OK, male type ramble here...Why, oh why, do you women folk make yourselves so uncomfortable just to do something that you perceive to look good. You do realize that men will accept you regardless of your appearance don't you?
Yes, I know the fashion people have drilled it into your heads that if you don't wear a thong (can't have those panty lines) or heals (must have nice looking calves) or push up bra's (can't have the girls not at attention) you will not be attractive to men (or women, sorry didn't mean to be inclusive there) and will die a lonely old woman surrounded by a hundred cats.
Trust me when I tell you the only place a man wants to see underwear, shoes or bra's is on the floor. (if you get my drift) Frankly they don't care what kind they are at that point or previous to that, for that matter.
My point...life is short, don't be uncomfortable all through it, just for vanity.