This old lady at Ikea went off on my kid today.

[Scurvy]

Even though I don't really think she should have said anything, I bet the lady thought she was helping. And with most kids, that sort of thing does usually help - maybe it's just the shock of having a stranger correct them, but I've seen that sort of thing work before. Everyone I've seen do that has been older, though. But when I've seen people do that, they have seemed to be trying to place themselves on the mom's side. She probably saw you trying to get your daughter to stop and when your daughter didn't listen she thought she could help remind her that you were in charge. She probably just thought you were frustrated and wanted to help.

 

[brockash]

I can't understand why you didn't just take the wrapping paper away from your kid? One time ignoring my mother's command would have been enough to get me a swat on the butt with the wrapping paper.

Of course, parenting styles vary.

I'm wondering if we can expect a new "Old person was mean to my kid" thread each week? It's a national epidemic!

Sounds to me like you need to stop making excuses for your Dd and try a different approach. If she is not listening to you at this age then whatever you are doing right now is not working. I am glad the other ladies spoke up...sounds like someone needed to.

I don't think the point of OP's thread was about her dd, or asking how she can "better" parent her child. OP clearly stated that she knew her dd was in the wrong, and has even told us how she disciplined her dd, however I think the point to the thread was the fact that someone who doesn't know OP or her dd, decided they needed to start a confrontation with her 6 year old dd.

Personally, yes I wouldv'e taken the wrapping paper away as well, but I don't think that's the point of this thread. OP wasn't asking was my dd wrong ect.?

 

[marlynnp]

And why when your daughter decides not to listen, do you not do anything else? Who's the boss? Why is that acceptable?
You should have taken the roll of paper away from her after she didn't stop the first time you told her.

 

[luvsJack]

She definitely wasn't the picture of sweet ol' grandma. lol

If you're southern and was raised a little blue-collar like I was, then you'll know the type of grandmother she probably is. She's Me-Maw, wearin' her very oval glasses, bible in one hand, switch or cast iron cornbread pan in the other. Y'all know the type.

Yep, know her well.

 

[ogreenlee]

Even though I don't really think she should have said anything, I bet the lady thought she was helping. And with most kids, that sort of thing does usually help - maybe it's just the shock of having a stranger correct them, but I've seen that sort of thing work before. Everyone I've seen do that has been older, though. But when I've seen people do that, they have seemed to be trying to place themselves on the mom's side. She probably saw you trying to get your daughter to stop and when your daughter didn't listen she thought she could help remind her that you were in charge. She probably just thought you were frustrated and wanted to help.

I'm certain she thought she was trying to help. I just didn't care for her approach.


Mum2Jenn.. you don't know me or my kid to make that judgment.

 

[Nolcrest]

I can't understand why you didn't just take the wrapping paper away from your kid?

I was thinking the same exact thing. I don't feel the ladies should have inteferred with your parenting however I wouldn't ask my child several times. After the first time I would have removed the wrapping paper - end of story.

 

[marlynnp]

I don't think the point of OP's thread was about her dd, or asking how she can "better" parent her child. OP clearly stated that she knew her dd was in the wrong, and has even told us how she disciplined her dd, however I think the point to the thread was the fact that someone who doesn't know OP or her dd, decided they needed to start a confrontation with her 6 year old dd.

Personally, yes I wouldv'e taken the wrapping paper away as well, but I don't think that's the point of this thread. OP wasn't asking was my dd wrong ect.?

I must have missed that part. Could you tell me how she disciplined her DD? Because telling a kid to stop doing something and then letting them decide to ignore you and continue doing something is NOT discipline.

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

I think she was just trying to help. It wouldn't have bothered me...but I probably would have left the line to get my daughter or given a warning (Put the paper down and walk to me, or you will lose....).

 

[ogreenlee]

i did remove the wrapping paper. i explained above.


seriously, all this happened in about a minute's time. my kid was walking towards me throwing the wrapping paper like a baton. i'm certain we've ALL done that as kids in the aisles of Roses or Kmart.

i was asking her to stop as she was walking towards me, afraid that she'd accidentally hit someone. when she got to me, the lady started in, and i took the paper. it all happened so fast, which is why i said in my initial post that i was stunned.

 

[luvmy3]

Am I the only one who has no idea what a switch is?

OP, I would be in shock as well that someone would do that too. I would have taken that roll of wrap out of my child's hand at the moment they were even thinking of tossing it, but I don't care how your parenting style differs from mine, I don't have the right to parent your child, especially if I'm just standing behind you in a store. That woman had no right, its not like your dd was poking her purse and asking her her name

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Feisty at 6 is a whole other ballgame at 16, better keep that old lady around.

 

[ogreenlee]

I must have missed that part. Could you tell me how she disciplined her DD? Because telling a kid to stop doing something and then letting them decide to ignore you and continue doing something is NOT discipline.

Umm.. I'm right here.


I explained, but really... is it any of your business how I discipline my child?


What do you want to hear? That I kicked her azz, seabass?

 

[brockash]

I must have missed that part. Could you tell me how she disciplined her DD? Because telling a kid to stop doing something and then letting them decide to ignore you and continue doing something is NOT discipline.

Do people really use switches? And I would have left, but I was picking up something for a friend out of state that I'll be seeing soon, and I couldn't leave what I was there for. I mean, Ikea isn't that far from me, but if you've been to one, you know they can be a hassle.

I'm all about leaving a store with a full cart, though, and she knows that it's going to be worse if I have to do that. I just couldn't do that today.

She did get punished severely as I gave a verbal buttwhoopin' all the way home, and then proceeded to take everything away from her as soon as we walked in the door. Also, she was so excited about being out of school this week, b/c her favorite thing to do is stay up late, and I made her go to bed as soon as we ate dinner, an hour and a half earlier than when she goes to school. I told her this was what she had to do for the rest of the week, as well.

Right here, and again, I don't see it as the point of the thread.

 

[ogreenlee]

Am I the only one who has no idea what a switch is?

OP, I would be in shock as well that someone would do that too. I would have taken that roll of wrap out of my child's hand at the moment they were even thinking of tossing it, but I don't care how your parenting style differs from mine, I don't have the right to parent your child, especially if I'm just standing behind you in a store. That woman had no right, its not like your dd was poking her purse and asking her her name

That's definitely not my kid.

My kid is happy-go-lucky, but has a problem with authority. Everyone thinks they have the answers, but I double dog dare ya to figure it out. I'm sorry that I don't beat the hell out of my kid. She has gotten some swats across her fanny, though, but the way some of y'all are high-steppin' tells me that you think you could fix her.

 

[AshleyW]

Am I the only one who has no idea what a switch is?

OP, I would be in shock as well that someone would do that too. I would have taken that roll of wrap out of my child's hand at the moment they were even thinking of tossing it, but I don't care how your parenting style differs from mine, I don't have the right to parent your child, especially if I'm just standing behind you in a store. That woman had no right, its not like your dd was poking her purse and asking her her name

A switch is a long, skinny, green branch off a tree. It was kind of like a whip when you got hit with one.

 

[ogreenlee]

A switch is a long, skinny, green branch off a tree. It was kind of like a whip when you got hit with one.

My aunt used to buy these leather straps at the flea market that were made just for whoopin' tail. I hated staying at her house.

 

[marlynnp]

Umm.. I'm right here.


I explained, but really... is it any of your business how I discipline my child?


What do you want to hear? That I kicked her azz, seabass?

Well, next time you might want to include that bit in your opening post.

There was no consequence to her ignoring you (other than the older woman scolding her) in your original post. Sorry, my mind reading skills are a little rusty and I was reading and then posting when you decided to elaborate.

 

[MinnieTink]

Nope I didn't know what the heck a switch was either.. Although I think a PP said it was a kind of stick that you swat a kid with??

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

I can't understand why you didn't just take the wrapping paper away from your kid? One time ignoring my mother's command would have been enough to get me a swat on the butt with the wrapping paper.

Of course, parenting styles vary.

I'm wondering if we can expect a new "Old person was mean to my kid" thread each week? It's a national epidemic!

Seems like every week there is a thread like this.

I have to be honest it's about time some kids were controlled when they are out in public.
If kids have manners these threads wouldn't be started weekly.
I do believe in the golden rule "respect your elders".

 

[luvmy3]

That's definitely not my kid.

My kid is happy-go-lucky, but has a problem with authority. Everyone thinks they have the answers, but I double dog dare ya to figure it out. I'm sorry that I don't beat the hell out of my kid. She has gotten some swats across her fanny, though, but the way some of y'all are high-steppin' tells me that you think you could fix her.

Thats my youngest, he has third child syndrome

A switch is a long, skinny, green branch off a tree. It was kind of like a whip when you got hit with one.

I see, I never got the switch but I did get the belt