner invite. There's a big difference between 3 ADULT (plus their dates and extras) children living on their own and 2 YOUNG children living with a parent.
One of the other ladies pointed out that they had a couple of extra steaks and thought it would be nice to have you guys over. Her responce is, they should have gotten enough steaks to feed all of them if they were going to invite them over.
I just don't get it. Why do his parents need to have your kids over when they don't even live with you. The one kid was invited over several times last summer - when he lived with them, but now that he's out living on his own he didn't. They are just having you guys over for a dinner cooked out on the grill. It's not some big get together. It's just them 2 and you 4.
And the other shoe, she has her kids over all the time for dinner and/or cookouts, but doesn't ever invite his parents or sibilings and their families over.
She's divorced with 3 kids - 23, 22, and 20. All three live on their own. Two are living with their boy/girl friend and the 3rd one is newly dating a girl. The live in girl friend has custody of her son from previous relationship. So "her family" count is 7.
He's divorced with 2 kids - 10 and 8. They live with mom, but visit every other week, this weekend being a weekend with dad. "His family" count is 2.
His mom called last night and asked if the two of them and his kids wanted to come over Sat for a cookout. Said the meat market they go to had a really good price on some steaks and they grabbed a couple extra.
She's ticked and said she's not going, because once again, her family is not being invited. Her stance is, if you invite her, you need to include her family, not just his kids.
My thought is, his family was inviting those that live within the household that is their sons - ie his partner and his kids. Her kids are grown adults that live on their own and would not be included in a dinner invite. There's a big difference between 3 ADULT (plus their dates and extras) children living on their own and 2 YOUNG children living with a parent.
One of the other ladies pointed out that they had a couple of extra steaks and thought it would be nice to have you guys over. Her responce is, they should have gotten enough steaks to feed all of them if they were going to invite them over.
I just don't get it. Why do his parents need to have your kids over when they don't even live with you. The one kid was invited over several times last summer - when he lived with them, but now that he's out living on his own he didn't. They are just having you guys over for a dinner cooked out on the grill. It's not some big get together. It's just them 2 and you 4.
And the other shoe, she has her kids over all the time for dinner and/or cookouts, but doesn't ever invite his parents or sibilings and their families over.